how do you say goodbye to a true love but wasn't meant to be?

Philippines
May 23, 2011 11:44am CST
Somebody from the past wrote this and he called it "The Unsent Love letter". He wrote this for someone from his youth whom he'd lost ( 12 years ago ) but continued to love. I was moved by this, so I asked his permission if I could share this to you. Really, how can it be that not all true love can withstand the test of times? Here it goes. "Every night, before I go to bed, I would promise myself that the next day I will stop thinking about you. Stop you from ruling my thoughts. Morning after morning, I would wake up and think if you were up too. Having breakfast? Going to work? I don't know what you did or say that made it so hard for me to shake you off my being. Your smooth talk was comforting, even your fake affection has warmed my soul. Your never perfect lies were as clear as day, nothing more than mere lies itself yet I chose to believe them. Our relationship was far from conventional, built on mistrust, broken from the start. It never bothered me because loving you compensates for all its imperfections. Just one minute of talking to you erase all the wrongs and makes them right. But I don't like how it seems like you're taking me for granted. And I'm afraid of the implications behind my perceived understanding of you. Mainly because of my imaginations. Your ambiguity makes me feel this way. I don't like to assume. Not about you. I don't want to take you for granted either. But I'm getting used to it. Still getting used to it. So many questions still unanswered. If you really care, I suppose I could only wish for you to be straightforward. Because I cared. Still do. We both know you owe me a story. And you not telling it like you should is just going to disappoint me further. Hurt me more. Sure, I'll try to find solace in someone else instead. Someone like you yet not like you. Someone more than just a substitute. Someone whom eventually will distract me enough to not think about how I miss you. Do I really have a choice, after all? But I know I can't forget...and I'm just hoping to know the truth. Goodbye, I have to stop thinking about you...for now...until the next hour comes..." Well, how did you feel after reading the letter? Wish you'd let me know...
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 May 11
I don't think that the heart ever says goodbye to true love. it is something that always remains. If it wasn[t meant to be, then perhaps it was the timing that wasnt right and not the love itself.
• Philippines
24 May 11
It's sad that it has taken him that long to recover and move on. I like the part where he said that although the relationship was not perfect, "loving you compensates for all its imperfections." That is what I would call unconditional love. But still, he deserves to be loved back, and I think what really hurt him a lot is the fact that he gave so much of himself and did not get the same loving back. So sad.. I wish that he could find a way to get over the pain and move on...
@kukai127 (67)
• Philippines
24 May 11
it's so sad...but i had my own unrequited love. but i was still young then.... how to say goodbye? you don't. you try to live your life one day at a time. time makes all wounds heal. it may take a while but it does heal. mine did. by admitting that it is one sided is already a feat. saying goodbye takes a lot of courage and heart.
• Philippines
24 May 11
Sometimes, we should let go of our love for good. Sometimes, TRUE love is all about letting go, for the good. Saying goodbye shows that you're very strong and your love is real. If it wasn't meant to be, let it be. You can still love him/her even he/she is not with you. That's true love.
• Philippines
24 May 11
awwww... i felt sad i was about to cry..your friend and i have almost the same situation.. i loved someone who lost her feelings for me.. i also wanted to forget every memories that we had..but it's just really hard! you can browse my previous discussions and see how i really love her. =D i'm still hoping that someday, she'll give her love back to me..
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
24 May 11
The letter was very touching but it seems that the relationship should end that way. It's a nice way of saying that I am now moving on for I have done what should have been done and I hope that you would respond the way I wanted to but it seems we look at the things on two different aspects. The letter is very heart warming.
23 May 11
That's sad. Not in the "boo hoo" sense with tears, but because he wasted 12 years of his life pining over someone who didn't love him. Sounds like he idealised her and, rather than realising it and moving on to love someone more down to earth, imprisoned himself in a pointless longing so he wouldn't have to face reality. Just think what he could have done with 12 years of life... what a waste.
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
23 May 11
Very touching! I could write a similar story, but not for the same reasons. I am still friends with the person that I feel is my true love, but we are both in other relationships and we have to accept that.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
23 May 11
It was indeed very touching and moving. I have my own experience of heart issues too. somewhat like what you've shared too. even though it was really a very long time ago and I really can't remember the exact feeling but i know it was really painful. I did actually pray before i go to sleep to never wake up again, just to spare me from the very painful feeling i have that time. Sad... but yup.. moved on! ^.^