Some discussions should no post. Yes/no?

@shibham (17025)
India
May 28, 2011 11:32pm CST
Hi everyone. Some discussions should not post here in mylot. I want your valuable responses here regarding yes or no... " i love my mom/dad......", " my mom/dad has done something in favor of me....." or some others related to parents.... because there may have some mylotters whose mom or dad is not alive ( may be orphan too) and such discussions may hurt them. Same to brother/sister discussions...... " my kid makes me proud...", " i enjoy my kid's funny stuffs....", there may have some lotters without having a kid in their entire married life. Boyfriend/ girlfriend discussions also may hurt someone if he/she is searching true love. when someone posts their intimate moments, then it may bring some tears to some mylotters. Don't say that we should not post, we should if we wish to learn or suggest or seek advices regarding such relationships. but not to share your enjoyment or attachment with your close one...as someone here may miss the same and... your post has forced him/her to suffer a lot. Please think for a while.... no offense meant.
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• United States
29 May 11
Hi shibham I feel it is okay because some discussions of personal nature actually help others who may not post to it but find it being helpful. This is an adult forum and therefore anyone who signs up surely understands that the content on here is specifically for adults. Therefore if something is not of a preference for one they can simply ignore it and not endure any hard feelings with it. I personally know many who post very sensitive discussions on here and have made some special friendships because I have been able to apply humble advise that the person has conveyed appreciation for. There are a lot of members here who actually have been saved by so many of us just by simply listening to them and apply humble advice.
• Philippines
29 May 11
yes. i'm sure many can appreciate. and coming here to mylot has been some sort of therapeutic for those who got stressed out at work, at home or even with the relationship issues that one experiences. i'd be the first one to admit that mylot helped a lot when i was emotionally down. and i appreciate mylotters and mylot friends alike, whenever they give a word of advise or simply make one's day a happier one.
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• United States
29 May 11
Hi there, Yes I too have had a great deal of not so great days. I actually enjoy coming here for several reason, I find that many have been able to allow me to smile, and laugh when no one offline was able to. I also have received some wonderful advice to some very touchy situations offline that really allowed me to think clearly about the difficult moments. Not lastly, because my list can go on and on but when I come on here and read that someone has been diagnosed with cancer, a daughter was harmed, a person who is awaiting surgery, etc. etc.. it gives me a really hard look at my own issues and find that I am a truly blessed person. That understanding of their hardships allow me to be yet more humble, understanding and caring toward others.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
hi hwg.. what can i say beyond you... nothing... as i have said above that you are a good mentor here... When i joined mylot, i had no idea, i just came through the link of a colleague. I just wanted a site where i can get some foreign friends. Later, i saw that i have earned something... no interest to earnings... i was benefited by my friends with suggestions and advices and saw that my poor english also improving. Oh thanks to mylot and all of you my friends. Take care.
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@sajeevking (5080)
• Mumbai, India
29 May 11
mylot is about sharing and we are free to discussion any thing here that we want if some one is orphan and he see the his mylot friends is really loving his parents, kids or any thing no one would feel bad about it don't we want every one to be happy even if we aren't ??
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• United States
29 May 11
Hi sajeevking, As an orphan myself who has such a positive outlook in life and managed to raise two wonderful children on my own, many other orphans appreciate my sound and humble advice.
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• Mumbai, India
29 May 11
Hi HWG i certianly like to read your advice all the time they are much helpful to newbies like me
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• United States
29 May 11
How sweet of you and I merely conveyed that so that shib, understands that while some may have momentary issues, hearing from someone like me and the many others who has lived the life and walked the walk, actually does wonders. I know a member who has been here for 4 years and she happily says she has lessened her visit to her psychologist because of the wonderful members here on myLot.
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@thesids (22362)
• Bhubaneswar, India
29 May 11
hi mamu It was Saturday Night yesterday and now I am wondering where had you been No Discussion Anywhere Can Teach Anything to Anyone and Every Single Word of Any Discussion Can Teach Many Things to Anyone... it all depends on how you take it.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
29 May 11
dear sids, And your mamu can't stop and cannot avoid going to bar/s
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
29 May 11
Are chhotu, You said the righttttttt words. Just see, I too do not like some of them and as do not like I avoid. Its simple. When discussion that is worth responding is there I go there.
@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
Agree mamu you are right. every discussion teaches us with several aspects... may be worried or joyous... not a matter at all. but who are we to make some one wept. Its better for a respondent to skip such discussions where they can't relate himself... Different views are always welcomed. Have a nice day. Meet you boss just later.
@mtrguanlao (5527)
• Philippines
29 May 11
Hi amigo! It's a free world out here amigo and so as mylot. There are just some rules here in mylot but that's to assure that everyone gets a good discussion. I do respect everyone here who wants to post anything about their personal lives. It is in that way that I am able to know a mylotter more. You've done some personal posts too amigo,right? So it's very fine with us and I'm happy you're being open for it. See yah amigo!
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi amiga... yes, we are happy that such a discussion like mylot exists. Me too respect everyone's feelings and wordings... but there are some issues that we can certainly avoid while posting a discussion. I am justing trying to tell it. Yeah, i have no secrecy in my life and my life is like an open book. I am about to expose another fact of life later on here amiga. Have a nice day.
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• Philippines
2 Jun 11
I'll be waiting for that story of yours amigo. Have a nice day too!
@Porcospino (16425)
• Denmark
29 May 11
I understand what you mean. It is true that some members can get hurt when they read about the happiness that other people experience, but I don't think that it would be right to ban those topics. I think that we should be able to express our sadness as well as our happiness. If we come across a discussion that is too painful we are able to leave it without reading it and we can choose which interests we want in our profiles. If it is too hard to read about children we can skip interests about parenting, if it is too hard to read about relationships we can skip interests about love etc. We are not forced to read discussions that make us sad, it is our own choice how we spend the time on MyLot. There are some discussions that I always skip because it find them painful to read, but I don't see why I should stop others from discussing those topics.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
Hi porcospino.. thanks that you have understood. No, i neither say to ban those topics nor to post. Everyone are welcomed to post such topics but before posting should reread the post as it cant hurt any one by any means. This is my humble opinion that i wished to share. Its true that a lotter can pick up a discussion according to their choice and can respond, no one is obligated here to respond. Agree. have a nice day.
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• Philippines
29 May 11
hello shiby, Mylot is a open forum site that will be fine as long as they are not violating any guidelines everyone here wants to share what is happening to their life happiness or sadness if you think they should not post something like that then you should not post your Lady Topic as far as I remember the Lady Number 19 almost have an intimate moment if you did not control yourself (but who knows what really happened?). We came from different part of the world, we don't have same feelings maybe some will get hurt but that will be unintentional unless someone post that discussion to hurt someone. I love this site for many reasons and one of them is I can freely express and share what I really felt. happy mylotting
@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
Hi bhaby.. i know that its an open forum and everyone can participate according to their wish but when we share our bad events here then we get some consolations and supports, thus when we share something regarding happiness, then we are congrats by others who may be not so lucky to welcome such happiness. Just a strike on your mind.. but entirely, it depends on the individual where to respond or not? I am fully free to share my feelings and if i would have to conceal something, then i will not post lady 19, but yes, somewhere its hard to write the entire event as it may me more descriptive and a reader may ignore it for its length. Have a nice day.
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@allknowing (61699)
• India
29 May 11
myLot consists of users having different backgrounds but the site is so designed that it is possible to interact with every user if they post discussions that interest another user regardless of from which country they come from , whether male or female, whether young or old, whether rich or poor,whether sick or healthy, whether single, married or widowed, whether with children or no children, whether having a job or idle - the list is endless. All one needs to do is to pick topics that interests them and create topics for which they need responses. It is not possible to exclude topics as mentioned by you as then myLot will have zero topics to discuss on!
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@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
No friend. I am not saying not to post at all... i am just trying to share about the feelings of others that why type of impact can force them to think differently. I never say not to share such discussions but we should at least give some preferences of other feelings. I dont think that there will be zero discussion to participate... No offense meant as i have cited above just sharing my humble opinion have a nice day.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
29 May 11
Let's talk about the weather, Shiby. We will only get thunderstorms that way.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
okay... so how it is? lol hmm.... thinking. have a nice day.
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@flagella08 (5069)
• Philippines
29 May 11
having no experience may not deprive anyone to comment here. mylot is about sharing everything, even opinions and ideas. we're here to extend our views. it's also great to have people who spent time visiting your posts' pages. you should consider yourself lucky for that. you may not even realize that all emotions are present here. just enjoy and have fun, regardless of having no valuable responses.it's always the thoughts that count. don't mind posts that you don't like.it's just a waste of time and electricity.
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@shibham (17025)
• India
31 May 11
Hi flagella... I have already passed 3 years here in mylot and have understood this site a lot. I have shared almost all types of discussions here... no discussion can make me weeped but yes, i may disappoint or worry for a while... i have the heart to accept everything... but all are not same dear friend. Okay, its an individual's choice where we should participate or skip? have a great day.
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
29 May 11
dear bhai, Then mylot will die
• Mumbai, India
29 May 11
agreed
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@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
29 May 11
hello sajeev, This shiby is ranting ..he's single,and doesn't have a heart so he found discussion about love -not fit for him... but...you must note that he has 32 ladies...he's on his 19th..so how many more ladies to come ?
• Mumbai, India
29 May 11
i don't think he does not have a heart but he is just or things too much about others
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
30 May 11
I know what you are saying, but sometimes it's not so bad to remember. Maybe, even though it brings sadness for the moment, it gives someone the chance to vent their emotions or talk about something they might not have before. This can actually be a type of therapy if you think about it.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
hahahaha... no need to do anything as i am not saying not to post. have a nice day.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Sorry jen... i did not post above comment to you... its a problem of my copy paste. sorry. here the comment for you.. I am agree with you that it may be like a therapy and a lotter can treat him/herself better than before by participating on a discussion like above, i have mentioned. Actually i did not mean not to post as most respondents have misunderstood my topic. I just wanted to know your valuable comments regarding this issue. Anyway, have a nice day.
• Pamplona, Spain
29 May 11
Hiya shibs, Why should´nt we write about all that what you have just mentioned? We all fall in love, have problems with Family and Husbands. Yes we could get some advice as to how to go about things if we need some advice. There are times I think that we can´t see the Forest for the Trees and maybe other People can help you see what answer you are looking for. I am reading what Jaiho says and the other user responding to her. That is funny shibs too. Maybe I am Lady number 300 and something what about the rest of us Girls? Shibs does have a heart of course he does puts that across in what he writes on his discussions at least for me he does.xxx No offense for me take care now all.xxx
• Pamplona, Spain
29 May 11
Me again, Forgot to mention that I am talking about disucssions that are not extreme ones. Ones like I have a Boyfriend or Girlfriend who likes going out somewhere else and I don´t that is the sort of discussion I am talking about. Sorry for the misinterpretation there. I always mostly skip those kind of deep life issues they are not for me to say anything at least I don´t think so.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi angel I am not telling not to post discussions like i have mentioned rather i am trying to say that we should be more conscious before posting. We should be sure that our discussions are not hurting anyone... At least we should not be more excited or hurry while posting a discussion. Hahaha... didi jaiho is always funny and thanks that You feel that i have a heart. Oh.. no, all are missing... my novel consists only 26 ladies.. 19 are already posted and 7 are yet to post. Hope all of you will read them as before. have a good day.
@sjvg1976 (18034)
• Delhi, India
2 Jun 11
In my opinion there is every sort of person there on MYLOT but that dosenot mean we should not discuss specific topics which may hurt some specific category. People here are not bound they are free to discuss any topic which should not be against the GUIDELINES or which donot violate it. There will be limited topics if we care for these specific cases.But then i feel one should not make the lacking thing in his life to be his weakness one should be strong enough to face the truth of life because in any ways no one here is perfect more or less everyone has some thing lacking in his life.
@shibham (17025)
• India
4 Jun 11
Hi friend.. I never say that we should not post or discuss on those topics as its a basic platform of all mylotters. I just wanted to say that every one should think first a lot before starting a discussion... at least we can be more conscious. Have a nice day.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
If we avoided everything that could possibly be painful to somebody, probably there wouldn't be anything left to post.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi dawnald.. I wish a very long life of mylot, hence i try to make it rich from my side too... as far as i can.. Just wished some thoughts of you regarding this issue. have a nice day.
@shaggin (36279)
• United States
30 May 11
No I really think that to worry about stuff like that is just silly. If I had a dog I loved and wanted to write about it then its good but if I thought well maybe someone out there lost their dog recently and reading how much I love my dog will make them sad... well then thats just kind of going overboard. Everyone has something that will bother them.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi shaggin... I understand what do you mean but actually i was not referring not to post, i just wanted to know your comments. Have a nice day.
• United States
30 May 11
Well, this is a free discusion website, and people can post whatever they want. I see your opinion, but you really can't do anything to that.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
hahahaha... no need to do anything as i am not saying not to post. have a nice day.
• United States
29 May 11
I dont think we should not post if it is regarding some of the examples you stated above. I think that we should all be able to be free to speak about anything we want and not have to worry about if we are going to bring up memories or hurt someones feelings. The only things that should be banned from mylot are racist comments and any that discriminate against other people. Which already is banned. And like someone said this is a place where we can share and care and maybe help those mylotters that need advice but dont know how to ask for it.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
I am not meaning by my discussion that we should not post.. i have posted this discussion to know your views. i have also already posted such discussions but i take a sharp look whether my discussion is hurting soemone or not? hmm... racial comments were there in mylot and i know some mylotters who has left mylot for others discrimination. Its truly bad. Have a nice day.
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
29 May 11
hi shibham but with that line of thinking almost any topic or subject or anything about our own problems will hurt someone in the s ame situation so we must not post,no no no. that would kill my lot completely.Did you not know that life has never promised any of us all roses with no thorns, all happy happy cheer cheer without some unhappy woe woe. We can instead by helping our friends here with our suggestions also helping others who read these discussions and have the same problems. we are most of us here to help, to learn , to make friends, and enjoy my lotting.The only discussions you would have left wou ld be very boring and innocus ones having to do with nothing really as people and life and its problem are what mylot discussions are all abut.Also if a discussion seems too painful to one person there are many others he or she can choose that are not painful In every life some rain may fall and without it we would never appreciate the sunshine and warm happy days.
@shibham (17025)
• India
2 Jun 11
Hi hatley.. I never say not to post but at least we can be sincere while posting. We can give a sharp look on your writings that are we unintentionally hurting others. Just this fact i was to post. Life is not a bed of rose petals there are thorns too and we are bound to suffer sorrows along with enjoying joys. agree with you whatever you said. totally agree and have a nice day.
• Philippines
29 May 11
for as long as we are not violating discussion guidelines, mylotters can freely post a discussion of any topic he/she fancies. if we limit the discussions to only those that will not in any way affect others or possibly hurt their feelings... then we are not only limiting ourselves, we are missing out on so many things from learning from others. expressing a feeling of joy or sadness, marking a milestone or sharing an excitement, describing a day in your life, talking about people, money, work and a thousand more topics about life in general... these make a discussion works, these make mylot... a place to be. remove all that, you remove the very essence why mylot is not just a discussion board. no offense taken. and also no offense meant when i say, the very things that make people come alive in discussions are the very things you mentioned that we should not post. we can decide which discussions to participate in. if we can't handle others' joys and pains, then we can always move on to the next discussion. good day shibham!