May 26, 2011 7:46am CST
my wife always wear sexy swim suit whenever we go to the beach but last May 19 she didn't swim. she just stayed under the hut wearing a dress. i invited her to swim with me. her replied, no thanks i asked, why? her replied, i'm too fat to wear my bikini. i feel sad. i asked, why? her replied, help me loss weight i know she feels so down...
• United States
4 Feb 12
Aww...I hate to hear that your wife felt bad about herself. It's hard when you are used to wearing certain things and then other things change and make you feel bad about yourself. It is nice that she has you for support. That usually helps more than you know. I can tell by the other responses that you two have been working hard for her to lose weight. Perhaps you can convince her of the fact that you feel like she is beautiful and sexy just as she is and that a little extra weight shouldn't keep her from enjoying life with you. Good luck and take care.
15 Jan 12
i think its a normal reaction of the girls when they can't wear the dress that they want to wear. I never try to wear swim suit in every swimming that i join because im a fat person and i have a lot of belly. I wish i also become sexy soon but its very hard to me because i also love eating.. My sister told me that its okay to wear swim suit even we're fat when we're in the beach because it is the normal attire of the girls if they will having swimming but i'm still shy to wear it.
2 Jun 11
Hahaha. I can probably relate to your wife. I feel self conscious about my body especially at the beach. The funny thing is there's nothing my husband can say to make me feel ok. If he says "you are not fat, you look beautiful in your suit," I say he's just saying that to make me feel good. If he says "you're right, you've collected a little fat around your belly and thighs lately. you should loose weight" I would be mortified! It's better that he doesn't say anything. Just initiate activities for both of you that can help her lose weight.
• United States
26 May 11
Hey there, As before try and help her loose the weight by suggesting activities you both can do together. In the meantime, might I suggest you take her shopping for a new swim suit. This way she can try on some really neat ones that are very flattering to her body. There are so many that are slimming in certain areas, such as skirted ones and one piece as well. There are some very pretty coverups too she can wear over her swim suit. Taking her shopping will certainly boost her in good ways. She can try several on and you can compliment her sweetly on some that she really likes. Good luck and have some fun, she should not miss out on having fun, especially when you are caring enough to share with her how wonderful she looks.
6 Jun 11
how i wish, she never gain weight. but the truth is...she gained weight and she is not happy. i still find her pretty and sexy. we will again go to the beach this July 9. we will do our best that she loss some pounds. and we will look for your suggested cover up. funny...that ladies takes losing weight as serious as their business