Massages aren't so good afterall?

@Masihi (4227)
Canada
May 31, 2011 10:47am CST
I love a good massage, who wouldn't? But I'm wondering if it's actually good for you? My husband won't massage me, he even said he doesn't like giving massages. But also, he says that I need to work out any muscle that I make sure during exercise like stretching and keep on doing the exercise in spite of the soreness, and it'll go away. I've also noticed that he doesn't ask me to massage him, he'll just grunt and brush me off when I ask him if I can massage a sore spot for him. I'm wondering, is there any truth in the fact that they're not beneficial? He says massages are only for wimps, and that we need to continually work the muscles, and that massages will only soften the muscles, and that you want them hard. He also says "pain is your best friend, it means you're doing your muscles good". I'm confused. Can someone solve this massage mystery to me? Is there anyone else that can shed light on this? I'd really appreciate it. ,
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11 responses
31 May 11
Continually working the muscles will actually destroy them unless you're careful: the body needs time to rebuild muscle tissue (i.e. convert calories), so constantly working them is not a good idea. One of my friends used to do a 3-days-on, 1-day-off thing - every fourth day was relaxation with no strenuous exercise, to allow the body to rebuild. As for massages, of course they're good. Hasn't your hubby ever heard of sports massage? Ignoring muscle pain can be a bad idea... your body's trying to tell you something by making itself hurt.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
31 May 11
I've heard of the little time off to let the body rebuild again. But as I said above to another commenter, that I do have to do more research, I don't think he's heard of a sports massage, but I know I have. I always assumed that massages were just a luxury thing, just like saunas are. Okay so another question - I've often heard of "No pain, no gain" - isn't there any truth in that in regards to exercising/working out? I've climbed up stairs in our highrise building yesterda - 13 storeys - and now I'm really feeling it in the back of my legs, I think I'll take a break today as yesterday was the first time in about a year and a half doing it (I stopped because of a serious illness which lasted for months and am getting back on my feet again.) But I'll go back to climbing those stairs again tomorrow, though. I am going for a nice long walk with my family this evening, get my daughter's hair cut and purchase a few items from store, then walk back home. Anyway, this is always interesting, and hopefully this discussion will give me some good starting points for research on this area.
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31 May 11
There's a big difference between an ache from unfamiliar use and muscle pain. I have back problems: going out and walking for three hours not only tires me out completely but also makes various bits hurt - in an achey, "good pain" way. If any of that pain becomes a muscle twinge or something more focussed and "bad pain", it's better to relax a little rather than abuse the muscle further. I guess it comes down to defining "good" and "bad" pain, really. As for "no pain, no gain", that's not strictly true these days. There are some absolutely incredible low-impact exercises (such as Pilates and Yoga) which cause no pain but give surprising gain. Like most people, I expect strenuous exercise to "hurt" in some way but apparently it's not necessary. I guess that comes down to what you want from exercise: weight loss will always be strenuous since it's cardio; rebuilding weak muscles needn't hurt so much because you can do it with low-impact stuff. You'd have to research or talk to someone who really knows this stuff - all my knowledge is picked up from various professionals who've tried to help fix my back troubles!
@GardenGerty (102514)
• United States
31 May 11
@Masihi, my understanding about the sore calves, for instance, is that in addition to the stair climbing, which is working the back of the leg, you need to do something to strenghthen the fronts of the legs. I use weight machines and I have to use both the quadriceps machine and the hamstring machine.In addition, I use the hip extensor. I can see some of what your hubby is saying. I can be really sore, and achy, but then I go use the weight machines and the use makes them relax. Believe me, though, I will take a massage any time I can get one. If you over do the exercise, starting out, you may burn yourself out. At this point I feel like the exercise is helping me build energy. Oh, and saunas are not just a luxury either. They help build your immune system and also purifies you by making you sweat. If they were just luxury then so many cultures would not be using them as routine processes.
@murfus (79)
• Colombia
31 May 11
well in my opinion massages are really good because sometimes the muscle need to est if you continue working hard the muscle it can get severals problems such as a muscles atrophy i recommend you to rest the muscle sometimes, i know this because i was on the gym and the gym trains told me to sometimes get a few massages from a cool place in the city... so if you dont wanna get problems when you force your muscle to do a lot of work just rest it commonly
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
31 May 11
The thing is, that's exactly what my husband believes in, that you have to continually work the muscles and only rest them when you're really exhausted, that's what I see him doing all the time, and he puts up with a lot of pain. He says to keep on going, the pain will work itself out and make you stronger. I myself will rest my muscles and attempt to massage them myself if I can't get someone else to do it for me.
@murfus (79)
• Colombia
1 Jun 11
he is wrong, you should tell him that his muscle need more rest, and massages are a really good way to rest his muscle... i hope this help xD
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I don't know which is right or wrong, but if massage is for wimps, then I'll just be a wimp because they make me feel so much better. From everything I hear massage is good for you. I know some people are uncomfortable with someone else rubbing on them, but I can't say I believe it is not beneficial.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
He's one of those tough guys - maucho man - eat big, exercise big, get big pain and get big pride from his ability to bear it. Literally. I'm not joking. As for me, I'm a wimp that loooooooves it when my sore muscles are rubbed, it feels soooo GOOD lol
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
I believe it is beneficial because it help circulate the blood on the body and relaxes your senses i believe.. I love massages! But only when done with a pro or those in salons and my husband also give me massages because we both love massages. If we do have extra money we tend to use it for massages. At times when we cannot afford it, i would just buy those aroma massage oils and i would give him a massage and vice versa. i have tried swedish massage and nuat thai massage..
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
lol my husband's even adverse to "sensual massages" :-p I've heard of massage oils, what do they do?
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
I believe masage is good for the body. It's one of the oldest way of relaxation. In the past some illness and body pains were cured solely through massage. I get a full body massage every once in a while and I always feel good afterwards. Aches and pains imply go away. I work 8 hours in front of the computer and sometimes I get pain at the back of my neck and back pain as well so a great massage always makes it go away.Of course you need to make sure whoever is doing the massage is fully trained and would know the amount of pressure to apply, otherwise it might add more pain.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
Really? Now this is really interesting. I"ve never had a professional massage before but I just might get one when I get enough money! :-D hehe
@SIMPLYD (82993)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
I am not fond of massage either. It makes my muscles sore afterward. Besides, my body bruises easily whenever it is hit by a hard material , so i am afraid massage might make me bruise all over also. I have experienced being massage before and it's really relaxing while it's done . However, after that, it's as if my whole body aches already. I guess there's something wrong with my muscles?
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
I know as we get older our skin bruises more easily, it's just that our skin is more thinner than the younger people's are.
• United States
31 May 11
I exercise 3 days a week so that I give my body one day in between to relax and restore the muscles. As for massages, gosh never heard that it is bad for anyone, quite the contrary they are excellent and a great relaxing method, especially for tension, stress and or strains.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
Ya, I am aware of the rest periods needed to build up the muscles. Well, last night Hubby pushed us for a long walk, which made my legs even more sore, so I rested all day today
@GardenGerty (102514)
• United States
31 May 11
http://en.allexperts.com/q/Massage-1818/2011/2/massages-bad.htm This is one of many sites that do not agree with your husband. I suppose anything that you can do can be bad if it is done too much. I really never have heard his point of view, though. It also helps remove lymph as well as relaxing knotted muscles. It is important to stretch and warm up, but you are still going to get sore when you begin an exercise routine. It is because of the buildup of lactic acid in the tissues and also microscopic tears in the muscle. That is why it is important that you rest a day in between workouts. You can over train and have a negative result.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
Ok I'll bookmark this site. I've heard something about knotted muscles, but dont' know anything about them.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
31 May 11
Really? Where your husband get this from? Well, to me, if I am getting sore, or tired on particular spot of my body, I definitely need a good massage on it. It will make me feel relaxing, and I would have a good night sleep at least. I just want my muscle to be soft and not tense. It might create cramps later on if your muscles are too tense. So, watch out.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
He's worked in construction for years and is now a crossing guard, he has always been active and hard-working, couldn't sit still when he was younger. He's 46 now so he's starting to require a bit more rest but is still a lot more active than I am. He has "worked out" his pain a good many times without a massage over the years. Now he hikes, fishes, hunts, hard biking, long walks for his exercise.
@louievill (19663)
• Philippines
31 May 11
I think a massage is inherent in all of us, you might ask why? Guess if we encounter any pain or discomfort, our first instinct is to rub or massage the spot, perhaps it was only developed by man to something a more complex system or ritual, ask any athlete or sports coach, even champions, if it's bad then perhaps there is already a study or something regarding it, but again just like anything there are exemptions, perhaps no responses, too much of a good thing is bad,or effects are just contrary to benefits, guess it's always best to observe and know our own bodies before drawing up conclusions.
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
31 May 11
Yes, everything in moderation, I guess. It's funny that you mention the pyscholocial part, and it's so true, when we feel pain, we immediately rub at it without even thinking. Never thought of that.
@dodo19 (33604)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
31 May 11
There could be some merit to what your husband says, but personally, I do see some benefits with getting a massage. It is relaxing and I find that it does relieve stress. Granted, you can also do that when you go work out, but you get it in a different way. It's not entirely the same feeling. I do think that you can benefit from both exercising/working out, and from getting a massage.
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@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
31 May 11
Yes, it's a lovely, relaxing feeling to have your muscles massaged when they're sore! :-)