Way to go, setting an example...
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
May 31, 2011 1:12pm CST
It annoys me when people jaywalk with their kids, especially small ones who could be in danger. Teaches them respect for the laws really well, doesn't it?
This from the person who told her daughter it was OK to lie to the school nurse, I know...
But this was way over the top. Friday night we were at the mall. I was in Hot Topic with the girls. Naomi was taking forever deciding on something. R had gone outside to sit down, and he got to see the whole drama unfold.
A mother and three children, a small boy, an older girl, and a teenage girl, were walking with 3 bags from Macy's. There was a man walking behind them, and he was on the phone. R heard him say, "3 Macy's bag? Got them."
There were two security guards behind them, and they asked to see the two bags that the mother was carrying. She had handed the third one to the teenager. They looked through those two, and then, without asking, took the one from the teenager.
The guy got on the phone again, "gold bag? Yep, got it." And the security guards took the bags and walked them over to a waiting police officer.
The girls and I came out, and he was telling us all about it. A little later, there was a child crying, and R said it was the small boy who had been with the woman. He and his sisters were walking with another adult. No sign of mom.
Hell of an example to set for your kids, eh?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
31 May 11
That is over the top, I hope this was a first time out of desperation type thing and that the family gets help..But I do admit I am a little confused, the little boy, was it his mom who shoplifted? Because you said he and his sisters were walking with another adult and that kind of threw me off on where he is involved..
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
31 May 11
Okay, so the girls and the boy went with another family member? I'm sorry if I sound confused, must be from doing too much math today..:P
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
31 May 11
Yep, I set a great example for my son, as I try to do math I was taught while he can do my math without being taught...Well, not really, but he has never been taught how to add and subtract negative numbers, yet every single time I throw something at him, he not only calculates it correctly, but also gives the correct sign..What's up with that????
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@celticeagle (159040)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Jun 11
Great example. There used to be a band of gypsies that lived here and they were all this way. I have noting against gypsies but that was rediculous. You couldn't trust anybody! There is also a band of people( I think their name is Irish...Something) and they are all crooks. Kids and adults. Taught from a very young age to steal. It is amazing what young people will do to get something from Macy's.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
1 Jun 11
I don't understand some people sometimes! It's bad enough that they commit these acts, then they get their children to do it with them. Of course the children wouldn't know what to do, except just follow whatever they are told.
Yep, this is setting a bad example! Just couldn't imagine what these children's children would be like when it's their turn to set the bad example.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
I don't know, but probably much the same unless somebody intervenes and gets them turned around.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 May 11
You are assuming that these parents Know better. They don't! It seems like some "parents" Are more concerned with what they want than what happens.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
1 Jun 11
ain't it just...
At least they didn't tackle the lady...
I have also seen shoplifters stopped.
At one store I saw it twice, a guy (or once, 2 guys) walked out and a person who worked there, stopped them, got the guy to open his coat and then made him/them return inside, and later the police car was outside
And then there's the store I call "the third world country" where I have TWICE had shoplifters TACKLED at my feet, and the roomie, before she was my roomie, had it happen once.
In fact, this is the reason I normally won't shop there...
I do shop at other stores of this chain, just not this one.
I actually blame it on the clientele but that doesn't change the fact that I don't feel safe shopping there...
I bet "mom" thought she might be able to get away with it because of the kids and handing off the 'guilty' bag to the teenager - what a lovely piece of work...
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@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
There are really parents who really should not be parents. 
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@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
have seen scenarios like that here in our country.
it is just sick to be seeing children being used by their parents to work for them. their future is almost ruined. one time, while we are in a gasoline station for a gas fill, a child beggar approach us asking for money. hubby told the boy if he wants to go with us and there is enough food and shelter for him. the boy strongly shook his head for a no. of course, hubby was only joking and he asked where his parents are and pointed at an adult woman just sitting around the corner of the gasoline station. that infuriated me and it was so frustrating that i couldn't do anything for a little boy that obviously regard her as family.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
And of course they love their parents and want to please them...
@much2say (53959)
• Los Angeles, California
1 Jun 11
Oops - we jay walk every morning! Well, it's a residential street - and a bunch of us do it simply because we just do it (we are smack in the middle between 2 streets with stop signs).
On that note, this apartment owner is a dufus for saying he jaywalks all the time when he goes downtown because it's faster. Well, last year he actually got hit by a car jaywalking - DUH!
But back to the discussion . . . now that's really bad! Foolish mother . . . poor kids!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
A residential street is one thing. I've seen people do it 20 feet away from the traffic light at a busy intersection...
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
1 Jun 11
This is definitely what we wanted to show the way for kids. Really sad to see, how kids are cared. Alarming part is, kids get the bad stuffs so easily when shown the way!Sad!!
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
yeah, really sad, and I don't suppose she learned anything from it...
@marapplestiffy (2182)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
Visit Philippines and you'll have a headache looking at parents gambling leaving their kids hungry and if they ask for food they get a wallop of kick in the legs...or sm0king w*e*e*d with their friends and inviting the child to take a shot at it...and a way lot more!!!
I know it kind of puts my fellow Filipinos in bad light, but not all of us are like that though, 
still, a lot are
I know it kind of puts my fellow Filipinos in bad light, but not all of us are like that though, still, a lot are1 person likes this
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Jun 11
It's not just there. There are idiot parents like that everywhere.
@karenvalen (39)
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1 Jun 11
It is a sad truth but a lot of parents nowadays are irresponsible. A lot of values are destroyed because parents influenced them do so.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
31 May 11
For sure.....That was way out of any thing I could comprehend! I do know there are alot of things people are teaching their kids now days that they should be arrested for......or at least a good lecture...my daughter in law and I were talking about bullies.....in my granddaughters KINDERGARDEN class there are several....and alot of the also comes from what the parents teach them!
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
31 May 11
I have seen many examples of people using their children. One lady used to have suitcases (empty) and box(also empty) and a whole pile of children that she probably hired and begged for money saying that her house had burnt down. I challenged her as I knew that if this had been reported to the local Insurance Agency they would have got her temporary accommodation. She and the children were weeping and wailing and people would buy food and drink and give them money etc. A real scam. It is disgusting that parents teach their children to become criminals
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@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
31 May 11
Wow that is sad for the kids. Wonder what she will do if someday she (the mom) gets a call that one of the kids is arrested for something. Will it be okay and or will she be able to tell them right from then. Gosh how sad that she is such a bad example this way, poor kids they probably were so scared and maybe did not even know she was up to this and now they have all these unanswered questions. *sad*
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Hm, maybe "get a lawyer and lie, lie, lie", idk...
@Jessi_T (379)
• United States
31 May 11
I'm not finding a connection between how you told your daughter it was okay to tell that little white lie last week to a mother teaching her children it's alright to steal.
Stealing is wrong and not an example I would want to teach my kids. How did they even get out the door with stolen merchandise they would have to of moved pretty quickly to get past the alarms I would think. The women was not only teaching her kids stealing was okay but that getting away with stealing was possible by doing that and I am glad they got caught.
The poor little guy must of been so afraid seeing those officers and they probably took his mother away. He probably didn't know what was going on and the older girls just might be planing a career in crime who knows. The woman ought to be ashamed of her shelf, and not necessarily someone I'd call a mother. A mother wouldn't want that for their child(ren) and they sure wouldn't teach it to them.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
31 May 11
Well you could argue that they are both dishonest. But I wouldn't really compare the two.
I really felt for the little guy, probably didn't even understand what was going on.
