Do you forgive your friends easily when they made you mad?

United States
May 24, 2011 10:29pm CST
Do you forgive easily if you friends, family, significant other made you mad? I am a person who doesn't take forgiveness easily. I forgive however I NEVER forget. I hold onto grudges unless it is my significant other. I have never forgive and not forget in my life. It's hard for me to forget as I hold grudges, even some from the 3rd grade! -__- How do you handle forgiveness? Is it easy for you to forgive and be happy again or will you always remember that moment?
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18 responses
• Philippines
25 May 11
It all depends on what my friend is asking forgiveness for. i personally do not hold grudges with my friends. I treat them so kindly that they tend to take advantage of me. If there are times that I get offended or they did something that is not good to me, I forgive them easily. Sometimes they don't have to say I'm sorry. I would just let it go and move on. All I need to forgive and forget is to listen to my ipod or sometimes sleep on it. However, it'll be a different story if they did something really horrible or something that includes hurting one of my family members. Other than that, I won't make it a big deal. :)
• United States
25 May 11
You shouldn't let your friends take advantage of you.
@vivamir (673)
26 Jul 11
Hi infatuatedby.. I always end up forgiving (*which in my eyes you have to FORGET*) in the end..well THIS APPLIES, if its my Mum, sibling, other half or best friend (*which is only 2 people*) ..others take ALOT more time..OR NEVER! I hold grudges quite alot..and it has altered my perspective of alot of people that have come and gone.. (",)
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
hi, they are my friends and they are not perfect like me so when one of them makes me mad i will forgive them after 24 hours,because when they did something bad to me i will say something to them just to release my feelings too then afterward they are forgiven.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
26 May 11
I get mad pretty soon but I forgive them as sooner too. I forgive and forget really easily, that is why people sometimes take advantage of this habit of mine . But yes there are times when people have hurt me and no matter how hard I try, I can't seem to forget it!!
• Philippines
25 May 11
Forgiving someone takes time. Especially when it really hurts. I once had this experience when I was in 6Th grade. My Bestfriend and I used to share who's our crush. and days passed, she's acting weird, she barely talk to me and don't have time for me. I asked her why and then she said that her crush was my crush and she got jealous because our crush likes me... So, one day I heard a rumor about me.. bad thing about me.. and I found out that my bestfriend spread that rumor. It really hurts my feeling because I trusted her. she apologized but it takes time for me to forgave her. after 3 years, we met at the grocery store. it was like nothing happen to us...we 're just laughing to each other about the past. and for your questions, I handled it by giving myself a time to calm down and try to forget everything. it's not easy for me to forgive her at that time but time heals everything. I just accidentally forgot... and now, I always remember it but no hard feelings...because its funny... fighting because of a guy.. haha!
@bdance22 (86)
• Philippines
25 May 11
I think you got the point right. We need to forgive. But more important is that we learn from the experience so that is why we never forget.
• Brazil
25 May 11
Hi infatuatedbby! It's hard to get me mad, but when some friends get there it's easy to forgive and i forget. But i never get mad enough, i'm kind of a relax and calm guy, but when i let someone mad i can't forgive myself and i never forget what i have done to someone, I remember things that i have done in 1rd grade. Of course, everyone has a limit to forgive but i never got there. See you!
• United States
25 May 11
I think it all comes down to the severity of the action. For example if my significant other cheated on me, I don't think I could forgive and forget that. Now let's say my significant other took some savings money without telling me to buy some clothes, I could easily forgive this and forget this. All in all, it comes down to how much said person means to you and the severity of the issue.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
25 May 11
I think it really depends on what is the issue that you are mad with because forgiveness will come differently with different situation. For me however, i might say i forgive the person (on my mouth), but deep down, i might not. If it's a small thing, i think the friendship can still be mended. However, if he/she betrayed me, then it's another story. It would be difficult for the friendship to be the same again. I think time will make us forgets things, we'll still remember snapshots of them, but we'll most probably not remember the whole incident. But, i think we should forgive people easily because not forgiving them, we'll only make life difficult for ourselves. We want to be happy, and not be bogged down by people who made us mad.
@sjvg1976 (13761)
• Delhi, India
25 May 11
When we are friend we need to compromise some time.If a friend says something wrong or do something wrong that does't mean the friendship is over. you need to get it resolved. I usually easily forget the things there are times when i used to remember each & every small things but now those days have gone with the age now i believe on " to err is human & to forgive is divine". You too implement it & see how much peace you will get by it. Once you start forgiving people see the reactions of people they will also understand you & keep you happy.
• Philippines
25 May 11
I thinks its not good to hold grudges to others. your collecting negative energy if you continue to do that. So what i do is i talk to the person i have grudges and solve the differences. yeah, i easily forgive. that way i am surrounding myself with lovers and not haters. Happy mylotting :D
• Philippines
25 May 11
Yes I forgive easily but like you I do not forget. Being hurt, especially when it is deliberate, is not something that my mind can easily fore go. Blessed day!
• India
25 May 11
Basically i am very very sensitive & also sentimental person.. But i don't hold onto grudges and all.. If i feel that any of my friends, family made me mad.. I just stop talking with them and i tell them boldly that you made be mad.. i don't want to speak with you any more.. They should realize and they should feel for it.. Even i too forgive them but i don't forget the things which they made for me..
@casualkT (141)
• Canada
25 May 11
no , well traps are everywhere and you must go with the flow although the flow is polluted so I must stick to unforgiven people if important otherwise I just don't care too much and detach my emotions as everything is business and once that's over if I have a purpose with them , otherwise they remain my enemies. Besides it's not that bad to remember as there are other ways around it. Yeah significant other , different story probably
@sanijas83 (271)
• Latvia
25 May 11
I also cannot forgive easily. I am aware that we should not carry insults in our heart, but there are things that cannot be forgotten. Of course, one should not become depressed by the cruelty of life, and should enjoy the beauty of living, to find enthusiasm and willpower for every day.
@xtine22 (200)
• Philippines
25 May 11
I take their 'sins' into heart at first, but later on when I realize that it's not that of a big deal, I feel that I can easily forgive them. I cannot say I don't hold onto 'grudges', though it's true that I cannot forget. But at the end of the day, I realize that thinking bad of people and not trusting them because of their faults, especially my friends, won't make me happy. Somehow, I 'measure' whether they will make me mad or not (like I prevent myself from getting mad beforehand), so I myself won't regret if I get angry later on.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
25 May 11
Forgiveness has to come from the heart in order for the feeling to be real. Friends can make us angry at times. forgiveness just seems to come naturally to me. I don't like to have bitterness with my friends. when it is prolonged, it can quickly turn into something else that can't be reversed and hurts the friendship.
• Philippines
25 May 11
It depends on what my friend did to me. If it is just an unintentional mistake and it doesn't ruin my reputation or the reputation of any of my love ones, then I can forgive him easily. But if involves hearsay and has ruined the reputation of any of the people I love, then I would not forgive this person forever.