Are you not sure that you will die?
May 25, 2011 7:02am CST
Are you sure that you will not die? This is not my question but a question from a dying patient. When some one's death is confirmed by doctor why we show pity for them. Is it right? Are our death is not confirmed. Every life must end with death. But when some one faced serious disease and doctor say no hope the why we make their day lift unbearable showing pity for them? Actually expressing our pity are not we make them more unhappy. Why we not consider that as a normal thing. As other normal life they are also facing death. But remembering their death we actually soil their days left to leave. When a dying patient asked me the question "Are you sure that you will not die?" .................... Have you ever face such a question. This question make me think deeper to the situation .......... Is not it a thought provoking question?
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• Bhubaneswar, India
25 May 11
Hi Aaleexix I am sure of one thing right now... I am not going to die this moment. The next - no one knows. Now for the dying patient and our expressing grief - Well, what should we feel in such a situation? Happiness - yes, we can be happy if we have seen the patient suffer and we feel it is better for him/her to die... but dear, then comes the society, our upbringing and the fact that we have a heart... these things always have preached us, made us feel the value of life and also feel the pain when someone is gone for ever... These definitely have a role to play in such situations and yes, if I feel the pain from the heart to see him/her go - I will be honest and the same if I am seeing that his/her going will get him/her relief I will share the happiness despite the fact that my heart may be crying within
26 May 11
I've never had such question from a patient before, but you are right. We should make such a patient enjoy his/ her last days or months with normal activities. However, as a human, we could not help it when hearing it for the first time that someone is dying we would feel sad and pity on the patient. After some timee we could make a decision to take a positive action and make the patient cheerful toward his/her last day.
• United States
25 May 11
When my mother was dying a few months ago we did not pity her and she did not want that. I don't pity anyone that is dying, I envy them. Mom knew she was moving on to another place, a better place where she would see her loved ones. We children knew it, too, and could talk about it honestly with her. We were unhappy to lose her because we miss her but we know we will see her again eventually. I think a lot of people pity themselves more than the dying person because they are being separated from someone they love.