My father believes any lies that he hears about me and my husband.

@cream97 (29166)
United States
June 4, 2011 1:27pm CST
My father is so dirty! I love him but he really should act more like a father than a gossiper. My sister told me last Monday how my father heard from our half-sister a lie that was about me and my husband. He said that, my half-sister told him that this guy told her, that my husband said that he smokes crack cocaine. He then told my half-sister that my husband told him that his wife, which is me, smokes it too. WTF? I know that this is a sound proof lie because my husband does not even smoke nor does he drink at all. I don't either! I will admit that me and him will drink a wine cooler every blue moon and this is only in the privacy of our own home. We never get drunk, or high either! Me and my husband don't do drugs at all. So, my father knows that I don't mess with this stuff. He told me and my sister to never mess with drugs or get a credit card, and honestly, I have honored his command. I don't do drugs because that is not the lifestyle that I live. I have never done smoked before either. Now here comes the second lie that my father heard about me. He told my sister that someone told him that I said that he was not my father. My father said that I said that some other man is my father instead. My sister told me this. I told my sister that I have never said anything like this at all. Even if my father never acted like a father to me and her, I still would not go out and say this about him. If someone would come up to me and ask me about my father. I would tell them that he is alive and living. I would not down talk him down in a harsh way. I don't understand why is my father believing anything and everything that someone tells him that is about me or my husband. Me and sister believe that our father is the one that is probably making up these lies about me and my husband, because he is mad, just because I don't come around or contact him. How can I, when he is basically a gossiper that is trying to cause trouble amongst me and my husband?
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jun 11
hi cream for heavens sakes if he believes all that crap,he should as a father be worried and come to you and ask you if its true.he is really hard to understand.I respect my father as he was my father but beyond that no not at all. He molested me just once as an innocent child of 8 so why would I be all gooey over him as he got away with what would now days put a father in prison. my poor mom never knew about it, and after that once I always would not stay in the house alone with him.Seems like that half sister loves spreading malicious stories too. If I were you I ] would call your father on those hurtful lies, as thats just plain wrong. Your father needs to stop doing these things and perhaps your husband needs to tell him how much he is hurting you.if I remembre right way back you and your husband has some trouble but now things sound really great between you. So he should stop your dad from believing or making up vicious stories about you and your husband. You just do not need that iny your life now.
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• United States
5 Jun 11
I was thinking the same thing. If he heard that from someone and believed what he heard, as a good father he should approach you to see if he can get help for you.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
4 Jun 11
I am very sorry to hear that. I would have to stay away from my parent also if they accused me of such things. We don't do that kind of stuff either and I was taught right from wrong very well.
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• United States
4 Jun 11
Oh wow cream that is too much. He should not be entertaining and or commenting forward as a good father would be caring enough to ask you directly and be worried if any of it was true. But being your father surely he has to know that this is not true, see we read your discussions and can tell how caring you whole family is, you are a very caring and thoughtful mother and no no caring and thoughtful mother would do all family oriented things you do with and for your kids. I hope he stops and stops anyone from from saying these things as it surely has to be very hurtful to hear.
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• United States
5 Jun 11
I agree with you and he really needs to put an end to it and stop anyone from spreading such vicious lies.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 11
I feel sorry to hear this from you~ If I were in your place I will feel the same as yours. Your father should not tell that to your sister instead he should ask the truth from you~ Because the way he said to your sister seems he wants everyone know that you and your husband are bad. Your sister should tell him that you are not that kind of person but seems she did not try to make any favor to clear the problem. I think you and your husband should see your father and tell him the truth. If he does not believe it then let he be. You did your job and up to him to say whatever he likes. If you think that he is mad because you don't contact him and visit him than do one. Perhaps it could be difficult and hard for you to do so but try it first as it is better for you to take actions before things get worse.
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@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 11
Oh, really?? How do you know that?? Then you should ask why he did so~ Perhaps he has reasons but I can't accept him for saying bad things and lies about her own daughter if it true he just making up storie!
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
For me yes maybe he is true because the parents is the best to know about there son and daughter.
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
4 Jun 11
What goes around will come around...someday he might be caught up in a situation where someone tells a lie about him...you'll have to see how he handles it! It's too bad that this happens in families! They are the ones that are supposed to love us most and best!
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• India
5 Jun 11
Iam very sorry about what your father and you all guys are going through. First of all dont curse your father for any wrong things he is doing, then be it gossiping or any other things just be calm because its given in the bible that one who curses his father or mother destroys himself so keep this thing in mind. Now coming to the suggestion part.. See tell your father dont listen to all such craps that people are gossiping about iam sure you must have done that, the next thing you can do is keep in touch with your father on timely basis so you can get to know whats going on with your father and what craps he is listening. Also you can tell you father what you guys are doing. Involve your father in parties and all. The basic idea over here is to earn the trust of your father. This will to some extent will be useful to you for you. And always involve God in your work he will do wonders to you.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Hi. Princelierocks. I have never cursed my father before. I am just very disappointed in him because he does not act like a father at all. A real father will not talk junk about his daughter to another daughter of his. My dad has been always like this. He is mean and he believes anything bad that he hears about me. I have been honest with him many times and he will still believe anything that he hears. I know that he is the one that is behind all of the lies that I am hearing.
@celticeagle (119865)
• Boise, Idaho
8 Jun 11
Some people just never grow up! To me gossiping is for immature teenagers! What is it? Boredom? Wanting to be 'cool'? And making things up because a person is mad is also immature. Why would he want to cause problems between you and your husband? How immature and unfatherly is that?