Home Alone - Life is boring to be alone :(

All get back to home - boringg!! - Loneliness is Boring!
@besthope44 (12146)
India
May 28, 2011 9:59am CST
I never felt like this until am home alone for the first time in life. Well my hubby is on travel abroad, kids went to visit their grandparents in another state with my sister and uncle. My little girl taken her little new pup. My elder girl took the elder dog. So no one is at home. I cannot make up to get along with them until friday as am held with some bank works here. I never felt such loneliness, atleast my pups use to stay with me. Its empty all around, no shouts, no fights and no things broken without any dear ones at home. I dont feel like doing any works. I feel its hard to spend a day in loneliness? Is that really true all times?
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• United States
28 May 11
Hi besthope Am so sorry you are feeling blue. Do I ever know this feeling. It is just my boyfriend and I at home and last year he left on a work trip for 4 weeks and I was so alone and teary all the time. I will tell you what several on here told me; My pms work all the time, if you need to talk I am open ear all the time. Try and keep yourself busy as much as you can and remember they all will come back. It did wonders. It was quite comforting for several to offer. Therefore, I extend the same to you. Also come on here and vent my dear it is such a great place where many lend ears. Pamper yourself a little by resting and or doing some things you could not otherwise do while they were home. Before you know it time will definitely fly and your home will be filled with all the happy noise you so adore.
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@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi HWG, Thats so comforting your words. Yes, one reason may be I have never been alone so far. This may be one reason. I feel the loneliness more when i sit for my breakfast and dinner, where the kids and me use to have lots of talks. And night, I feel so sick, i put my pillows around and feel like kids are sleeping with me and the pups. You got me nice tips to get out of this, problem is my mind is not moving a step. Its a bank verification, so i need to stay back at home. I trying to focus on mylot, but they get reminded now and then.
• United States
29 May 11
I know this feeling well my dear friend I remember tears flowing as I was myLotting some days. Do know you will be fine and pamper yourself a little, even if it means just laying down and watching a little TV and or listening to some music. Best remedy is to keep busy so that before you know it, is night time and time for bed and one more day gone and the days will fly. My prayers will be with you.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
I tell you HWG, you understand me better a lot. I am trying to keep concentrate on other works. I am doing a bit gardening now, feeling good to see the plants and flowers so lovely. My kids called me now and nice to hear saying all they did with grandpa. Have you cooked and had your dinner when you are alone? I ask this because, i prepared the supper but i dont feel like having a spoon of it.
@original8 (108)
• Belgium
28 May 11
i like being alone :) some don't and some do but to me being all by myself gives me the oppertunity to make time for what i always wanna to do, because with others arround me, i could never do as i would want to.
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@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Original8, Thats give a thought of what i can do at these times. You are right, i can think of some works which i had no time to do. I use to stay with people all around, so i feel this kind of emptyness all of sudden.
• United States
28 May 11
I know that feeling, it's like we need the company of others because they know how to fill up the silence. I can't handle silence because it drives me insane. I need someone to be with, I can't do things on my own.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi EstiiBabii, Oh you got that word right, am searching for it. Its the silence. A complete silence at home is really killing me. My kids and pets will always keep the home with sweet noises and laughters. Now I really dislike the silence at home.
• United States
29 May 11
I think you should invite a friend over, I know it may not be the same as having your family there but a friend can help lessen the silence. That's what I usually do.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Yes Estii, Your idea did worked. I have my neighbour niece come on for vacation. They visited my home today and it was better for me spending time with them.
• Chile
29 May 11
hahaha... sound funny to my, not your situation, it´s difficult to be use to one situation and then change it completly.... i was use to be alone, when i was a teeneger my father worked all day while i was at school, then i went to work on a cruise line industry.... life can be very lonely sometimes... but i had the greatest time in my life when i was alone... now i have my family and sometimes i wish to be alone just for a minute!!!! i cann´t even listen music (my pasion) because my baby girl prefer tv .... anyway... enjoy to be alone for a minute... don´t get use to it, but lisen the music u like, watch the movies u like, prepare the food u like... you´ll see the time goes fast and your family´ll return soon... good luck...
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Marcelinka, Yes sometimes when its all sudden alone, it gives a emptyness. But if we can make use of the loneliness, thats a best way we can do something that we are missing so long. Am started with my gardening,knitting works back after several years. As you said, am just waiting for the time to go faster and thanks for the comforting words !
• Chile
31 May 11
good luck sweet heart, i hope everything works good for you!!!
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Thanks marcelinka, i am hoping the family very soon!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Well, it's really bad to feel loneliness but you need to be happy when people around not be there. Just try to manage yourself just by doing anything that makes you little happy...like writing something in mylot to ease your loneliness... Smile friend and don't think something. They are coming back and you'll be happy again...
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
You are right, i am just concentrating in mylot and feeling better. They keep calling every now and then and thats makes me feel better. I wish they will be soon and days get going faster. Thanks for the cool words!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
31 May 11
Okay, I want to say great! You've the right way, friend. Because me too when I feel lonely I concentrating here on mylot to express my loneliness...
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
True, Mylot is best place to participate and discuss when home is so quiet and silence. Hope family will be back soon to break the silence.lol.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
28 May 11
Madam: U are not alone. U are with your children and pets. U are also busy with bank work. Where is the question of loneliness. You are bored with bank work and hence you have posted in mylot. That is good. your point - do we sometimes feel bored when along -- the answer is obvious yes. That is why we see television, we browse internet, we read newspapers etc. have a good day.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Ravisivan, I am really alone. My kids and pets are at their grandpas home. I am waiting for a bank verification where i will receive a letter and i need to stay back home to sign it. I usually stay in a big family and atleast one or other use to stay with me. My Hubby was worried a lot when he left me for his official travel. Atleast i have my pets with me. I feel sudden emptyness, makes me depressed. I skip my breakfast though i had prepared it. Not feeling to do any work ravisivan, though i am in mylot, but my mind is with family out there.
@ravisivan (14051)
• India
29 May 11
Pl do not skip breakfast at any rate. Empty stomach will give scope for ulcer. Tune a radio, sit before computer or have youtube some movie and work side by side on computer. have a good day
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Yes trying to take some food. My kids called me few time back, so feeling good. Feeling better after getting some comforting words on mylot. Thanks for those caring words ravisivan. You have a wonderful day!
@sanijas83 (271)
• Latvia
31 May 11
Some time ago I was working in a different city, I was away from my family. During the day I was at work, but in the evening I was alone in my apartment, I wished to hear from my family, to receive a phone call. I have often been alone. I never really got accustomed. I tried to find some leisure time activities or socialize with people on internet.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Sanijas, Its nice to hear you adapt to the loneliness staying away from family. And i can understand that a call from home can cheer u up more happy. I am trying just now to adapt to such situation of being alone through activities, my lot and neighbors.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
30 May 11
Hi. besthope44. It is like this for me too whenever my kids go with their father to the store. I will feel very alone and like I am all by myself in this world. It feels strange to have the house to myself while it is so quiet. The silence is so very annoying. But I do love the peace though, the quietness is just irritating.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi cream97, You expressed it right. Though its peaceful, but the silence is really annoying and breaking the patience. It doesnot allow to have breakfast even. I am trying to pass these days until they all come back.
@bellis716 (4807)
• United States
30 May 11
No, it won't be like that always. I would have thought that you would be enjoying the peace and quiet, but since you are not, get busy and do something. Is there an older person in your neighborhood who would enjoy some company? If so, bake some muffins or cookies and take some to him/her. Stay a while and visit. Do some yard work, go for a walk or go shopping. Do some chores that you prefer to do by yourself without the "help" of your children, like painting a room. Keep yourself busy
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi bellis, True, first 2 days was really not adaptable for me. But now am just concentrating on other works like gardening and also feeling much better. Thats good tips bellis, will try some recipes on kitchen tomorrow.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
30 May 11
I am used to living alone so for the most part I don't feel lonely..but after my little granddaughter has been here and she goes back home the quietness is so loud! LOL...really..then I do feel a bit lonely!
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Jillhill, True grandchildren can make life so beautiful. Though am still a mom, but i really seen my dad having lots of fun with their grandchildren. Nice to hear, she fills up you day!
@mindym (979)
• United States
29 May 11
It is not a fun feeling to feel alone. I personally like "me" time to get away from the everyday hustle and bustle. It's probably boring compared to what you are used to. Enjoy this time to yourself to reflect and relax. Life is so busy that it is ok to not have anything going on from time to time. I don't have children of my own at this time, so I can't say for sure what you are feeling. But being a parent is a full time job in itself, so just take this time to do something fun that you would like to do that you would not be able to do with the family around.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Mindym, Yes you are right, i feel this is time for myself to do something which i wished for doing long time and having fun. But sometimes i get missing them especially at my sleeping and break fast times. Hope they are soon!
@murkie (1105)
• Philippines
29 May 11
i remember some years back when i was younger, i always wanted to be alone at home, or i tend to stay alone when everybody else wanted to go out. few years later, i was living alone in a city far away from home. all i thought it was just tv, food and sleep. it was not that easy. some days of it, it becomes boring and lonely. it made me appreciate things that i had been taking for granted. but i learned some other things, though. things that help me alot now that i am no longer alone, but rather managing a home of my own.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Murkie, You are right and even i have learned that loneliness also helps in learning many things, which we had no time to think of them. I have started these works from yesterday and feeling it much better.
• Indonesia
29 May 11
The first time I live alone without my family because I worked out of town is feel so much empty and alone, but I try to face it stronger. I'm young and I have to grow up. It's not for forever so why dont just face it and be mature. I still can call them even it's not the same situation anymore. By the time I learn that's alright live separately and alone from my family as long as my heart is full of them
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi redvakaurvaki, Its so great to hear you faced the situation of loneliness and you are strong to take up. You are right, as long as they are at heart, they are always near to us and never far apart.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
29 May 11
The last time I was all alone at home was more than 3 years ago. Although it was a bit lonely, I enjoyed it. I liked that I could be lazy, and not do anything. I didn't even cook, and just ate whatever. But before my mini vacation was over, I made sure I did something productive. So, I framed some photos that I was sure that my family would enjoy when they got back. Those framed photos are still on the walls.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Bounce, Thats cool to hear. Thats a good idea framing photos. Inface i take up my family photo whenever i miss them here. Nice you gave me some productive idea to get across these days.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
29 May 11
i dont know, i guess it is because i am an only child that i love being alone because i can do what i want with no one bugging me. i can read all day, eat what i want and when i want, its great!
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Cher, I understand your feeling of being only kid and enjoying loneliness. You showed me the beauty part of loneliness which i never thought of. Cheers
@Hatley (152380)
• Garden Grove, California
28 May 11
besthope been there and done that, my only family my adult son and I got split up. he lost his job , we got behind on the rent and zap were evicted so he is in gov housing while I am here in this very tiresome retirement center, we were homeless so we had to find some place for each of us to stay .,without money here you cannot afford to rent an apartment and the rents are outrageous, he finally has a part time job but not enough to get the two of us back into an apartment. I am 84 and diabetic so had to go along with my being here for now. i have a roommate and there are 90 other r esidents but that does not mean I do not get lonely thats why I am mylotting a lot all the time. retired and stuck here and not able to walk far I needed someway to interconnect with other people of all ages and mylot does that for me. hurray for mylot.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Dear Hatley, I am moved reading yours. Though you have come across hard times in your life, but you set us a confidence on handling things at your age. Now i feel really lite that I can still come across these loneliness and keep occupied. You may be so aged, but for us mylotters you are still energetic young angel cheering everyone here. You made my day.
@walif6 (11)
• Bangladesh
28 May 11
acutially i don,t know
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Walif, welcome to mylot. Sometimes loneliness makes us dont know what it is in life.
@thaMARKER (3096)
• Philippines
28 May 11
in my case, i would vrey much like that. most of the time i stay in my room when i was still living with my parents. whenever i'm alone back home, i just go online while listening to some good music, watch tv if they're airing good movies, cook or eat whatever mama left for me in our fridge. plus i love thinkin about whatever.. so i just lie down for hours until they're back home.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi thaMarker, Good to know that you do your wishes when you are alone at home. I really like how you all adapt to a situation of being alone. May be the first time making me feel sick. Let me try to keep occupied, but when i get reminded of the kids, am gonne.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
28 May 11
I would hate to be alone all of the time but it is good to be alone sometimes. It gives me time to myself to do what I want to do but I also miss my husband too when he is gone.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi Stephcjh, Nice to hear that loneliness is sometimes good to get finish of some works. So I am thinking how to keep me occupied these empty days. I understand how you would feel. If my hubby is here, I would feel more relaxed!
• Philippines
28 May 11
im a home-buddy, im not bothered being home-alone. i actually enjoy it compared to me being outside and being in a party - for me that is boring especially if the people around are not my close friends at all. I get to do alot when im alone and meditation is one of them :) being alone makes me become ALL-ONE :)
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 May 11
Hi GoldenPlanet, Really nice to hear you do meditation, thats a best one which calms and relaxes the disturbed mind. I like to do it, let me try. One reason is am skipping my breakfast and dinner as it gives a empty chairs. Let me try to keep me occupied and see if i get away these days.