Which comes first TRUST or LOVE?

Philippines
May 25, 2011 4:56am CST
I am wondering, do you love first then trust a person? or you trust the person and love him?
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23 responses
@nezavisima (7419)
• Bulgaria
25 May 11
Love and trust to me go hand in hand.Love keeps me in difficult times it is is my strength when I have problems.Trust is also very important not you trust in a relationship it just no reason to exist.So I think that first there must be trust and love evident from the outset. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
26 May 11
Hi nevasima. We agree on this. For me, trust comes first and then love. It is hard to love without trust. In fact, it is easier to keep a relationship with much trust and less love rather than a relationship with much love but less trust.
@cream97 (29176)
• United States
25 May 11
Hi. hot_legs15. Welcome to myLot, again! I think that love comes first. This is the first feeling that a person may feel for another person. Once they love a person enough, they begin to trust them. In this case, I feel that love comes first before trust.
• Philippines
26 May 11
Hi cream97! You have a point. It is easy to trust someone when we love him or her.
@Roopjyoti (101)
• India
25 May 11
The truth is you can't fall in love by forcing your heart. Better someone must identify the feelings and natures of a person before taking any further step. If you find any negative that you really don't like, you will automatically loose your feelings about him or her(100%). But you need to watch very carefully and for a long time. In maximum cases, i feel that people always ware a false mask of personality of liking. Good persons never hide anything and he will be more careful when he gets any signal...
• Philippines
26 May 11
Hi roopjyoti! Most relationship starts in attraction. It's hard to love someone you are not attracted to in the first place. I agree with you, some pretend to be they are not to make themselves more attractive. Thus,we should be more prudent with this kind of people.
• Philippines
25 May 11
i love first then i put all my trust to the person i love. love is emotions,and trust is the tool you need to keep the love in you. that's when i loose my trust to the person, i also loose their love. that's just for me anyway. Goodnight and happy mylotting.:d
• Philippines
26 May 11
Thank you for your response BannedHelsing! I pretty much respect your opinion on this matter. We have different views though. I do notice that some relationship start with love without trust to one another. I observed that this kind of relationship usually fails. The reason is simple. Extreme jealousy is never fun. Possessiveness is distracting for a relationship to grow.
@thepank (202)
• India
25 May 11
I think love is something which is unconditional on the other hand trust comes with time a strong understanding so in my opinion there could be possibilities that you can love someone coz he/she never broke your trust and also you can trust someone coz you love him...both things are correlated with each other .
• Philippines
26 May 11
You have a good point. Sometimes it is easier to nurture trust if you are attracted to the person. Sometimes too we let love flow, and let time and experience test the trust. My friend once told me that if you like or love the person you tend to be tolerant to his or her flaws, this includes trusting him or her, but if it is the other way around, that is, you don't like him or her, you become inconsiderate to his or her imperfections. Thus, for some love comes first and then trust will follow through passage of time. But, I think this kind of relationship is volatile. When a relationship is not founded with trust, most likely, it is characterized by excessive jealousy and possessiveness.
@dxn001 (25)
• India
25 May 11
You trust the person and then love him, both of which take considerable time and patience. You cannot first love him and then trust him because trust is the base foundation in a relation, if u happen to 'love' him before trusting then thats not love but lust.
• Philippines
26 May 11
Hi dxn001!I agree with you. Trust is the very foundation of every relationship. Ideally,every relationship should start by nurturing trust to each other, and then love will naturally follow. However, most often, this is not what is happening to many couples nowadays. Many jumped into relationship but they don't trust their partners. Some of them resort in "testing" the loyalty of their partner by creating silly scenarios. For example, making a big issue on flimsy thing so as to "measure" the degree of love that his or her partner has. I read one discussion here in mylot that a girl deliberately used another cellular number and used it to text her boyfriend pretending that she is another girl who wants to be his textmate. When her boyfriend declined the offer, she was happy and concluded that she can trust her boyfriend. Do we have to resort to this things, before we can trust a person?
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
For me, trust really comes first. Because it will be hard to love someone you don't really trust. It is easy to love someone you trust than loving someone you don't have trust or faith for you will always doubt him. Doubting a partner will only cause fights and will just end up with no good for both parties.
@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
Trust and Love are all together. There's nothing to come first... God Bless you! =)
• United States
1 Jun 11
For me, trust has to come first. If I can't trust you with me, my secrets AND my body, there is NO WAY I could even consider falling in love with you to.
• Portugal
1 Jun 11
definitely first come trust then the love. the trust is one of the keys for the love. If you ask about passion, is another thing. In my opinion you cannot love without trust in someone.
@aerous (13477)
• Philippines
27 May 11
Love and trust must be together. If we only love a person and not trust him/her. That love not last longer...because every time is full of doubt. For me I love and trust a person...whom I gave my love
@chaftab (59)
• Pakistan
27 May 11
Love always comes first but latter on trust is compulsory to keep the love relation alive.
27 May 11
We don't choose any of it because it takes two to tango to have a harmonious relationship.
@bounce58 (17551)
• Canada
26 May 11
Unless you believe in 'love at first sight', I think trust comes first. Before you can entertain any feelings of love, you should know the person well. And knowing I think involves a little bit of trust. But I'm no expert, so don't take my word for it.
@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
26 May 11
I think love is first because some times you can not stop yourself to love someone but to gain trust you have to work continually. Loving is world where you don't care about what people are saying about the person whom you love but trusting is an other world where you try to maintain your reputation on any cost so people can trust on you, which can be fake sometimes. But love is love which is nothing but a feeling and feeling don't need any certificate of trust but you have the heart to get ready for giving instead of demanding. So for me Love is first and mist than we can settle for trust :D What you say? cheers
@anil02 (2886)
• India
26 May 11
First trust than love, how you love a person who are not trustworthy for you.
• United States
26 May 11
You need to trust the person your in love with 1st. Without trust there is no relationship. You have to be able to trust to have a healthy relationship.
@amitgune (877)
• India
26 May 11
I will put it this way. Trust comes first, then love. However when love is followed by doubt, then that is the begining of the end of love.
• China
26 May 11
Hi,in my opinion, trust and love go hand in hand, maybe you love the people firstly, so you trust him then, or you trust him and then you love him gradually, it is diffcult that trust and love have a clear demarcation...
@SIMPLYD (70693)
• Philippines
26 May 11
In my experience with my husband when we were just boyfriend and girlfriend, i love him first. As the days passed by, with us constantly going together, my trust to him was built.