Are you connected with all your family, relatives, friends in your FB account?

Pasay, Philippines
May 27, 2011 4:50am CST
[b]How come you are not connected to all of your family, relatives, and friends? Who started to add them is it always you or the other people? [/b] I know I am not connected with other relatives and friends since it is either they don't have the facebook account or I haven't keep in touch with them. So most likely when I am seeing my other relatives I am the one who initiates to add them if I feel too. But I have some relatives that I already block them and unfriend to my list just because I know I am not okay with them since I am not a rich person that they could take advantage of it. For me it is alright since in the first place they are not interesting people at all so why should I forced myself to them. I have a friend before that I didn't bother to add her because of the betrayal that she did to me during college days. So I don't really like it and I don't want to have communication with her at all.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
27 May 11
Hi Metatronik, I do not keep in touch my with all the people I know, including my relatives as well as my friends via fb. To me it's not as safe as contact them writing email. It's rather inconvenient that not all of them having their respective fb account. I know many of my friends like to chat and and play games at fb during their leisure after having their dinner. Yeah Metatronik, you have the right to add people you like to your profile or delete those whom you dislike straight away. To avoid adding wrong person to our friends list it's better to check nicely before hitting the confirm button. Hope you enjoy the fun chatting with people you like in fb I'm not an active fb member and have little friends. I login fb playing my favorite zuma game to relax the pressure occasionally. I feel like I have the impulse to play the exciting game after the chatting here Happy posting
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Yeah recently I've already deleted the other friend who betrayed me as well. Our friendship was inconsistent so I don't bother to include her on my list anymore. I just don't like the fact that she wasn't really a friend to me. Aside from that there are other relatives that I am not welcome to them especially my cousins just because I am not a rich person that they can take advantage of it. I just want to stay away from those people what I can't trust.
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@lkbooi (16102)
• Malaysia
6 Aug 11
To me fb is the site to keep close relatives and friends in close contact. If there is anyone who are inconsistent in many aspects very often would occur undesirable matter which would make us feeling unhappy for sure. Therefore it's wise to delete them away from the list. You are doing the right thing to stay away from those whom you dislike. In this way hopefully you would feel very much better that no more disturbance happens when you are having fun there. I would do the same deletion in case I come across the same situation Have a nice day
@aceabrea (184)
29 Sep 11
I usually connect with the close relatives but not just anyone. Oftentimes I received request from relatives that are not close to me and i have doubts whether to accept it or reject it. I got a lot of pending friends request because I never approve those i don't know even they know me. Well, i don't want any stalker and by approving their request is just making a link and posing a risk.
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• Pasay, Philippines
27 Mar 12
In my case some other time I would really fix my account then delete people on my list that are not really close to me.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
24 Jul 11
Hi Metatronik, I use my facebook only for my friends. I do meet my relatives and family often. Its only my friends who are distance away and i could not meet them for years. So I dont like to add relatives or family.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Well my question here good thing they don't ask you or it won't bother to them if you don't add them?
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
hi, yes,definitely i am connected to my all relatives,friends and other ex-lover,Facebook really nice because it will help people to connect them to each other even they are in different part of the world.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Good thing you are still connected with your ex-lover. Because my mentality when it comes to ex is really different. I don't want to relate with them anymore in the sense that I can't see the sense of having friends with them. And at the same time I am considering them as strangers already.
@thepank (202)
• India
28 May 11
Hi Metatronik, yeah i'm connected to all of the members(who got a profile) of my family on FB. and since we all lives at a different places due to our jobs so it really help to keep in touch with them and to share happy moments of ur lyf with them which actually is not possible over a phone call.. Bt ya there r cases wer u want some thing which should not be seen by ur family members like some personal comments by the friends and any lovely and romantic posts by ur girlfriend.. So thanks to the privacy option in the FB.. it really help u out..
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Yeah! I am also particular of privacy options because at times it will lead some issues if they knew something on what you have posted which they can't understand. I just don't like the fact that I will be asked about it then when I explain they don't bother to understand your point.
@Nitu27 (68)
28 May 11
Hie friend, I am also not connected with my all family members on facebook. I have their phone numbers, I am connected with them just through phones and letters. It is difficult to be in touch with all as all of them do not have their FB account. But friend I think this not good that you block them and unfriend to your friend list, facebook is a social networking site, it connects the people. So, I advice you to make your thinking positive.........rest it depends on you..
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Yeah maybe it is not good that I did that but then I can't see the sense of connecting with them especially if I know I am not accepted to them. At the same time I just don't want others to look at my account just because they are curious then they won't even bother to add me at all. It is better that I don't have any contacts with them if they won't do anything sense towards my life but rather I must forget them. Good thing they are in far far away geographically.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
27 May 11
Hi. Metatronik. I am not connected that much to others on Facebook. Even when it comes to my own family members. I talk to them but not as much. My sister tries to stay connected with me on Facebook. I am not an avid Facebook user, so with me not being on Facebook, is not all that important to me.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
I could imagine that you rarely open your account. But then if they add you they have you confirmed their friend's request?
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
27 May 11
No, not everyone, because some of my relatives, especially the older ones, do not have Facebook. And others I have chosen not to add myself, simply because I don't want them snooping around in my life too much.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
I understand your point because sometimes just because of facebook or other social networking sites they will add more fuel to the fire especially if there are some cases that they are misinterpreted.
• Philippines
27 May 11
Being a Facebook addict, I am already connected with my family. with regards to relatives, not all but most of them are already my friends on FB. Like you, I also have someone whom I don't want to add. I don't know but I just don't feel like saying Hi to her. Actually, she's my superior when I was still working. I didn't like her because she practiced favoritism in our team.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
What you did was only RIGHT! Of course dirty politics should not be practiced especially when it comes to work. I don't bother to add people that I don't feel to especially if they have done wrong things towards me.
• United States
27 May 11
hi metatronik, I really like all discussions about Facebook, since I'm a very active user. most of time I'm the one who start to add friends and family relatives. recently I'm connected with almost all of them, which I REGRET sometimes. some family members contact me in Facebook to talk about things (usually family problems) that they don't need to tell me. they already know who to contact, how the problem develops, and how to solve it. they are adults and should be more mature than me. I barely have problems with friends in Facebook. usually some of them criticize me of using English and Chinese too often in Facebook. but I only respond them by saying "I live in United States where most of my friends here speak English and Chinese." I can easily delete some friends whom I don't like. but it's not easy to delete family members. because they will think I have big problem with them and it can bother family relationship. for most Asians, family is very important that we must defend family importance above all individual importance. so, what I can do now to avoid them is by ignoring their private messages on Facebook.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
What do you mean you REGRET sometimes? You mean you don't like to listen to their problems? Or something like they only talk with you just because they have problems? Then if they don't have problems they won't relate with you or worst case if you are the one who needs help then they won't bother to help you? Is that a thing that you are trying to point out? So what if you speak in English and Chinese? What is bad about it? Well at least you are still sensitive of what other's would think if you are going to delete some of your family members or even relatives. Because in my case I would defend that how come I block my relatives that I dislike.
• Philippines
27 May 11
hi metatronik -me too not all relatives or friends is my friends in fb...some friends and relatives if i see their fb i just think twice if i should add them because i am not rich and some people they see like that ..of what your situation in life .then if you are nothing they don't add you or they don't accept you..
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
They are the total failure or losers that are social climbers. Trying to be prim and proper with class when in reality you would witness on how cheap they are, of course you would see their true colors. That is the lame mentality of my cousins that they don't want to talk or even relate with me just because I am not rich or I don't have plenty of money. At first of course I am frustrated about it because I just want to relate with them as cousins or relatives but only to realized that I can't please everybody. More so it is more dangerous if I am close to them because I realized that they will just take advantage of you. I don't want to talk or connect with them in facebook anymore because I can't see the sense.
@rosie14 (80)
• Philippines
27 May 11
yes i'm connected with my family, relatives and friends, but most of the time I'm the one adding them, specially when comes to schoolmates/batch mates. I don't accept friends request if that person didn't even talk to me when were still in school. I don't add most of them just for the sake to have more no. of friends. family and relatives i add them if they request for it. its fun being connected with them since you all hardly see each other, you can see updates or news from them.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Sometimes I am adding some of my classmates and batchmates even though we are not close to each other or if I wasn't connected to them at all. I just want to keep in touch with them or know some of my batchmates that I never became my classmate. But I don't add all of my classmate nor batchmates depending on how I was related to them, especially of course to those people that are not in good terms with me.
• Malaysia
27 May 11
Facebook is so famous until almost everybody has an account on it. Yes, all my family members are connected in my Facebook account, categorized according to the exact relationship between us. Of course, for relatives that are arrogant towards me, I don't accept their friend request. They may ask why, but I just sort to ignore them at all. Betrayal can happen in all times (friends and relatives), I prefer to be silent, not to post too much posts in Facebook because I am afraid they might talk bad about me. I want my Facebook to be a heaven of profile sharing but not to be influenced by those people I don't want to see. I am glad to have good relationship between my family members. Although there might be some conflict in all times, but they are all solved in tolerance.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
I don't relatives that are arrogant to me as well. Instead of thinking of how to help each other then they just want to become selfish to prove themselves. I don't like that world. So better yet not to connect with them to avoid issues. I just want to keep in touch with other people especially to my friends and relatives who have been good to me.
• Philippines
27 May 11
It's your decision who to befriend on FB. If you don't want to be connected to this person even if you know this person personally, it's your choice. Nobody can tell you who to add in your FB friends because it is your account.
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• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
I know your point, and I have to power to decide it on my own. I have a reason of deleting or even adding them. Sometimes there are local celebrities that I've added them on my account because I can keep in touch with them.
• Philippines
27 May 11
Hello Metatronik, I am actually connected with my family but it was my siblings and some of my immediate family who started it first. then, it's really nice to have family members in the face-book specially with their friends. you don't have to upload all photos since hackers will and can try to harrass or abuse you or something.. some people are not what they meant to be, that's life now in our era. actually, am a bit annoyed that i have added people that doesn't consider me friends at all.though they are my crushes, i decided to delete them to move on with my life.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
I find it funny when you say that they are your crushes. Well that is normal to add them. But I totally understand of adding that you thought they consider you as a friend but if you meet each other personally as if you don't know each other at all. Well I don't like it as well that I am not welcome or accepted to their group then they will add me on facebook. Oh come on! what's the sense? . They are just hassle on my account if that is the case. I am uploading many photos on my account but at least I've already set the privacy settings on how they are going to look at it. I mean not all photos can be seen to everybody. Sometimes I've already set my facebook to other people who is on my friend's list that he/she can't be able to see all my information including the photo and list of friends. I mean nothing at all. She is on the contact who can chat with me but she can't be able to see everything on my account. But apparently I've deleted that person as well. I just don't like other people who will add you then he just want to see how you look like right now. I totally find it annoying.
• Philippines
28 May 11
I am not. Most of my close friends and family is in the province so they don't really have much time to have a Facebook account. What I have now is my present friends and family who are in the city because they have their own computer at home and they knew about Facebook. But usually I don't talk on them often because I have these relatives on my father side which are my friends in Facebook but we are not that close. I don't know but I'm keeping my distance with them.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Meaning to say you are not also in good terms with them? I am just wondering that how come you want to keep distance with them if you can associate with them? Not unless if they are like my cousins as well who has this lame reason for disliking you just because you are not rich that they can use you as taking advantage.
• Philippines
6 Aug 11
I grew up not knowing them actually because they live in United States. It is thru facebook that I was able to chat with one of my cousins and that was a year ago. It is also not that I dislike them or I don't know if they dislike me, maybe its because we were not given the chance to talk to each other because of the distance since I was born. They don't visit our place either. But I'm a bit close with my uncles and aunts because they are the one who supported me on my studies. :D
• United States
28 May 11
I am not connected with everyone on my FB page. I only accept friend requests from people who I actually socialize with even outside of facebook. And as for family there are some of my relatives that I dont have on my friends list becuase I we are not on good terms right now. Facebook as become such a nosy place and alot of people are only your friends to be nosy and be all up in your business. So i unfriended a lot of people because I knew that I really didnt socialize with them outside of FB.
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Aug 11
Aside from that because of the social network sometimes just because of the cyber thing that you updated it will cause a fuel to the fire regarding some issues that you were updated. I mean when you read their status message or anything.