my cousin is pregnant....at the age of 14.....:(

@asliah (11148)
Philippines
May 27, 2011 12:03pm CST
how do you react as a parents and relatives if you daughter/cousin/niece is pregnant at the age of 14??will you blame her??will you abort the baby?what will you do if you are the parent and you have a pregnant daughter at the age of 14?? how sad to know this news about my cousin that she is pregnant at the age of 14,because how can she enjoy life if at the age of 14 she already pregnant.we cant blame her so much,the better is my cousin need to face what she is experiencing now,its really hard to have a baby in early age of 14,especially today,its hard to survive in the world of poverty.
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32 responses
• United States
27 May 11
I would be so mad!! I would kick her out!! If she thinks she old enought to play with boy's peepee's then shes old enough to move out and become an adult! Or she would have to give the baby up for adoption and after she did her leash would be shorter than before if she thinks she living in my home!! I do not believe in abortion. and YES I would blame her, so what if she cant be 14 anymore. She spread her legs, childhood is OVER time to face the music and GROW UP!!
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@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
28 May 11
Wow hold your horses! it's take 2 to tango you know.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
9 Jun 11
What a loving caring attitude you have CR. This child's parents are to blame and you do realise of course that there is another person involved...yes, the father of the baby. Throwing your daughter out of her home, dis-owning, her is not a good idea. Trust me, it happened to me and it had devastating effects on me. When your own family want nothing to do with you at a young age then you feel worthless. It certainly renders you more incapable of caring for a baby when the time comes. I imagine that being that age and pregnant is just terrible, especially if your parents and extended family are all shocked and scandalised by the news and they are all blaming you. I think your attitude is very out of date...I sure hope you never have children.
• United States
20 Jun 11
After the initial shock wears off the parents of the 14 year old need to look at their options. Is the child a good student and should they look ahead to helping the child (since that's what she is) deal with graduating high school and then going on to college. Adoption is always a choice for the parents and girl having the baby. Marriage should not be considered because it won't last and then the child will have divorced parents.
• Philippines
30 May 11
If it's my cousin I wouldn't really care, most of them are responsible anyway. If it's my daughter, it's a whole new story. I might even kill the a-hole who did that.
@tjburcham (690)
• United States
29 May 11
Ok, I know this. I was pregnant at 16 and a few more times before the age of 20. Lost those pregnancies. I don't think my parents really cared what people thought, probably because a few of my aunts were in the same condition at their age, they just got married. Later divorced. But how does that help you? My youngest daughter was pg. at 14, miscarried, had a baby at the age of sixteen. Lost another pg. by the time she was 18. She is now 20. Not saying it was easy. She managed to graduate high school, get her cna and hold 2 jobs and pay for her place to live. I watched my grandkid alot at that time. Yes it's hard. Not the end of the world. When my daughter told me, I thought like this, how is this going to work. That little baby came into the world, and all was okay. If your cousin is going to keep the baby, help when you can, don't make the mistake of taking over parenting of the baby. Just help. Do what you can to help her finish school and get on her feet. Easy being a family.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
29 May 11
It is really sad when kids get themselves pregnant at such an early age. I actually blame society for not providing better education to these kids because they really don't know any better. Some people are able to succeed in life even after having kids at an early age. I just pray that the parents of this child will have her follow through with the pregnancy, even if she doesn't intend to keep the baby because there are so many couples that would love to have a baby that can't have one of their own, at least in my country. There needs to be a better education system to prevent such "accidents" in the future.
• Indonesia
29 May 11
It's a shock news. I think my first response is shout her out for all of hours. But after that, I know that we're all need to protect her. She's still kid and she might be realize made a mistake that can't be forgiven by the family. It's already happen and we can't deny anymore so the best thing is drive her and guide her to take the best way for next of her future. May be she will be young mom and tell her it won't be easy
@34momma (13895)
• United States
28 May 11
i was a young mother of 17, I know how she feels, i don't think blaming anyone is going to be a smart thing to do, I think supporting her in making the best choice for her is what everyone should focus on. some 14 year old girls are ready to be mothers and some are not. i don't know this girl but what i do know is making her feel bad is not going to solve anything
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Wow, your cousin is really young. If I were a parent, I'd hate to say it, but i'd get disappointed and sad. Disappointed with my daughter because she got pregnant at 14, but at the same time, I'll probably get disappointed with myself since somehow, this is how I raised my child. But then again, sometimes it does depend on the kid, no matter how good your bringing up is. I'd be sad because there are so many things that a 14-year-old haven't experienced yet. She probably hasn't even experienced going to a prom, let alone the other teenage stuff. While all the other girls are organizing their clothes and accessories and whispering about their crushes, this kid already has the responsibility of raising her kid. It's a sad, sad situation.
@sid556 (31003)
• United States
28 May 11
That would be a very difficult situation. Thankfully my girls are grown and it is not an issue that I will have to deal with. If my daughter had come home pregnant at that age I would have been quite upset at first but then I would have sat and talked to her boyfriend and his parents. The decision to keep the baby or give it up would have to be hers and I would support her in whatever decision she made. Yes, it would be difficult to provide for a new baby but we would find a way.
@anil02 (3345)
• India
28 May 11
It is almost impossible thing here I will never face this problem here we educate our daughter in well manner.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
28 May 11
That really sad to know about it. But what should I do is to accept the reality. She's pregnant and she need support from parents or relatives. If she is being pregnant that maybe her mistakes and something that she rebel about
• Canada
28 May 11
that is really sad.. 14 is such a young age to get pregnant.. she will look old now unless of course if she has several nannies to take care of her child.. too bad she wont be enjoying a real teenage life.. is she getting married with the father of her child?.. how is she now?
• India
28 May 11
I am too much disturbed to see that thing and of course this is the think which can't be taken out lightly, she has done a mistake and she has to face it. I will do some moral support to her in that case.
@arshan18 (51)
• Philippines
28 May 11
it's really sad on her part because she's too young to carry the responsibilities of being a mother. aborting the baby is not a good idea. being a relative, it's too late to blame her because it has been done. they just have to hope that the girl learned her lesson. and this will be a reason or factor for her to be motivated. it's better to face it and her relatives should be on her back. she badly needs their support at this time.
• Philippines
28 May 11
if i were you!? let her learn his lessons.. do not let her take abortion!! help here while teaching her.!!
@suvoneel (10)
• India
28 May 11
She's not matured enough to differentiate between good/bad, do's and dont's and especially how society reacts to that kind of a situation. still one would at least have to know what she wants.Instead of allowing her take a stand against the society and learn e hard result that she doesn't deserve,it would be better that you and her closed ones that includes her parents also should take a stand and do what u feel is right,sometimes that might also mean that you should go with the flow and certainly not against that. I mean c'mon..everyone commits mistakes.That doesn't mean that he/she should not get a second chance to rectify those mistakes.Create a situation that can help her forget the past and live life to the fullest on the days ahead
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
28 May 11
A difficult circumstances. Unfortunately, 14 years old girl pregnant. But, everything has already happened. Blaming the girl, could not reverse the situation. Throw away the baby, only adds to sin. It is not easy, being a very young age mothers, but the family had to help. Children are a gift from God. So, we should not be wasted. Not all women are given the opportunity to have a child.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 May 11
I also has a daughter and now 17. If this will happen to my daughter,of course i will be hurt and frustrated. But i never abort the baby,i will also not force my daughter to marry or live with the baby's father. I will support my daughter and give her another chance. I know this is not an easy situation...it takes a lot of love to understand when happens in our shoe.
• Philippines
28 May 11
That would be a total shock.As a parent maybe I would skin her hair bald.And slap her in the face. Or try to break her neck..joke..about breaking her neck. When I calm down, I would take a herbal sleeping pill and lock myself in my room.Hopefully when I wake up, i will realize that it was just a bad dream.But if the reality is still there, I will face my problem. Abortion is definitely a no no. I would rather concentrate on the solution and not on the problem. As if I have a choice. (^_^)
• Philippines
28 May 11
Oooohhhh... :( so sad because at her young age she will be come a mother... if that happened to my cousin i talk to her and i will explain what she did to her parents and what her parents feel to her, just only the words that i want to say to her... hope after your cousin give birth she will continue her studies.