What Is The Biggest Misconception There Could Be About You??

@zed_k4 (17627)
Singapore
June 3, 2011 10:13pm CST
Hola my friends , it's 11:10 AM here in Singapore and it's a breezy morning. Here's a question. What is the biggest misconception there could be about you? Like me , I'm always been looked upon as bad and arrogant when in fact I'm super friendly and always willing to be of listening ear to whoever. Maybe because sometimes I don't really explain myself well. What about you guys , what's the biggest misconception there could be about you too? The time starts now!!! Have a good day / weekend friends......
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
Hi zed! You're from Singapore? I was just there last week! Well, the biggest misconception about me is that I'm ambitious. People think I strive to be something like a boss or a someone with a higher position in the office. I don't actually think that way. I'm a happy-go-lucky, laid back person. I'd rather rest at home than worry about work. I work yes, but not more than I should. People think I strive for more because I do good work. But that's all there is to it. I just do good work. I can be happy for what I can get and what I have. I just don't like striving for more. I'm happy to live a simple life.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Yes2 .hehehe ... it's in my profile sweetie .. You were there ? That's so cool so I hope you had a good time yeah.. Which hotel did you reside on? Simple life , that's the best .. You are good , at least you are not bragging the whole time , so just be yourself secretbear. Thanks for coming..
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
Well, I had a good time. It was a new experience, a new place for me, and it's totally different from the Philippines and I really enjoyed it. I think I wanna live in Singapore! Oh, we stayed at V-Hotel Lavender at Jellicoe Road.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
8 Jun 11
That's really cool ... Hope you come back sometime..
• United States
5 Jun 11
I'm very talkative, outgoing and friendly. That makes people think that I am real open with my thouhts and feelings, but really you can spend a lot of time with me and never really know me.. you have to make it a point to do that!
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
OK thanks for being open about yourself ... That's a good answer..
• United States
5 Jun 11
People assume I'm a Christian and a teacher wrong! Is it the glasses? I don't know. all I can say is I rather eat glass than teach kids or anyone. I will answer questions but teach from scratch , No F@cking way! oh That reminds me, they also think I'm a lady who doesn't swear. Double Wrong!
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Hahhahahhaha , spot-on ....
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@JenInTN (27564)
• United States
5 Jun 11
This is great discussion. There are a lot of misconceptions about me that people have told me they thought before they got to know me..lol. I have been at my job now for almost 13 years. I am one of those that always smile and try to be positive about everything..BUT under that..I am tough as nails. My boss told me after I had worked there for 5 years that he had hired me just to see if my attitude was "real" and if I could make it...LOL. They put me on the toughest jobs for a long time. I am still there and in management now. Another misconception is that I am stuck up. I talk to everyone and I could not understand why people felt that way. My friend told me after I had known her for a while that it was the way I carried myself. Posture or something..I thought it was weird that she felt that way, but I don't know.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
That's really strange how your friend describe you , I'm sure you are friendly and nice...
@vandana7 (68969)
• India
4 Jun 11
Been there done that..and not succeeded in shedding that image. But I am bad kiddo to an extent. When people dont take no for no, and try to run my life, I tolerate and tolerate and tolerate till some wiring goes wrong somewhere, and I snap, and I snap badly. So I am not angelic.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Yes Aunt V , wiring may go bad ... tell them not to test you..
@mjcookie (2274)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
People usually mistake me as shy and quiet. When I'm in a group of people and they're like, "Oh, she wouldn't say a word," in my head I'm like "I'm a hundred times crazier than you are." I only am reserved when I am around strangers whom I feel uncomfortable with, but actually, I am very weird and dorky. Also, people think that I'm very feminine and all, but they don't know that I'm actually boyish. It sucks when they judge you based on how you look.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Haha , you're cool.. It's what inside that matters ....never mind the outer shell..
@dragon54u (31635)
• United States
4 Jun 11
I think that some people think I don't want to work. The U.S. is very short on jobs and those that I can physically do (I have scoliosis and arthritis) I don't get because they hire younger women--I'm 57 and refuse to dye my hair to look younger and I don't think it would matter much anyway. My neighbors think I'm lucky to not work but I would rather have a job outside my home. Also, when some people hear that I have an income from my marriage they think I am a leech. I stayed home with the children for nearly 20 years and did not work, I maintained a nice home for my family and helped some in my husband's business. There was nothing saved for retirement and I have that income so that I supposedly will not be destitute in retirement and can pay my bills in the present. But because of the economy and unemployment situation I'm not able to save or invest much of that income as was intended. I am not a leech. I am just receiving what should have been provided for me. I could have gotten more but like a fool I took just what I thought I could make do with.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Heck that's more than working , you're doing your husband's justice by helping him at that time. The ones who call you a leech are no better themselves ...they don't feed you so don't care about them..people will always talk so let them talk until they get tired hearing themselves talking.. Take care you..
@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
People always thought of me as a "mean girl" and since I was little, people don't approach me to be friends with me. Very few people looked beyond that misconception and actually got to know the real me. Well, these few people are my real friends now. And they are the kind of friends I'd like to keep. Sometimes, these misconceptions have an advantage. Through these misconceptions, we find out who our real friends are and who are worthy of our love and friendship.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Let them watch Mean Girls and they'll know ... or Easy A . People and life are not what they seem ....don't care them aite..
@drannhh (15241)
• United States
4 Jun 11
Well, some people thing that just because I let them get by with something once or twice that it is going to happen again, whereas I am sort of one of those give them enough rope to hang themselves sort of people. So maybe the biggest misconception is thinking that I am a nice doormat and then they get mad when they find out I'm not. Say, I cannot imagine you not explaining yourself well. Maybe they are just not listening well...
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
"give them enough rope to hang themselves sort of people." - Hmmmm ... I know what you mean. Sometimes people take others as doormats where they can step on , until the voices speak out and they start screaming bloody murder !! When in actual fact they are the ones instigating whatever they have propositioned for ... For me it's always ..don't make a mountain out of a molehill. If it ain't broken , don't fix it ...[b][/b] Thanks drannhh , I like your answer..
• United States
4 Jun 11
Hola mi amigo zed I will take a guess based on experience and say that because I am very kind, caring and giving many think I am so much so that I will can be easily trick-able and forgivable. So not true, though I am very nice by nature, I hurt and their misconception about me being naive would be that I do not forgive and forget too easily. If they knew me well they would not take a risk in taking me for granted because though I can eventually forgive I NEVER forget therefore, things will never return back.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
Yes , many forgive but can't forget ..and as big as your heart is , I'm sure you have a backbone of steel.. Just don't care my friend and as long as you know yourself that's all that matters. Everyone is not perfect and even though this is understood , the perfection is still expected in an understated way. Just be with your family , children , boyfriend and enjoy life. Hopefully you'll always have a good family life..
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
4 Jun 11
People always think of me as an unfriendly, uncool person also. They are totally wrong about that. I can be very friendly and very cool if they ever gave it a chance to get to know me.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
Me too ....we are who we are and at the end of the day all the misconception can be put to rest. Thanks steph..
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
hi! it's half past 2 am here and it's still and quiet. i find you nice and friendly in mylot, not bad nor arrogant at all. but that is just me... i don't know how you are with other mylotters. jk! there are many misconceptions about me. it's hard to pick one. foreigners, strangers, work colleagues, acquaintances etc... well, different people have different misconceptions about me. i'll walk it through in my head and type as i think... maybe i could get to the biggest misconception there could be about me. hehe i get mistaken for a local in foreign soils in asia a lot. being a southeast asian, i sometimes could pass up as indonesian, korean, malaysian, cambodian and singaporean. (but not as vietnamese or chinese) perhaps it's because i make an effort to learn cultures and attempt the local tongue. i learned that strict-looking immigration guys warm up and actually smile back and greet you once you greet them in their local language. i often get approached in the streets by strangers asking directions... like as if i'm a walking map. geography and geographical directions is my waterloo actually. but i can get by with a map. and i often have one if i'm in new or foreign territory. i often get approached by beggars also from the streets and all the way to our home. charities and solicitations for financial support is a frequent thing at home that at times i wonder if we look rich. or that perhaps because we support so many, they think it's our way of life too. work colleagues often find me too quiet, too reserved at times, not outgoing enough and too serious about work that it is often intimidating for others. this is true to some extent but i'm only quiet when i'm thinking and observing (the rest of the time i'm really talkative, chatty and laughs quite a lot)... reserved because i'm never loud and wouldn't want attention... not outgoing because basically i'm a homebody but i'm game to go out depending on company and if it's worth my time... and serious about work when you have to exude a certain level of professionalism so that others would take you seriously and really mean business. otherwise i'm the type of person that can talk about anything under the sun. having said all these, i think the biggest misconception people have about me is creating a snapshot of me but creating different taglines for the real story. i mean i may look and project the same person they see or think that i am... but what they see for a moment (a snapshot) is not necessarily what i am in entirety. a picture they say is worth a thousand words, a tagline is just but a few. missing out on the correct/accurate tagline may miss out on the real story itself. and that's what happens in misconceptions about oneself. have a great weekend! :) :) :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
sexy back... hmnn yours or mine? hahaha either you are in a justin timberlake hat or grooves or something. jk! yeah, i just let them be. people have different perspectives on things. people are judged by how they are viewed, and it's always pretty subjective. it's a super sunny day today! in my part of the world... that is.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Enjoy your sun .... it's raining here , sort of .. Yeah sexy back woot2 .. Let those jaded in their thinking , jaded .. We on the other hand let's just be who we are , and keep improving ourselves ,yeeeehaaaaaaaaaawww....
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
by that sound... it's like a sexy cowboy with a hat... that's the picture you just made. lol i better take a snapshot. hehe yeah, regardless of how others see us, people should remain true to oneself.
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jun 11
Hi bro zed You really need me to reveal one of my secrets here Well, good for me so that at least a misconception can get cleared - People have a misconception that I love being lazy and DO NOT Work because I have a wife who gets me the money. Yes, I do not go out of house for work. I do not have enough work on Internet too. But That is because of my illness - Ulcerative Colitis and Rheumatoid Arthritis. As I am too young to have these (been 11years, 4years - respectively) at 36, people dont believe me and also I am sick of explaining them what the disease is and how they effect a person. So I stopped explaining, complaining and also let them think what they think about me. Not sure if that was wise but someone here advised me not to do it as it will do no good but spread a feeling that I am weak. Hope my response falls under what you need. Have a Great Day and a Great Time... Always
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
Thanks bro for replying. My best advice to you is just don't care what all those people say about you as long as you and your wife are happy that's all that matters. In society it's always men who put the bigger bread on the table , so people will always talk. Let them talk all they want and once they are tired they will stop. Who cares if you or your wife puts the bigger bread on the table. Just be consistent in your Internet quest and hopefully you'll prove them all wrong , that you can provide the biggest love and care towards your wife. Your response is appreciated. Namaste my friend.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
You're not busy this morning ? What's the time there in India bro ..any plans with your lovely wife today? You're far , if only you are near we can have a meet together session and rekindle our friendship bond beyond the lot..
@thesids (22351)
• Bhubaneswar, India
4 Jun 11
Namaste Zed The time right now here in India is 10:20 am. and my wife has left for office. Maybe a movie in the evening, she has eager to watch a 3d horror movie (Bollywood,Hindi) and has also asked my brother and his family to join in (knows that I feel scared watching the Horror ones at the theaters). And I am based at Bhubaneswar.
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• Philippines
4 Jun 11
people who just met me dub me as a snob and most of my friends think I'm really strong emotionally since most of them has never seen me cry, some family members think I'm innocent that I know nothing of the real world... I don't know but I guess I wear a really good mask, most would see me as a very confident, hard, and too arrogant individual when yeah, I'm a bit confident but I'm a marshmallow inside and I'm not at all arrogant...
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
4 Jun 11
You're a marshmallow , teehee ..that's the first one I've heard anyone describe themselves.. Good for you.....what's the mask brand... Kidding..
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
yeah, I am...I really get hurt easily thus the mask of toughness...
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
You're tougher than you think ..
@android (895)
4 Jun 11
This is actually a big one! The biggest misconception about me is that I'm a liar, a cheat and that I bribed my fiancee into being with which is all thanks to her for spreading those lies and rumours about me so that she could keep getting away with secretly sleeping with a member of her own family behind her back. Now none of them want to know me! Nice eh??
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
You shouldn't malign yourself so much , go for healing ...
@android (895)
5 Jun 11
That's exactly my point, it's not me maligning myself, it's them doing it to me and there's nothing I can do about it. I can't stop the lies and rumours from spreading, so all I can do is just be myself and hope that people realize the truth.
• Philippines
4 Jun 11
hello Zed, On my own personal opinion I think you are really a friendly person and fun to be with but of course you also have your negative side but doesn't matter as long as you did not turn into a dragon or monster . People think that I am snobbish one but the truth is I am friendly Some people think that I am flirt because the way I dress in fact I am not People can easily judge me but I don't give a care because I know that I am not the person that they are thinking of I know myself more than they do. Have a great weekend
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Hello bhaby you are you and let them think what they want .. Dragon monster ? As long as not baby elephant can already..
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
hahahah!you can be a baby dragon monster with a hat
@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
I think it has to be, i'm a loner, dun like to interact with others? haha =D I have to say that the online me, and offline me, are quite different in some ways. I may seem to laugh about anything here, but in real, i'm not so. I like to listen to problems, solve it for friends, but i just dun look like one capable of doing that.. lol =D But at least that's still better than better proud and arrogant when one is really not right?? hehe ^_^
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
I don't think you strike off as proud and arrogant too , with your baby face like that must try harder bro..hhahaha....joking.. You don't sound like a loner too , but you know yourself better hor ..
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@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jun 11
hi zed the biggest misconception people have about me is that I am loud mouthed and bossy which I am not but I can say things in writing that I could not say aloud as I am really shy and not outgoing. I am quiet and a wuss as I hate confrontations and will almost let people run over me before saying don't do that. I am not an extrovert but an introvert really.I am also a good listener and try to be sympathetic to other's needs.
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
Get this hon ,you are not a wuss. I don't know why you think so as you've been nothing but kind and gentle to us all. You're just amazing and if you're near I'd bring you to brunch and praise you buckets. Take care sweetness.
@much2say (40878)
• United States
11 Jan 12
Hi zed! Long time no see! People think (in real life, that is) that I am some social butterfly, popular, friendly, and beaming happiness. Well, that's me on the outside, but inside I am rather a hermit, like to be alone, cynical, critical, can be bitter - although I am still happy for the most part. I am kind of a chameleon and I'm different around different people . . . but internally I think I am pretty much the same person all the time. Happy New Year to you!!
• United States
30 Jul 11
The biggest misconception about me is that I'm too shy and quiet.I'm not shy I'm just more of a people watcher and I listen very well.