People that flirt on Facebook
By joystick
@joystick (1675)
May 28, 2011 3:51pm CST
A friend of mine has been looking at something on face book and she has found something that is now getting her into arguements with her partner.You see there are a few women that tend to flirt with her partner and she did not realise until the other day that he has been flirting with them.The only way they know each other is down to a game that they have been playing on face book, not know each other apart from the game.Well he has been spending more time with these women chatting, then spending time talking to her and his children.Face book causes nothing but arguements.
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@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
29 May 11
Yes i guess facebook being open to so much people cause more people to get a chance to talk to that perfect person or persons who provide interest. What I am saying is that when you are in an environment it is hard to find someone you are interested in maybe because they are so little amount of people there. COmparing to those in the entire world. Now facebook is a way where you can connect between all these people and so you will better chances of meeting someone with much interest. Yes you might already be in an relationship but sometimes when you meet others you might just feel to play around. It isn't usually anything serious because you will be thinking to yourself that you will never really meet those people personally only over facebook. SO I really don't feel that it is an issue you should really take seriously.
On the other hand yes facebook do cause a massive of problems with people's relationship. As a matter of fact it caused a problem in my personal relationship as well in the past and it is one of the reason why my relationship end up breaking up. I guess when you get something that provides alot of advantage like facebook, there will always be some sort of disadvantages accompaning it.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
If you ask me, he has in the past proven that he is not to be trusted, yet he has managed to talk her round.Well, now she is stronger than ever, as this has just gave her more points to get a quicker divorce as well as it shows that he has broken the trust.Like my friend says where there is no trust there is no love.He kept telling my friend that he was chatting about the game, then she took a look and that was the first woman he was caught chatting up, the second and third women she found by accident as the internet connection had disapeared, so when she sorted it she saw all the inbox messages that had been sent by them women.To top it all last night her name was mud with all these people as her husband had been bad mouthing the wife, she said she was glued to their conversation and it was all about her, she never put nothing, she just kept reading all what they were saying.So i do not think she is going to even entertain anything he has to say, as everything that comes out of his mouth is a load of lies in her eyes now.A few years ago when they were also married he joined a dating agency and she printed it all off the pc, so that is yet another reason not to trust him.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
29 May 11
I would have personally say that it was not serious but he mouthing his wife has made the situation go so far. To me now I feel that this is a really serious situation particularly because i heard you say marriage. It is one thing to mess around with someone outside of marriage, but when marriage is now a factor, i really believe that partners should take things seriously. I see what he has done and I really believe he was out of line.
@celticeagle (158679)
• Boise, Idaho
29 May 11
I have seen some great discussions on Facebook. I have also witnessed some great family stuff and sharing of articles, tv events, family events, comedy, news, etc. So FB doesn't just cause arguments. It is huge and there is alot more going on than you think there is. Chatting and flirting is just the very smallest of things.
@celticeagle (158679)
• Boise, Idaho
29 May 11
Yep. Lies will kill a realtionship faster than anything. THat is sad.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
My friend dont care what he puts on there any more or who he chats up, but what has messed their marriage right up is all the lies that he has come out with and i am not only on about face book.I think it is a shame that he felt the need to flirt with other women, but this is not the only things that he has done and the trust has gone totally now, so what ever he do or say will not make a difference at all.
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@AmbiePam (85269)
• United States
28 May 11
It's a dangerous thing to do, flirting. If you're married or in a relationship you're asking for trouble when you flirt. Being friendly is different than flirting. And sometimes people take things too far, and end up actually meeting in real life when they had never met before.
@joystick (1675)
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28 May 11
I agree with you.I can not see why people tend to flirt when they are in a relationship with other people.I think that face book is a place to talk to people not to chat people up.I feel that some people are on there to act single, as well as make out as if their marriage is rubbish.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
There have been loads of things in the past that he has done, as well as what other people have said to my friend and i think that it has got to the stage that now he lies to her that their marriage has nearly come to an end.Like she said he has lied about stupid things and she even has show him that he was a liar, including face book.He is trying to tell her that he is quitting all the games that he is on, well to be honest she knows even if he do (she doubts that) he has still told one lie too many.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 11
hi joystick I am fed up with facebook in so m any ways and I stick to mylot insteadl. too many people seemed to think they can force me into 'that stupid farm thing when I am not a bit interested, I realize a lot of them are mylot friends butg if I am not interested in that game why
make me miserable over it., I have a right to do as I like to just like
anyone else here on mylot. I really do not like mylot. I think people get to hung up on it my self.thats sad if a man turns to flirting on faceb ook and ignores his own wife,. shame on him.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 11
error error error I meant I really do not like Facebook. sorry for that t terrible error. I love my mylot a lot lol.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
The game that my friends husband plays is called koc and it is a war type game.Except he has 4 citys and in each city he has a different woman he flirts with and chats up.I have seen what he has put as she done a few screen prints and sent them to me, just incase she needs them along with all the screen prints from their chatting.She kept a few print outs a few years ago from when he joined a dating site as well, so if he pushes her any further she will take it all to get a divorce as well as get him out of the house where they live with their kids.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
29 May 11
Hi. joystick. That is why I don't be on Facebook that much. When my husband is on Facebook, he usually is talking seriously to many people. He will not flirt with woman on Facebook. Flirting can be a dangerous thing to do, especially when you already have a partner that is in your life. Her partner has no business flirting with these other women, he should know better than to do something as stupid as this. He knows that sooner or later his girl will find out. Those females that he is flirting with just have no shame at all!
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
I think that he has spoiled the marriage, not just by all the flirting, but by all the lies he has told her and even when she confronted by her,he still said that he could not remember.lol.So as you can imagine the trust has gone totally and the worst bit is she said, she had dropped him hints, warned him and yet he still carried on.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
29 May 11
hello,
Ohh? that is really sad. 
how does this happened as easy as it was? I never thought about this but I also have a friend who acted like your friend husband. And I am really mad at him until now I dont like him to my best friend because he used to flirt to other girls. 
and I think that is not good because he already commited to my friend as well as yours. right? Facebook is really helpless.
how does this happened as easy as it was? I never thought about this but I also have a friend who acted like your friend husband. And I am really mad at him until now I dont like him to my best friend because he used to flirt to other girls. and I think that is not good because he already commited to my friend as well as yours. right? Facebook is really helpless.@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
What makes it worse is that this is not the only time that he has done something like this.It is not down to face book, but it is down to him and the way he is.He started all the flirting, so my friend found out.I think that as he has lied to my friend constantly about this kind of thing, that is what has really finished their relationship.The only thing is, is that even the children know what is going on and so do all the people on koc.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
29 May 11
I think many people think its bit a entertainment to flirt little bit with other people and then before they know they get involve or end up cheating on their partner.I agree that there might be something wrong with relationship but then you know long term relationships are not entertaining always.If kids are there some responsibilities and tensions come with it.Flirting,cheating is not a way to deal with it.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
I said to my friend that all the things that he has been doing, why dont she tell him that she is going to do the same, she had already told him that, you could say that he did not like it.I know for a fact that she is making plans as we speak to sort out a bit of his own medicine,lol.I just think that if you are married or in a relationship, then there should be no need to flirt, chat other people up.If he is doing this kind of thing on the internet what else do he get upo to when she is not about, when he is out of the house.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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4 Jun 11
I think that there are a lot of people that tend to flirt, not just on face book, but also when they are out as well.I think that there are people that are on face book that tend to do not think before they write anything, as well as there are people that go on there to flirt and chat other people up, not thinking of all the harm that it is doing to others.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
29 May 11
This is one of the reasons I resisted opening an account on FB for the longest. I knew that the site is more trouble than it is.
But after a while, I finally relented and opened one because I need notifications for a group that I belong to. I use it sparringly, and I always make sure that I don't do things that I would regret in the end.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
You are right that the site is a lot more trouble than it is worth.I feel sorry for my friend, as she thought as well as trusted her partner that he was sending what he said were co ordinates, instead of that he was chatting a few people up, as well as putting his wife down.I think that she has got now to the point that she is not turning back, the trust between them has totally gone and she said that she will never trust him ever again.After reading what other people were saying after he had gone to bed last night, she realised that he had been bad mouthing her as well as chatting other people up.She has a face book account, but she hardly uses it, as she hates seeing all the people argue on there.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
24 Jul 11
Hi Joystick, Its quite true. I use to receive requests from strangers whose profile pics shows what kind of people they are. Most of them are misusing it and causing lots of troubles for all especially girls. Its biggest headache for them.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
29 May 11
Awwh this is sad and yes I have heard it happen way too many times with close friends and their relationships. I would be so upset and heartbroken if it had happen to me.
Though Facebook and other sites too make it easy to flirt this way, it really is not the sites fault. It is the person who is the relationship fault because if the person had respect he would not have done so, is my thinking. I would be furious with my boyfriend if I had found out.
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
I think that my friend is over the heart ache, i think that she is angry more than anything, as last night she also found out that he had been talking about their so called life and all that is going on in it.She said the way it was worded by a person that was on a game is she is a hopeless person, so i think you can say she is not that happy.
@jameygc (452)
• United States
28 May 11
I prefer to limit Facebook only for close friends and family. I am not a fan of playing games. I also avoid any contact with past relationships so I don't get in this kind of troubles. My husband trust me and I think he deserves respect.
@joystick (1675)
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28 May 11
Right now, my friend is really angry to think that all the flirting has been going on months and most of it has been done in the chat bit of the games, as well as a lot of inbox messages have been sent to each other, so that his partner could not see anything on his wall.Even though the women he has been chatting up do not live in their area it is just the fact that it has happened.
@sweetme329 (500)
• Australia
29 May 11
Hi Joy, its sad to know that your friend's partner is spending more time with all these women. I don't know what sort of relationship does your friend share with her partner, but i am sure she must have been hurt with his activities. You are right that Facebook can cause some damaging arguments at times. I have heard of stories of people getting fired from work, couples filing for divorce because they were caught on Facebook. I hope your friend clears it out with her partner before its too late!
Good luck!
@joystick (1675)
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29 May 11
To be honest, i think that the trust has gone totally.I think that after all the other things that have gone on in their marriage i do not think that he can be trusted.When my friend was in hospital with high bp, her husband and his friend were on the internet and he joined up with a dating agency, she only found this out as his friend said if only you knew what he was doing on the pc.At the time she could not use a pc, so with a bit of help she was shown where to look and that was just one of the things that she found, he tried saying he joined it for his friend, even though his date of birth and other details were on there.Any way she printed it all out and she still has that.Then he was sending a female work mate things on face book and a friend who works with him sent her an inbox and told her, so yes she printed all that out as well, that was just over a year ago and now all this.I think their marriage has been doomed from day one.She has had enough of his lies and it seems that if this is what he has been doing while at home, what is he up to when he is out.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Well, this must be avoided by any couples. Flirting to anyone because this social networking is not only someone but anyone. Member is from all over the world...If you get alone with someone. People may know who you are and what you are...
There are people around that popular networking site. Will be your relatives, love ones and families.
We need to be careful on the shameful acts that we are created that way...
@Matpunk85 (1066)
• Italy
29 May 11
Well, in my case Facebook has been very good...I met my girlfriend! 
