Abortion!

Philippines
May 20, 2011 10:52pm CST
Yesterday, my best friend called me cause she wanted to meet us up cause she wanna tell me something very important. So, then after my work I went immediately to our meeting place. When I arrived she was already there. Then she started talking. Her problem was she was pregnant for the second time but from another guy she used to be her bf but not anymore. She had pregnancy test for about twice already. The first one was negative then the second one was positive. She freaked out when she saw the result, she was totally confused, anxious and restless. She never wanted to keep it cause she never loved that guy. She told me they only do it once and their are both drunk and no protective measures. Now, she's been searching for an alternative way to abort it. I never gave her any idea what to do nor what to take. Cause I am a nurse and I save life from the beginning until the end. So, I've convinced her to take it and face the reality. But she keeps on insisting that she don't want it too, she hates the father at the same time she don't want to be criticized by people. Oh my, this is the hardest part of being a friend. I told her not to do so cause she might take her life into risk. I don't know what to do with her anymore...
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18 responses
@cora30 (134)
• United States
21 May 11
Hi christine888,upon reading your story about your friend,i felt upset and even mad at her sorry,am a mother of one ,i was once a victim also like her before but and even if i hated the father all my life,i neve had this abortion as a sulotion,because your killing an innocent one,an angel,not just angel but God's gift a life,and beside it happened already,your friend must face it ,dont mind people critisized you,the means justifies the end.she will get over it its hard at first...
@cora30 (134)
• United States
21 May 11
and i wanna thank you also for being such a good friend to her thats good save life..encourage her all the time and stand by her always..:)
• Philippines
21 May 11
She needs to be responsible, even if she doesn't want to be a parent she needs to go through with the pregnancy then give up the baby for adoption later. There are a lot of couples wanting a baby, and as a nurse I know that your aware of the dangers of abortion and I admire that you did not let her do what she want though you can't really do anything since it's her body and you can't be with her all the time, but there are chances that fate might play a hard trick on her that when the time comes she would want to have a baby it would already be impossible for her to conceive because she aborted or because of the guilt that would always haunt her...
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
21 May 11
"she needs to go through with the pregnancy then give up the baby for adoption later". Say what??! She doesn't "need" to do go through with the pregnancy, she has to do what's right for her.
• India
21 May 11
Well i think she should accept the child and start to leave life. Abortion is very disgusting and it is also against the religion. I dont know whether you friend is religious or no. But even though Abortion is not the option. Even though she does not like the father. It was from her side too that she was involved in the relationship. It was nothing like she was forced too. And now when the mistake is happen she does not want the child anymore. Iam not saying that it is her mistake but she should have taken precautions to avoid this if she knewed that her BF doenst love her she should have left him at that moment and now when she is pregnant she wants to abort. Strongly i feel you should not let your friend for abortion it is like a murder being done and it will keep poking to her for what she did. I think the best option is to accept the child dont tell you friend to see what people are saying tell her to frequently pray and face her life
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
21 May 11
Abortion is not murder.
@TheCatLady (4696)
• Israel
4 Jul 11
If you're a nurse, then you should know that childbirth is more risky than an abortion.
• Philippines
4 Jul 11
Well Christine I feel sorry for your friend. Unwanted pregnancy of course and worst she doesn't like the guy now that's very complex. Tell your friend to face the reality that she failed to manage her own way and that she must accept it for there is still hope. My sister experienced that too. I almost tied the male to the tree however, the baby has nothing to do with the situation the baby has the right to live by all reasons and logic. There is an old adage in my place 'doing it without thinking of the consequences could be a sin, but there's the baby a gift from above so better make that baby enjoy life than depriving of it'. Tell your friend sometimes we stumble in this life but there's still hope for everything.
@GemmaR (8527)
3 Jul 11
Firstly, I think that you have done the right thing by saying that you do not want to tell her how to abort her child. Not only is this very dangerous, but it also illegal. If she knows for sure that she would like an abortion, then she should go to a hospital and have it done by people who know what they're doing, as if something goes wrong and she's done it on her own she could make herself very ill indeed. I don't agree with abortion myself, and would never recommend it to any friend of mine. I would much rather a woman to have a baby and then have it adopted rather than to abort it. There are plenty of people who would love a baby but cannot have one themselves for whatever reason, and it would be a much nicer and humane thing to do rather than to abort the baby, which has done nothing wrong.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
If I were in your position, I would be telling my friend not to do abortion but to accept it. It will really be hard to take the peoples criticism, but since it's already there, she has to accept it no matter how hard it may be. Rather than risking her life on the effects of abortion and the emotional effect that she will carry on forever for killing an innocent being.
@moirai (1412)
• Philippines
22 May 11
I suggest that you continue talking with her about it and try to convince her not to go through with the abortion. She might hate the father, but the baby has nothing to do with that. Her situation is not the baby's fault, why should it have to suffer for it? What's done is done, now she has to accept her situation and face it. Try to give her all the reasons you can think of why she should not abort this baby. You are right, she will also be putting her life at risk if she tries to abort. This is her second pregnancy... how is her first child? The circumstances may be different, but did she feel any joy in that first pregnancy, in bringing a life into this world? If yes, try to remind her of that. The thought that people would criticize her is one of the reasons she wants to get rid of this baby. But what would she rather live with? That people criticize her for a time when they discover what happened with her, and which will eventually fade and maybe even be forgotten? Or would she rather live the rest of her live burdened with the guilt of taking an innocent life?
• Philippines
21 May 11
Hi Christine! I salute you for a job well done. You made the right decision in not telling or teaching your friend on what measures to do for the baby to be aborted. Just like you, I am also a nurse and I have also experienced that kind of scenario. I did not help my friend as well, I discouraged her by telling on what are the pros & cons of doing abortion. I have presented to her facts from magazines, books, internet, stories of those people who have committed abortion, to help her make the right decision. We prayed together so that she will be guided accordingly by the Holy Spirit, so that she could think rightly. Thankfully, her baby is now 2 yrs old. That is why, as a health provider and part of the health care team, we should also be a PRO LIFE, no matter what the situation is. We need to follow the good ethics and never forget to pray for guidance and enlightenment. God Bless! Hope your friend will be choosing the right decision and the almighty may lead her to the right path.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
21 May 11
As her friend, you need to be supportive and let her make her own decisions. She has the right to chose whether or not to have an abortion. I realize it goes against your beliefs, but you can not impose your beliefs on her. Give her support and guidance, but realize the final decision is hers alone.
@narnia007 (1051)
• India
21 May 11
As a medical person,I really appreciate that you follow the medical ethics strongly.Every medical person has taken the oath to save every last living cell with his best abilities.we cannot abort a precious life a baby.What harm has it done to leave the world even before its born.But at the same time,it is important to think about the psychological stress and pain of your friend which she will face because of the baby.She has every right to decide the treatment and medical services to be applied on her.In that case I would strongly recommend to go by the mothers decision.
@bonbon664 (3480)
• Canada
21 May 11
This topic has been brought up on Mylot thousands of times. I can't understand why you are convincing her of anything. That's not your job as her friend to impose your views on her. Your job is to give her the resources to make her own personal decision. Take her for counselling, but, don't tell her what to do. It's her decision, not yours.
• Indonesia
21 May 11
I dont agree with abortion whatever the reason. It's hard situation to handle but let's think mature. It's result of bad behaviour so why not discuss with family and face it together to get better solution.
@naps22 (31)
• Philippines
21 May 11
I know that kind of decision is very risky because we're talking about Life here. But somehow, i understand why your friend wants to do an abortion. She didn't do it intentionally because she's drunk and all. But there is a consequence in everything that we do. She should at least realize how important life is. I know this is hard for her and for you as well. In the end, you will still make a tough decision, and no matter what decision that may be, I hope she will learn from her mistakes. Let us not blame her for what had happened, instead, comfort her and be with her whenever she needs you.
@kajal1992 (354)
• India
21 May 11
the hell is your friend , you is the need of to stay and drink with another guy and messed up if she already have a boyfriend? don't kill that life its very precious, and if she hate that baby too much then don't kill that wait 9 months when she will give birth she will automatically start to love that baby, if still she doesn't then send the baby to an orphan, there the baby will be alive, but without mother's love.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
21 May 11
hello, Don't bother anymore because what you've done is right. She must learned from her mistake once but she do it again for the second time around. Even this is just an accident she must face the fact that this is her daughter/son. Whatever the reason is, she must face it alone specially if they already broke up or tell it to the father of her child for financial matter. The child dont have any fault to this. Give her an advice. alright? good luck
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
21 May 11
I feel so sad that so many women get into these messes. I fell sorry too for you christine since she is your friend and you probably want to help her but you also have your own principles. I think you have to stay true to yourself no matter what and she will have to pay the consequences of her mistakes. All the best to you and stay strong. God Bless.
@biiyah13 (64)
• Philippines
21 May 11
wahh..there is no way im going to agree with this method..I dont want abortion from the very first i heard the meaning of it.. good job nurse! for not giving her any idea of what to do or take..it doesnt mean that she never loved the guy eh she will also hate the baby..tell her to think 100 million times before deciding..it isnt her decision to take someone's life.. once the "cells" unite it already have life..taking that life away from the baby is like depriving her right to live and see how beautiful the world is..[only my opinion]