Am I really boasting or do they just envy me?
May 20, 2011 9:00am CST
I just got back and we had this exam. I've got to admit, I think I did pretty well. I feel confident that I will reach my desired grade. So here's the situation... my friends and I are at the same class and we can't help but compare the results we have. So far I have the highest score that'll complete the grade and I can really feel my friend's vibes, that they keep thinking that I am actually boasting about it. I don't think that I am actually boasting. Well, what do they expect me to say? I did my best with those nerve- wrecking exams. And if I say that I didn't study for it at all, it will only make me REALLY boasting. But, saying that I did study for it and received a fair result makes me feel very happy. I don't know what's up with them that they keep on making it sound like a joke about the whole situation. They keep on making the faces... you know.. The face that makes a person feel awkward? It's really bothersome. As much as possible I don't talk about it, and whenever I say something that is somewhat related... they'll make the face and express that I am being boastful about it. Sometimes, I think it's better to just keep quiet even if I won;t be able to join in with the conversation/discussion of the group.
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20 May 11
I think they just envy you. So next time you'll be having an exam, just be quiet for your score. Or maybe, keep boasting. They'll end up envying you more. Sometimes it makes you feel bad if you're not really doing the thing they're accusing you of doing. So, if you can't beat them, join them. Make your score super high next time.
20 May 11
reading your post I don't think that you did any boating at all but I guess those are not your really close friends so just ditch them, people like that are not worth keeping around...you did your best, and you have the right to feel good about it... they are just envious of your score, or if not, if they are your close friends maybe they are just making fun of you, but that is very unlikely though basing on your post...
• United States
21 Oct 11
Well technically it is not really boasting. However, I can see how someone would be rather agitated with hearing that someone got a good grade. Especially when their grade was not as sound, it was not as good. It is just the way that situation tends to go a lot of the time. There are just many people who don't like having talking about grades to begin with and while you might not be boasting, it can come across that way to some people. Among my group of friends, there was a rule that we would never, ever talk about any grades we received. It was a taboo subject. There were some areas in school that we did do rather well in. Then there were other areas of school that we did not do so well in. However, it was not something that we were going to talk about all that often. There would be no hurt feelings and no agony that way. At least that was the idea. So yeah not boasting but it can rub people the wrong way.
15 Oct 11
With this situation, I can really think that it's very normal to all of you to act like this. In fact, I, too, been there with you as a student with lots of energy to be the number one in class. Not only in examinations but also in class recitation and debate. In class, we are competing for the highest slot, and we are trying hard to be at the top. We regard this competition as a positive effect of our education. In your case, they are making fun of you - as what you told us. So, it means that they are envy for your examination result, and they don't believe on you for your rating. All I can say is do study harder to show them that you are for what you are when it comes to class standing. But, be friendly with them and don't give a hint that you are angry or not satisfy with their friendship. This is the time that you have to motivate yourself to be the best in everything you do, not only inside the classroom, but also in making friendship. I know you can it my girl.
22 May 11
tecchigurl, those friends of yours somehow have a particular standard that you might see in most cases with other groups of friends. Of course they are your classmates and friends, but when it comes to academics, your good performance over their's is quite intimidating at times. We can't deny envy on that, yet they should handle that in a good way so that they won't seem too obvious. If you don't really feel comfortable with such friends, perhaps you should roam around and perhaps you would find some who wouldn't let you feel awkward like what those 'friends' you mentioned do.
21 May 11
If I'm at your situation.I got the highest grade, I will just keep my mouth shut. I don't mean that you are boastful but you have to be sensitive to the situation. I will not open up a topic about that exam especially if some of my friends got a failing grade. I will just start new topic or conversation. I will just wait for them to open that topic about exam and wait for them to praise me and if they did I will just give them a smile. You friends will sure like you for that. I really feel my friends if they had a low grades. I don't want them to feel down. Well, that's it. ^_^
21 May 11
What you are talking about is always a trouble to excellent students.I am not a student as good as you are,but I can understand your feeling.Don't blame yourself for your good work.Make friends with someone who are really proud of you and not envying you. To coin a phrase, go your own way, let others talk.
• United States
21 May 11
I'd not worry about what they think and get some new homies. If they can't be proud of you because you did your best... F them. And if they want to get jealous.. that should make you feel better all the while.. Sometimes.. and I mean ONLY sometimes.. you can be quite confident in your abilities without seeming arrogant. So just try to find the medium : )Ps - It's none of their business what your scores are.. You did your best and you're happy... so don't let some people you won't even know 20 years from now bring that down.
20 May 11
as they say, friends are like a mirror... i believe that in your situation, it is better to really open up with them so they may know that you were hurt by the way they act, i think you have the right to ask your friends how they feel about the recent situation, and why do they make faces at you, because if they do really care about you, i believe that they would open up and explain.. there may be some misunderstanding that both sides were not able to clarify.. i suggest this because, i went through the same experience but in a different situation.. if you don't do something about it, the gap between you and your friends may grow bigger and this will cause problem that may lead to a fight.. hope you won't see that i am exaggerating but i do care about friendship, and i do hope everything will go well with you guys.. reality in my opinion is that it may seem to you that you are not boasting but your friends see that you do.. envying a friends achievement may seem normal to some but acting awkward towards you, made it look so bad.. i'd better have friends who would fight with me just because they see that i do bad things and they want to correct me than having friends who always agree with me even if i do evil..
20 May 11
Maybe they felt they you are boasting it in a way that you really don't mean to. I know you worked hard for your exams and you deserve to be praise since you got the highest score. However, in your situation, I don't have any clue why they acted that way. I can't assume right away that they are envy. You better ask them straight since they are your friends after all. Real friends won't be envy of their friends if their friends just got a higher score than them, they should be proud instead. You must have done something that makes them react that way, try to communicate with them to settle things out.
20 May 11
I don't think you're boasting or anything. If you really think you did well, then saying it is just being honest, especially if your friends asked you about it. Maybe they're envious, and it would be understandable. Sometimes you just can't help it. If it really is an issue, maybe you shouldn't bring up the subject and just wait for your friends to talk about it first. If it still doesn't go well, you can try to change the subect, then they will have no reason to think you're boasting. I hope this helps ;)
20 May 11
There is a saying that we cannot please every body. Only you knows the truth and you don't need to tell them all the details what is happening. If they don't believe on the first attempt well leave them thinking. If you know that you are deserving to the grades you got then happy expressions can be seen inside and out of yourself. But the best action you need to do is to keep quite. I think you are being misinterpret by them according to your act. Try to have a humble act. I am not saying that you are like what you are said but this is the only thing i think is the best . Let them know the truth by themselves. Then they realized that you really are not boastful.(don't be hurt friend)