How Can I Stick My **** At Home ???????

@zed_k4 (17627)
Singapore
May 28, 2011 10:36pm CST
I'm a busy , busy person. Whenever I get the chance to stay at home , it won't be for long because there are always activities for me to go and seek out. If it's not with family , it's with friends or anybody else who wishes to entertain me or those that I wish to tag along by organizing. The most important question I would like to ask is , with all this madness how can I stay grounded?? I know being in myLot helps ...and I could do this at work while at home too .....and I could chat , Facebook , Twitter , email and everything and anything else. But I've done that , and I still can't stick my **** at home. My friend even suggested online shopping but I just errr ..that's not my favorite at all. So what can I do to stay rooted at home ? I want positive answers and not like getting sick to stay at home. I can bring in guests to entertain too , but ultimately , what is the best way for me to stick at home so I don't get busy always going out. I don't want to treat my home like a hotel , only to eat , drink , shower and do my Internet things. I need to be more grounded. Any suggestions in humor or serious style will be appreciated. Thanks folks. Oh yes , don't say get married , be bored and have babies because that's just old. And also don't suggest sleep. Not my cup of tea at the moment and who sleeps anymore these days.....
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@himzey (1321)
• India
29 May 11
Hey Zed ! Now thats something hard to suggest. I usually dont have to fight hard to keep myself grounded. But, what works for me might be a torture for you.. lolz :p Of course, mylot is a good way of confining yourself to home; for a while though. Have you ever thought to "pen" your thoughts, experiences or your views about something. Maintaining a diary is really a good habit, and may keep you occupied and grounded for a while. I believe you are a thoughtful individual and your posts reveal your intellect. Certainly, you have a lot of thoughts to share about. Or you may start some odd job at home; search the net for some part time you can do from your home. I hope it works for you. :)
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@himzey (1321)
• India
29 May 11
Ruzzel's suggestion is good too. Gaming is really a divine experience for us..lolz.. :p Boyz rock !! ;)
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Hahahhaah yea ... divine .....gaming will keep us rooted .....since sleep is a thing of the past.. teeehee... Try me himzey , so what's your secret ingredient? I used to have a blog and then suddenly I lost the time to write. Thanks bro , you give me the inspiration for sure.....I'm not an intellect as you. With 63 posts you have managed to inspire a lot of us to be glued. Even I have not create discussions for a long time and then suddenly with the outbursts of great friends , I'm making discussions again. But I think I shall stop soon , need to catch up on other friends discussions which are aplenty in my Inbox.. Anyway back to the topic .... I don't need a job , it's already tiring outside , with office hours .... and sometimes I have to be on standby ..so it's just me-time at home ...rest and chill. I just need that "pull" to keep my leg rooted at home , if not I'll take the keys and just go out.
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• United States
29 May 11
Speaking of games and grounding and such, I think think that I might have a few things that might work. *searches in supply closet and pulls out chains, boulders, handcuffs and a few other accessories* Yup, I come prepared ...
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• Philippines
29 May 11
after years of being on the road because of my work, living in hotels and different cities... i am finally working from home with just an occasional travel. i used to think in the same line... how i would find myself home and not be out too much. now i got it but my family now wants me to go out and do something beyond the business. when you find yourself alone, what would you like to do best? i used to remember that you kinda liked putting something together in the kitchen... or perhaps it's just one of your old photos that i remember. some activities or hobbies at home that consumes time is anything to do with art (painting, drawing, photography, scrapbooking etc), home improvement (carpentry, interiors, gardening/landscaping etc), culinary skills (baking, cooking, trying out new recipes), and writing (blogging, making articles or book). you can do it yourself or have it done with somebody. if you like to watch movies or you have favorite shows but missed seeing them, you can get a copy and have a movie marathon at home. my friend and i once did that over the weekend, pausing only to take showers and a few hours of sleep. it was like our bonding weekend and we even ate while we watched. because we both knew, come monday, both of us had work and our schedules don't exactly match because i work daytime, she works the night shift. but hey, sleep is quite important for our health. i hope you don't neglect that just because you want to keep busy. the body and the mind both need to rest too. take care.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
myles! Where have you been all this while ..great to see you again.... It's so cool that you are finally working from home. Yes2 ... I love to experiment in the kitchen , but I just need to remember not to make it into a scientist lab or something ... Thanks for the reminder , myles. It's great that you do.. OK , the DVD / movies thingy work for me..but movies will be out the home and watching DVDs at home , so it's cool.... I think sleep should be alright. I need to really sleep...I miss sleep although it's overrated for me..Thanks for all these suggestions...you've been a great help.
• Philippines
29 May 11
it's great to be back... every once in a while. i do try to respond to friends' discussions. i just didn't start new discussions because of... a lot of things. being busy is one. i just remembered a photo of you some time ago in a kitchen setting. i can't even remember if the kitchen tiles has a light green to moss green shade or it's the light playing up on my vision. 6 hours of sleep should do it for you. on most days that i don't have a speaking engagement, then it's home for me... attending to business, concerns at the house, arranging family celebrations/occasions and planning work-related events. i actually love it when i have my quota of sleep.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
That's awesome .... ahead of your busy life ... just like me too .. we must remember to stop and breathe once in awhile...teeeheee....well whatever your reason is , it's so great to see you back...
@topffer (36692)
• Bandar Lampung, Indonesia
29 May 11
In an interest called "live my life to the fullest", I would not stay at home to live my life to the fullest, but I can perhaps suggest you to replace your stairs by a toboggan -- nice to go downstairs, a bit more difficult on the other direction, but a lot of fun --, full your bathroom with balloons, invite some friends for the weekend and put nettles in their bed... You can have a lot of fun at home, zed.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Depends on the crowd too ..the more monkey behavior the better..
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• United States
29 May 11
Top, are you suggesting that there are not things that would keep you at home that would also allow you to live life to the fullest? I mean, I guess that you could do those activities in the middle of the community garden or some other public place, but I am not sure that would be such a good idea. Is France really that much different than America? I mean, those activities would definitely draw a crowd here, but you would also get arrested for it. Is it not the same in France?
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@topffer (36692)
• Bandar Lampung, Indonesia
29 May 11
Why not the middle of a railway ? Some activities are private, but I think I would be arrested more quickly if I was distributing candies to little girls in the same community garden.
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@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
29 May 11
Anchoring home - This should keep you at home
You need to slow down. One thing getting married and having children is not OLD. It's part of life and sounds promising. Here, take this, that should keep you at home. Tie it around your ankle.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
I'm not saying it's old old .. but like it's not in my agenda for now , sweets.. hehehe.. Thanks , hon ..you'll surely make a good mom someday. Hahahahha !! Love that picture...
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
29 May 11
Old mom that is. Anyway, i think it's time you settle down. Glad you like the pic.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Thanks Saph , I'm glad that you care for me...
@vandana7 (69055)
• India
29 May 11
Get a beautiful interior decorator to do your home..and pay her half the amount..she will keep coming every second day, keep asking her to change someting, and again pay half the amount...do that until you fall in love with her, get married to her, have kids, and grand kids..okies. Serious one..start an office at home.
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@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 May 11
Loved the do that until you fall in love with her - He definitely needs one by his side and he will enjoy life better.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
I'm thinking of budget ways , so maybe Aunt V you can send me some drawings ... so I can find second hand stuffs to decorate them , teeheee. I don't need girly projects Aunt V , you should know me by now.. I don't need to fall in love , I just need to stick at home.....stay at home , stay at home .........maybe I can transform my room into a Transformers ... like you can come and entertain me , cook for me virtually ...ehehheehhe ..and then I'll stay at home and watch you cook .... thesids , I hope to have one like yours someday.....
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
29 May 11
There's of course another way, best solution of it all. Stay away from home for weeks or even months. Check yourself into a real hotel or stay with friends, do a different routine from your usual. By the end of the week or month, u would be missing your home for sure.. haha =D Leave your comfort zone, which is your sleeping and eating place. When u have no place to call your own, u would cherish it more when u owned it again.. haha
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Hahahhahahah ... I love this answer. True2 ....nothing beats like home , homey sweet homey..
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
31 May 11
If it still doesn't work out, opt for camping.. haha =D Get a taste of being chased away by police, rangers, guards, having your sleep disturbed at any time of the night. Then u will realise the importance of good sleep.. haha
@drannhh (15241)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I have the BUSY social life disease myself, lol, so we are in the same boat. I guess it is good to have friends and lots of activities, but sometimes I'd like to come up for air and you know what I mean. One way I tried to "ground" was by planting a lot of baby trees and flowers, but then I have friends to look after them when I'm gone so I go anyway. So you see that didn't work. But there are little grapes forming on the grape vine I planted, so that is cool. I love to work with plants, but even they do not keep me home.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Jun 11
That's just cool .. and hope your mini plantation will bear more fruits in the long run.. I'm not so good at planting , so perhaps I'll just stick to having people around or just catch up on DVDs or the lot. Until then , it's the outside world .....with lots of activities..
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
I don't know, maybe some home improvement work? Paint the place or something? Or entertain, have friends over more often.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Jun 11
All ideas are cool , I might have to do some home improvements ... soon..
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
30 May 11
I don't think I would worry about it right now if I were you. There will come a time when you want to spend time at home. Enjoy having something to do where you aren't at home all the time. There are already too many people who stay home when they get the chance..like me. I used to be like that, but I am happy when I get the chance to stay at home now. I still like to do things, just not as many and not as often.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
31 May 11
Thanks Jenin ... yes whenever I get the chance to be home , I'll cherish them. There are tons of DVDs for me to watch too , and mylotting helps for a bit haha...take care my fiend.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
29 May 11
Hi zed, you should cherish your freedom while you still can and get more 'fresh air' outside the perimeters of your home. Once you have signed on the dotted lines, the scenario will change as you will be under the clutches of your madonna. Maybe the only way you can reduce your outdoor activities now is to learn to say No to some of the people who entice you to be with them. Spending a ME time alone at home listening to music is quite entertaining.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
30 May 11
Zandi , it's always good to see you again. I hope you are doing fine wherever you are.. Thanks my friend , I do think your advice is pretty useful. We should really enjoy our personal time and freedom whenever we get the chance to. I will try my very best to reduce my outdoor activities. I have travel plans to make soon and I hope that after that one , I'll be able to stay grounded at home for a little while. Just enjoy music , watch DVDs aplenty and just me-time like you said. Oh yes , many people told me that once they sign the dotted lines , there will be lesser time to do what they want to do; something like that. Have a good day Zandi..
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
29 May 11
You know, there is such a thing as being TOO busy! You need some down time, time where there is nothing to do if even for an hour, when you can sit at home and enjoy it with no obligations. People who are as busy as you seem to be eventually suffer health problems so you should think about slowing down. Set some priorities, decide what is really important to give your valuable time to. We only have so many days here on earth and should spend them wisely, stopping to enjoy some moments of solitude once in awhile and enjoying our homes. Otherwise we will have accomplished nothing here except being busy. And die early of stress.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
I know my dear friend ..... I really have to take care of my health. Insomnia problems .... night or day , it's the same. But during my non-standby hours , I try to catch up on sleep. Thanks for the advice....
@ellie333 (21029)
29 May 11
Hi Zed, I remember when I was young I was only home long enough to eat, shower and change and go back out again and my parents used to accuse me of using the house like a hotel, think it is a youth thing, in hindsight though I should have made more of an effort to stay in at least one day a week and enjoy some family time maybe watching a film and having a takeaway. Haven't any suggestions really other than find a good book which you can lose yourself in and stay sat long enough to read it or if there is a garden perhaps ask if you can have a section to grow you own stuff in, definitely bring you back to earth and ground you that one lol, some sort of interest though to keep you at home. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
A book ! AHaaaaaa , finally a refreshing idea. Really2x .. I've been meaning to read for ages. Perhaps I can start continuing back. Thanks ellie , it's so great to see you around again. The garden idea is also refreshing. I live in a flat (like a small apartment) so I can do that .... but first I need to learn how to grow different types of plants. So I can find out about that. Thanks ellie , you've been a great help.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 May 11
Hi Zed Oh dear! Ok, get your office or work at home as this is the only thing that seems to interest you... Many opinionated their views of what you can do at home... but from how I look at things, you kind of have some issues with the word called Home Please consider treating a Home as a Home and not as a House. ps. not offence intended, just my view. sorry if I got it across with wrong words (as that is so normal with me)
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Bro , it's already work outside so at home I need a peace of mind ... so not going to be home office for sure.... I don't have any problem treating my home a home ... so I want to try my best to make it work and stop my itchy legs from going out all the time. It's a commitment and I have to start , so I have to look for ways. NO offense how can that be ... I like your suggestions .....
@Hatley (164448)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 11
lost my response grr grr hi zed do like hemmingway told a young would be author"son I sit the seat of my pants on this chair and do not leave till I have written for at least four or five hou rs. success does not just fall in your lap, you have to work for it." So make a s chedule and stick to it till you have accomplished whatever you want to accomplish Zed., Make it a thing you must do every weeek day for a certain number of hours and stick to it each day. happy sticking to it.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Thanks Hatley. I am the biggest non-commitment dude and I get bored and restless easily. I can't stick to one project for far too long so I have to keep busy. But your advice is really good and I will try not to procrastinate too long outside while with whoever. Maybe I can bring my inspiration outside and then use all those ideas at home. Thanks sweetie , have a good day.
• Canada
29 May 11
For me, grounded means staying in the same city. LOL My little apartment is so tiny I want to spend as little time in there as possible. If, however, you have a nice place where you'd like to spend more time, do it! Set up a craft table, a jigsaw puzzle, a hobby room, a home office, any thing that will make your home more attractive to you.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
A hobby room! That sounds real cool. Maybe I can do it someday when I move out from my parent's place. That would be so cool , I can imagine pasting photographs of scenery and all those. Thanks for the suggestion danishcanadian.
• Philippines
30 May 11
hello zed, I was been a busy bee before studies,gimmick,endless work,different activity I've been like this for 5 years until one day I get tired of the same routine I have asking myself why I need to do this if I can stop and pause for awhile. I realized even I am single I still have a family that I need to look and ask how are they there were times mom complaining for not seeing me for a day though we are living in a same house our schedules did not meet I will just kiss her on the morning and leave home when I got home she is already sleeping. Our house seems a place where I can left my things and sleep for 4 hours but now I appreciate it more because of my family that's why I don't bring my work at home at least I can spend time with my Mom and Sister . Put some scented candle on your room relax, think all the things you want to do in life put some music and take a rest for awhile. happy mylotting
• Philippines
30 May 11
i like this photo of yours. you can keep this for your skype too. letranknight should have a new horse by now and jaiho should get herself a skype account. lol i can't imagine you bringing your work at home. it's almost like transferring the entire shop and the trucks to your home. that's a huge load. hehe peace!
• Philippines
30 May 11
@ myles, I think I should start looking for a cowboy too Not the shop I got lot of sideline jobs before and I give it up one by one so what I had now is the shop only but sometimes if my boss call me and there is a job well if the price is right I accept it unlike before that I almost grab every offer they can give me
• Philippines
30 May 11
there are cowboy look-alikes in mexico. sidelines... lol so did i. aside from research and consultancy, i did food catering on the side, article-writing, and kiddie parties. not to mention i was like on the board of trustees for a foundation and supporting charities. plus family event organizing, flight booking etc (without financial compensation of course). it's good that you can be selective in the side jobs. it leaves more time for family.
@mysdianait (64438)
• Italy
29 May 11
Get a kitten! Not a cat or a dog (which would need to be takenfor a walk) but a young kitten! You will have to go home to feed it and it will be so pleased to see you that you won't want to leave it there alone so you will stay in. If you go out you will discover on your return that it will have created havoc and all your papers will be strewn all over the place (assuming that they are not ripped to shreds ) You will not want to go out ever again - especially if you allow it to have kittens later on too
@himzey (1321)
• India
29 May 11
Ha ha .. I agree !
@mysdianait (64438)
• Italy
29 May 11
When Zed reads this, I fear I might lose a friend
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
No , you will never lose me D ....hahahahhaha ... in fact I'm honored that you are able to make your lovely steps to my small discussion here....hugs for you. D , I am sloppy with kittens. I think a low impact time for me to have a pet would be a hamster ... that will be cool. Then I can set up a hamster home ...just me and hamster ..and I can watch it run on the tiny wheels , give it food.... Great pet idea... @himzey
• United States
29 May 11
Or you could get a wife, stay home and NOT be bored, which would also go along with not sleeping and the petting zoo comment above .... unfortunately this could lead to the babies thing, though.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
Boring , next answer...that will not anchor me silly pilly.. Hhahahaha ..give me a poem or two...
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
But , but ..if you are there with me at home purple , then that will be a different thing altogether..
• United States
29 May 11
LOL! If you read between the lines, my dear Zed, then you would have realized that what I was suggesting would not at all be boring, especially if you had to do it while anchored to something ... like the ceiling for instance ...
@skysuccess (8881)
• Singapore
7 Jun 11
zed_k4, I am sure your family will understand your predicament and that it is never your intention to treat your home as a hotel or temporal residence. All of us have our life to live and matters to deal which just cannot simply be done from our home. Unlike you, my job takes me away from my country and home most of the time where I am barely home for more than 60 days a year. So, you can imagine how I am going to be and feel if my family does not understand my work and me. Especially, my wife who is ever so supportive of my work and me. However, it is never a one sided affair, where I have to make the effort of keeping tabs with my family members and relatives by and large which over the years had been simplified by technology starting with our internet enabled smartphones to our computers. So, let me assure you that I know families involved will understand.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Jun 11
Thanks sky ..you make me understand to appreciate home more.. And families too ..they are the best..to hold us when we are up or down.. Thanks buddy..
@ruzzel016 (241)
• Philippines
29 May 11
hello zed, that was my problem before and what I did I just buy a pc games in my favorite game store then I found a game SIMS 3 which is a one of the best game because you are just like interacting to real world though it is a game.. I hope it helps to your problem..
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
29 May 11
ruzzel , cool name.... I don't like Sims unfortunately. Used to be cool until they prove otherwise ... so pass..... Nope , I still need to be glued at home...