Controlling and staying calm when angry

India
May 31, 2011 8:09am CST
Hie guys i recently had this bad thought in my mind... It so happened that we talked on a particular day... and during night when i called my GF she said we will talk tomorrow and today in the evening when i was calling her she is disconnecting my phone and then send a message "iam playing badminton" this just blowed of my mind that all evening i just waited to call her and she is now playing badminton.. Also from pass one week we were not getting in touch properly. My friends what should i do the anger is still in me should i pounce on her or just leave the situation and control myself. Iam strongly feeling her to give nice thrashing from my words. Friends please suggest me....
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7 responses
• United States
31 May 11
It sounds like you were really looking forward to talking with her, and that is why you were disappointed that she did not want to talk with you when you called. It might have seemed that she was not as interested in talking with you as you were in talking with her, and that is why you got angry, because it hurt your feelings. I suspect that was not the case at all, though. She was in the middle of playing a game, so it would have been rude for her to stop the game to talk with you - it would have been disrespectful of whoever she was doing something with at the time. That does not mean that she was not glad that you call or that she didn't want to talk with you, however. The timing just was not right. I suspect that as soon as she is not busy she will call you and everything will be good again.
• India
31 May 11
Thanks i was just looking forward to be angry on her but i guess i should take things easy as you said it was the wrong timing.. I think this didnt flash in my mind.. Thank you for your suggestion it really helped.
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• United States
31 May 11
Thank you for the honor of best response. It is understandable that you were angry at first, especially since you were looking forward to talking with her. I think that sometimes our emotions get the better of us, and then we do not stop to think of the reason why someone might act like that. I am glad that I was able to help here, and I hope that the two of you have a wonderful talk and get all this resolved.
@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
3 Jun 11
U should stay calm and talk to her nicely. Don't allow your emotions to get the better of u. ONce that happens, it might be too late for regrets and i'm sure u won't want that. Keep your anger in check. Tell her u miss her, wants to see her. From there, talk to her about how u feel. She might not agree with what u are thinking, but at last u made your feelings known. IF she's still that cold to u after listening, then u should let her go since u are not her priority.
@digibux (23)
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
maybe it takes time for you to talk to her until your anger will be eased. control your temper don't get easily mad maybe she has reason why she's not talking to you. Just calm yourself down because there is a right time for you to talk about it. Just be patient enough to wait for her to call you i know she would.
@ggeeta (155)
• India
1 Jun 11
Your anger is genuine, but without knowing the right reason you can't scold or show your anger on your GF. You must try to find out as to why she is behaving like this and if she is trying to distance you from her. Anyways, whenever situations like this happen, you need to keep your temper under control and see for the right time to respond to the situation. You called her several times and now you keep quiet for sometime, let it be a few days and see if she responds to you, else you will know the answer yourself.
@SIMPLYD (74863)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Keep your cool princelierocks. You love her, so why would you hurt her by pouncing one her. As she said she is and at the time you called she was in the middle of her badminton. A little more patience is needed here. Or probably you can talk to her personally so whatever is bugging you could be properly settled between the two of you.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
31 May 11
Hi. Princelierocks. I think that you should just stay calm and don't get upset with your girlfriend. I would really hate to see you get yourself into hot water for starting a fight with her. When you talk to her again, just ask her why did she lie to you and why did she tell you that she was going to talk to you tomorrow when she disconnected the phone, just so that she could play badminton. She should have been honest with you too. Just talk to her in a calm way and let her know that you did not appreciate her not being totally honest with you.
• India
31 May 11
u really shouldnt if you care about her. whenever i fight with my gf over such things we only get farther apart and its very hard to fix it. i suggest you do something on ur own so that u wont be thinking about it. go watch a movie with guys or bowling. and when she calls u can maybe tell her in a soft tone that u werent happy then. it'll give u the most positive response possible.