I am so sorry that I invited you...

@dawnald (84147)
Shingle Springs, California
May 27, 2011 1:57pm CST
to that website, to my house, into my life.... Have you ever had anybody you invited in where you really regretted it afterward? Stories?
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
27 May 11
Hi. dawnald. I am so very sorry that I have invited the guy that I first made out with. I lost my virginity to this creep. I can't get back my innocence from him ever again. He just took it and he discussed how I felt to him, afterwards to my friends. At that time I thought that he was talking badly about me. But as I have gotten older I have realized that what he said about me was a compliment. I still felt that he had no right to discuss our personal and private lovemaking with anyone! I felt used after this too. If I'd knew then what I know now, I would have never chosen him to be my first, because he did not deserve to be "Mr. Right for me." Damn him!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
Anybody with any class and decency wouldn't have discussed it.
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
27 May 11
You are right! That is why I have regretted every moment of letting him touch me at all.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
I wouldn't beat myself up about it if I were you. It isn't your fault that he was a jerk...
@bunnybon7 (36490)
• Holiday, Florida
27 May 11
i sure have!! i invited my cousin to mylot, forgetting how he used to fabricate things and believe rumours hed heard about family, etc. it was a nightmare as he said things on my discussions that werent true so i had to (and not politely,as hed made me mad by then) ask him to leave. which luckily he did. rather not have a referral if thats how its going to be, you know
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
Yeah, no kidding!!!
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
28 May 11
Oh yes, I have quite a few, and the most recent was the friend who was deceived in thinking I am an enemy. I don't know if you recall the discussion, but a friend recently, probably due to her abusive husband's suggestion, stopped calling and blocked me from FB. What I didn't say is when we met three years ago, she was concerned because her husband would scare her friends away, and I said he won't scare me away, I will be here for you. Then every so often she would be amazed that I am still her friend, only to fall for whatever crap he fed her over a month ago...I am stuck in wanting to just ignore her, or to try to contact her again, and remind her of our previous talks...Then I think, if only I never let her in my life at all, I wouldn't be torn like this..:(
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Abusers do everything they can to isolate their victims from their friends and family. I hope she gets help.
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• United States
31 May 11
I know, and I have tried to help her where I could, and that is probably why she isn't talking to me anymore, because he knew I would try to help her if she ever decided to leave him..
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
I guess all you can do is let her know that the door is still open...
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Way... WAY back in the latish 1970's, Maggie and I were at the library and she started talking to this guy about religious books (that was her FIRST mistake.) Anyway, she invited him over (I got the creeps from him, but she was sure he was okay.) He shows up with a dozen or so bibles... Turns out he was some form of Jehovah's Witness or some branch like that. AFTER he had been there a while I finally had enough and asked him when his, so called, religion started. He tried to tell me with Adam or some sh!t like that. After trying really hard to pin him down, I finally told him. "You came here and have lied to me. Get out of my home," and pointed toward the door. He tried to talk me around. "OUT!" I told him, and started picking up his stuff to throw... to this day I don't know if I was going to throw them in his suitcase, throw them at him or out the door... He gathered his stuff and left. I told Maggie to not invite people like that over again. (Oh, if I had decided to throw them out the door, I'd've probably been aiming at the swimming pool just next to our apartment!)
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
6 Jun 11
Stunned look on his face?
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@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
6 Jun 11
yeah, that too, and stuttering trying to talk me out of it, or Maggie, but that didn't work, she just stood back and let the crazy lady throw him out!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jun 11
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
28 May 11
I have regretted letting my son practilly living with me when we first met and giving a key yo my apartment! I regret not getting rid of him sooner! I have also regretted a few people on my Mylot friend list,who will be not named!
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
28 May 11
Blue, You have a son?? Is this a story you told us that I've forgotten? Hope I'm not on your un-named regretted friend list!
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• United States
31 May 11
Yes this is the son I have talked about. No you are not on my un=named regret friend list! No way!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
whoa, when you first met? I missed something, I guess...
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
24 Jun 11
hi dawnald yes I have once regretted having invited a female penpal. She wanted to see a good part of my country and asked whether she could stay with me. I had a tiny two room apartment these days but said yes, did a lot of cleaning in there of course before she came to see me, plus also had to get a little creative with my cooking as she was vegetarian. Okay, so far so good. When she had left after two days with me I wanted to clean up my bedroom to use the bed myself again till she would come back a week later and pick up the really heavy suitcase she had left at my place (and into which I bumped a lot of times as it was stored in the tiny hallway). To my disgust I found a real mess there on and under the bed. She must have put her dirty suitcase onto my fresh made bed with good white sheets and bedlinen, they were dirty and I also found excess dirt under the bed for a stay of two days. hellooooo? ofcourse I didnt let her stay for another night. When her flight was scheduled to land I was there with that oversized suitcase and told her she could stay at the airport for the night thats good enough for her.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jun 11
Yuck...
• Lippstadt, Germany
24 Jun 11
thats what I thought as well when I realized what had happened. The worst thing about it was her absolute denial when I confronted her at the airport. That was the last straw to break the camels back. I am no neat freat but there are two rules in my home wherever that home is, one is, shoes off at the entrance door and the other is, nothing that has stood in the dirt on the bed (purses, suitcases etc. )
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jun 11
I think that's pretty reasonable...
• China
30 May 11
plese do not say sorry , due to this should be an wonderful time which happend in your life !! change is a part of life , so just cherish the currently what you owned is important. even when you lost it in future , also just let it go and it also be the golden memory in your life!!! best regard to you .
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
I think you missed the point of this discussion!
• China
1 Jun 11
Ok well noted and so sorry for your confuse
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
no problem
@p1kef1sh (45640)
27 May 11
"Regrets? I have a few. Too few to mention...." There was someone on this site once who i gave access to my life and she became quite abusive towards me for no obvious reason at all. Then she de-friended me and eventually left here altogether. But i'd not say that I have been overwhelmed with such problems. How about you?
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
Now you have me humming.... I've run into a few annoying people online. Fortunately it never got really ugly with any of them.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
27 May 11
Humming? As in humming a tune. Surely not as in an unpleasant smell? (Might be a British thing).
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
Definitely a tune...
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
9 Jul 11
yes. didn't think the invite will be RSVP'd so fast found out the true color and basically kicked the 'guest' out and cut all communication sometimes I wonder what would happen if I let the guest stay longer but the change was too dramatic I'd rather not
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 Jul 11
good you figured it out quickly
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
12 Jul 11
yep now I am 'clearing up my place' ready for new and better guests
@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
23 Jun 11
Gutsy are we? lol, well let's see yeah and no, I guess you could say they are my friends again but ya know about the one that i've blocked and all that. Meh you just can't pick the nuts out till ya talk to them for awhile!
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jun 11
recognize somebody, do we?
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
24 Jun 11
oh yeah I do, and very gutsy you are!
@shibham (17025)
• India
28 May 11
I regret when a friend is invited by me... enters to my room without taking off shoes and sit on my bed without washing the feet. It has happened to me various times. have a nice day.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
you wash your feet before you get in bed?
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Before going to bed, i brush my teeth, then wash my face and my legs from knees with cold water. It gives me a nice sleep.
@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
27 May 11
I remember telling a lady about my job in passing once, just when out and about. I didn't know her very well. SHe actually ended up coming to work there. I hated it. She was rude to people, didn't do her job correctly. I sure learned a lesson! And the referral stories. I have not had one that lasted. They always have their excuses. Oh, at first they were so into it and gunna be the best referral ever. Never.
@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 May 11
I still have two here who are at least somewhat active, and another who is really active but didn't sign up under me. lol
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@celticeagle (118254)
• Boise, Idaho
28 May 11
Isn't that the way of it though?!
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@marguicha (94646)
• Chile
27 May 11
I suppose everyone of us has a story or two of a friendship gone sour of a BF that was an a**hole. As it is, I had both of them. The worst part of it is that when you invit someone into your life is because you love him/her. And it hurts a lot when that person is not worthy of it. But still, it´s so difficult to break away and forget and forgive, mostly because we blame ourselves in part for it.
@marguicha (94646)
• Chile
27 May 11
Human relations should be easier. It´s easy to get hurt. IT´s one of those things that don´t get any better when you grow up. Just when I think I learrt, there comes a small variation and I forget. Still, life would be dull with no pain at all.
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
hi, actually i never had anybody i invite and i regret that person afterward,every time i have a person to invite i will assure that even a minute i will entertain him/her or go to talk to her/him for a short time.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Jun 11
Well that's good...
• Philippines
30 May 11
Too many people to count and too many faces and names that I want to buy somewhere. I don't want to name names, recall past and already forgotten relationships, open healed or healing wounds. I don't really want to carry a grudge but I felt vindictive in a short while after I discover that some people in my life played me for a fool. It's not a good feeling or a gesture to take revenge but I'm proud to say that I still know to control my feelings and remain civil. But I will admit that I have buried too many graves and I don't want to resurrect them. Better that they remained buried and forgotten.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Too many people out there with no sense of decency taking advantage of people.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
29 May 11
There's a few people in my life which I ended up regretting why I ever invited them to come in the first place. One such person which I initially wanted to help, turned out to be a budding con artist. But that was a few years ago already.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Hopefully not...
@gtdonna (1740)
28 May 11
Yes I do, but not actually invited in...I recently felt sorry for a co-worker who was having a difficult time feeding her family fo 5 so i told her we can go shopping and she can buy up to $100 worth of groceries. Lo and behold she started to full her cart and she just continued, when we got to the chekc out, she had over 250 worth of groceries in her cart and did not had the $150 extra so guess who had to pay it? ME! That was the last time i ever will invite her again to shop on my money. I am sorry, but if I am trying to help you and set a budget, then you shoudl stick to that budget...
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
I would have made her put stuff back. No, actually I would have been a wus and paid for it, but then I never would have done it again...
@maximax8 (28247)
• United Kingdom
28 May 11
Hi Dawn, On a vegetarian and vegan website I made some online friends. I dated a lovely vegan man. There was a discussion on the forum about vegetarian and vegan vacations. So I joined in with that discussion. A lady asked if I wanted to meet up with me at a vegan fair. I arranged to meet her at the train station and we walked over to the vegan fair. When me and the vegan man split up she stepped in. She dated him for a few months. I hadn't known that at the vegan fair she was working out a way to get my vegan man. She turned out to be very nasty to my ex-boyfriend. I regretted meeting up with her.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
People do stupid things over guys, don't they? So I take it that your children's father is out of the picture then?
• United States
28 May 11
I am sure everyone has had this experience at some point in their life... I think a large part of the problem is that we all have expectations of each other. Too often we see others as we wish them to be, not as they really are, and I think we can hardly blame them for taking advantage of that vision, as I am sure to some extent we do the same. We too often fail to take into consideration that others life experiences are different than ours and their responses to events will differ from ours...that each of us have our issues and some of us have disorders which may be undiagnosed but affect social interactions. Our choices are to continue to inviting new people into our lives or to close ourselves off, one leads to potential hurts the other leads to nothing.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
As we wish them to be, as they wish to be perceived, as we assume they are based on how we see things... Yep, it confuses things mightily.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
28 May 11
Oh ya. It's usually a guy that I date. I have been a single mom for years. I never wanted a new "dad" for my girls nor did I want help. Always always it seems that any guy I date wants to step in and "fix us" and take over....so so irritating! My girls are grown and on their own now except for the 17 yr old and so it's not such an issue any more. Oh and then there was the other extremes...the cool and lovable guys that the kids loved because they were like kids themselves. For some unforsaken reason they felt I should support them. They didn't work half the time. They were fun to be around and charming and all but I really could not justify taking from my girls to support them. No regrets. I learned and I learned to spot these types quicker as time went on.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Lot of them out there, are there?