A Good Father Figure?

United States
June 1, 2011 9:18am CST
I have been told that Every girl Needs a father figure so she can know How a man should treat her. I guess they mean Every straight girl. Anyway, They also go on to say if she doesn't have one she is more likely to get pregnant early , pick the guys that won;t treat here right. I think there may some truth to that but It can go both ways. I mean if a girl sees how badly her mom is treated she can learn what Not to put up with.So do you think that A girl needs A father figure or can she Still learn how a man should treat her without one?
7 responses
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jun 11
I think a girl is better off with a good father figure. But she is better off without any father figure rather than a bad one.
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• United States
3 Jun 11
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I saw how bad my dad treated my mom and I did not learn from that! So some of the guys I dated treated lousey! This is one of the many reason I don't date anymore! I attack losers and then I end acting like my mom when I am dating someone! A lousey guy or not! I don't think it matters if you have a good father figure or not! Then I can blame him for getting pregnant at 26 and haveing my son at27! I never have but you get my drift!
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• United States
2 Jun 11
I'm sorry.I didn't mean to dredge up bad memories. Thanks for Responding.
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
My father is not very affectionate towards us and my mom, and I've always looked for an affectionate man, thankfully I have one right now...so, it goes to say that it does go both ways, and no, my father isn't abusive...just a bit cold...
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• United States
3 Jun 11
Ok. I'm happy you found a the kind of guy you needed.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
1 Jun 11
Some people don't feel worthy of good treatment...and thats why they chose someone that will hurt them...They say that a girl picks someone like her dad when she looks for things in a man....I say that's not always true. My dad was a wonderful person...I picked a nut for a husband...though to my credit he didn't act like that when we were dating...He was good to me. After the ring was on the finger the whole thing changed!
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• United States
3 Jun 11
Everything is suppose to change when you marry!
@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I think that little girls can learn alot from witnessing the interraction between mom and dad..but your right..it can go either way. I think that if there is a positve male figure in their life, that's great...but that can sometimes mean that when they get out into the world, that is what they expect from all men..that is not the case though..they often learn very quickly about the darker side of relationships. No great dad can protect them from that. I think that no matter the case, we live and we learn.
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• United States
3 Jun 11
I'm living proof that you can witness the ideal and reject it. Believe it or not, By age 13 I knew I will never marry! Even though I witness a brilliant partnership in my mom and dad.But somehow I Knew if I ever even tried mix love and marriage it would fail.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
1 Jun 11
A good and responsible father will be need by every childrens. But if the father was not good enough, it still needed for some sircumtances.
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• Canada
8 Jun 11
I know my father loves me, and he has a lot of great qualities that I inherited, but there were some issues, and my sister, mother, and I were emotionally abused. I was determined not to repeat the cycle. I took all that I did not like from Dad, and vowed to look for the reverse in people. You know all about my marriage. My husband has issues too, PTSD from combat, three divorces, etc. The two of us decided that the best way to deal with things would be to not repeat what we did not like seeing in others. A truly strong woman can figure out how a man should treat her, on her own.
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• United States
9 Jun 11
I'm so glad you and hubby are living a happy ever after. I got to see a true partnership briefly and yet , my guy is like my dad, supportive and loving!