Do you flirt on the net?
By larish
@larish (2191)
Philippines
May 23, 2011 2:03am CST
I have a colleague, She's 24 years old, she broke up with a 7 year realtionship with her (ex) boyfriend last year, first quarter. For the past three months, she would not take her 1-hour lunch break just to chat with her male friends whom she claim are all courting her. If I am not mistaken, she always mention at least 5 male names and would often brag that all 5 are courting her. But the sad part here is that neither of the 5 guys have visited her or have ask her for a real date. I find it insane that she believes that all these men are serious about her when neither of them are willing to make what it takes to be with her. Do you know someone like her? If you were on my situation how would you tell her your observation without offending her.
3 responses
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
27 May 11
Hello Larish
I can understand your situation better as I am in online relation myself with my true love but we are not just flirting with each other, we are damm serious with our relationship. Flirting is wastage of time and what one gets...fun for a moment and give others hopes which may be harmful in future if person takes them seriously as relation.
I have a female friend to whom I know well, she is getting elder than the marriage age. She says that there are several guys (her good friends) who are interested in her but no one wants to marry with everyone having different reason and so on. I told her clearly that no one is interested if they are not agreeing to make life with you so she should leave hopes on them and should find a partner who is with her not just making excuses. It is real life situation and her parents are worried about her marriage as it is India.
So, I will recommend you that you talk to friend with calm mind and make her understand that you are talking about her better present and future. She should stop leaving in dreams and should come back to real life where she can have a man who really cares for her.
Another thing, if you are not that close friend then you have no right to interfere in her personal life and let her decide what is good her. She will be the one who will suffer in future if she makes wrong choice now, moreover, she can't trust all guys online. I still believe in online relations as I am in such strong relation online and planning to marry soon with her as well.
Give her a friendly advice instead of like forcing something...like say her that being a friend you can advice her this.... rest is upto her as it is her life and she has to make her future.
Thanks
Have great time Larish
happy myLotting!!
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
27 May 11
Hi chdsandeep,
Thank you for enlighting me. I would like to commend you for being serious in your relationship on-line. I also agree with you that I have to talk with my friend. But I think I should talk to her if I she needs my opinion/advise. I just don't have to meddle in her personal life just like that. Again, Thank you for your response.
@chdsandeep (397)
• India
27 May 11
Hello again Larish
Yes, you have no right to interfere in her personal life. It is her life like you and me have right to live our life our way same way she has too.
So, give her advice if she feels that she needs your advice or ask you for your opinion otherwise be happy with your life and why to bother someone :P
Take care
Happy mylotting!
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
23 May 11
hello,
Yes, I have a friend with the same situation. 
I dont know how to tell it to her without offending her. So, all of her friends aware to it but no one really wants to talk about it. I dont like to say it because I dont have any right for it I am just her friend. 
but it makes me think that I am really worried about her because she is flirting a lot of guys but seems no one is serious to her. 
I dont know how to tell it to her without offending her. So, all of her friends aware to it but no one really wants to talk about it. I dont like to say it because I dont have any right for it I am just her friend. but it makes me think that I am really worried about her because she is flirting a lot of guys but seems no one is serious to her. 1 person likes this
@blogger01 (124)
• Philippines
23 May 11
I know a friend who's really into online dating. However, she actually met them after a few months. I don't know if he became her boyfriend. I heard several men were courting her and want to see her in person. There are really people who are willing to risk anything just to get a date online.
