"I just want you to do what makes you happy."

@lilybug (21148)
United States
June 4, 2011 8:12pm CST
Have you ever had someone tell you that before? "I just want you to do what makes you happy." I recently had a boss of mine tell me this when I was thinking about quitting one of my jobs because I was getting burnt out. I know that when he said that he really was being sincere, but at the same time was hoping I would choose THAT job as the one to keep. He even offered me a promotion to make the decision a little easier. I am sure you can guess which job I still have. I guess dropping down to one job has made me a little bit happier because I am not totally exhausted all of the time, but really it has been so long since I have been "happy" I don't even know what would make me happy really. Are you happy? Do you know what would make you happy?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
7 Jun 11
I wondered where in the world you had been! No wonder! A little time to relax is a great start and I hope that it works out well for you. I sometimes wonder about "happy." I am pretty happy for the most part, but I do keep finding myself doing different things and pressing myself. Sometimes what we think will make us happy doesn't do the trick at all. I'm not sure if there is a such a thing as being totally happy. I think that it really depends on the person and what they are trying to achieve too. What do they want after they achieve it? Life sure is a funny thing. Great to see you and congrats on the promotion!
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Yup, to busy working to myLot. I doubt there is such a thing as totally happy as well, but I guess it does not hurt to reach for it.
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• United States
5 Jun 11
I am happy just about every day. I have my daughter and adrian in my corner and my computer is working just fine..
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I am glad you are happy.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Look at that.. you quit a job and suddenly you're on Mylot again! Woohoo! Let's see.. what would make me happy? Having a nice house out of this sh*t hole of a place we're in. Having enough money to afford our bills with a bit left over for fun spending.. that would make me happy, just living a normal life where I didn't have to stress and work my @ss off for practically nothing. Oh, and being done with school!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Yeah, I actually have a little bit of time to be on here now. I have not made payout in about year. Around the same amount of time I held down the 2 jobs. You are looking forward to getting out of school and I am thinking about going back. I just don't know what I want to do yet.
• United States
5 Jun 11
Yeah.. that was the thing stopping me all this time too.. just not knowing what I wanted to do. I ended up deciding to go for secretarial training.. and once I got into school I changed my mind and am now going for a degree as a Medical Administrative Assistant.. so basically I can be a medical secretary or transcriptionist or something like that. Maybe not a dream job.. but it will be a career making decent money.. more than I'm making now anyway!
@AmbiePam (48617)
• United States
10 Jun 11
First, I am so glad to see you here again. Am I happy? I think I'm mostly content. I wouldn't say I'm happy. The circumstances in my life right now are too troubling for me to be happy. But I'm working on being fully content. I am glad you got a promotion. Maybe your boss will start to appreciate you more than he ever has before.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
10 Jun 11
I don't know how much more he could appreciate me. I get crap all the time that I am his favorite employee.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
6 Jun 11
For the most part I am very happy. If I had just a bit more money to fix up my house and if my girls lived closer then I would be totally happy!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
9 Jun 11
More money would be nice.
• United States
5 Jun 11
I think that's the problem with me, I really try to make myself happy but in reality I still end up feeling miserable. I know what would make me happy and that is pursuing my dreams but there are little things that stop me from completing my goals or reaching my dreams. I'm always worrying about others, but I never take a look at myself and the things that I need to fix.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
9 Jun 11
Sounds to me like you need to make a little more "ME" time in your life.
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
I feel the same way. I've been thinking of quitting my job recently. I feel like I've been in the company too long and I have not achieved something that i should be proud of. I'm not really sure what would make me happy. But I believe that the jurney to find what would make me happy is what is important. Right now, even if my boss offers me a promotion, I do not think it would be something that would make me stay or make me happy. :(
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I was actually really glad he offered me a promotion because I was so sick of my other job.
• United States
5 Jun 11
My boyfriend tells me that all the time and its so fustrating because I am happy. I just want him to be a little more caring here and there but other than that im happy. What makes me unhappy, is when I constantly hear him tell me that.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Have you told him that it makes you unhappy?
@tiffnkeat (1679)
• Singapore
5 Jun 11
It seems I am always the one to tell people that instead of being told that. I am glad you have a boss like that, and I can identify with him/her. If you don't don't what it means to be happy, hey, try to count all the un-blessings in your life. Are there many compared to good blessings. Hope counting those "curses or failures" will assure you how blessed you are and how happy you should be. Count your blessings too, of coz. Things you take for granted: 1. A Job that pays u 2. A good boss 3. Health 4. Freedom of speech 5. Freedom is general 6. etc etc etc
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I think we all take most of the things you listed for granted.
• India
5 Jun 11
We can't assure the things that will make us happy. Happiness is something which is surrounded by us but we cannot see with our eyes we have to feel it within us. It Not necessary that happiness can be found from the luxurious things we get it can be emotions caring and so on. I remember this experience when i was back stabbed there were my friends that came to me for my support that incident was really touching for me. Never ever i had such happiness because at the end of the day. Mutual support is the one that will give you strength. This was my happiest movement i had in my life. Else where i was also happy by surprises that i received. But the support happiness which i got i can never forget it.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
It is nice to have people there for you when you need them.
@singlemommy (2953)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I have to say that I honestly don't know what would make me happy. I do however know that at this point in my life, I'm really not happy at all. My love life sucks, I can't find a good guy and just when I think I do, it turns out he isn't what I thought at all. I have to deal with an ex who is a complete jerk and is currently dating one of my friends and he is constantly trying to cause confusion, but I back away because I have to deal with him for another 8 years and I don't want to ruin a good friendship with his girlfriend. I'm also going through some rough time financially and I just wish I could find a way out. It seems like all I have done my whole life is pray and yes, God has answered many prayers for me, but it seems like the biggest prayers that I really need answered, don't get answered. But I can't question God, maybe they don't get answered for good reason and I just don't understand it right now. I do know that I have hit rock bottom so many times and I didn't think I would make it back up but God brought me up. I guess I'm just looking for God to bring me back up again.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Relationships have not been anywhere on my priority list for a long time. I hope you do manage to find the right guy for you. I know there are a lot of wrong ones out there.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 11
As long you know what can makes you happy and you have done the right decision, is the most priceless gift to yourself. Indeed, we should have some moments to be able to share with our loves ones, to make us feels happy. I am happy to hear that you managed to get some time off, so you can spend more time with your children. For me, the most happy moment is spending time with my family. Without them, i think this world is quite boring place to live in.
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
As tired as I have been lately, I am not sure how I ever managed to work 2 jobs.
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
I'm happy, I have a family, great friends and a loving man who supports me in my all my endeavors...
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
Sounds like you have it pretty good.
• United States
5 Jun 11
hi lilybug, i guess there are only few bosses in this world who can sincerely say that. he wanted you to choose THAT job to keep, but he used this art of subtlety to win your heart. being around friends whom i love can make me happy. but i have something weird here: I'm not comfortable to be around people whom I love and love me back. i don't know why. maybe i'm just too shy or not confident to accept love from people whom i love.haha..
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I like my boss. Most of the people I work with cannot stand him, but he really is a nice guy. If they would give him a chance they would see that. They just all hate him because he replaced our old boss that everyone liked. I guess I can see how you could be uncomfortable around the people that you love. I am not the most confident person and I am actually pretty shy too. I think it is easier to be around people who don't know you so well or you don't care so much about because the opinion of people you love and care about means MORE to you that others opinions of you. I know I can be more comfortable around some strangers than around some family.
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
hello! Lately I have been pondering about my own happiness too. It seems like I am neither happy nor unhappy lately. Maybe I lean towards unhappiness. :( I know that the thing that would make me happy is if I can travel. The movement from place to place excites me, seeing a different land or scenery. I somehow wish that my job entitles me to travel more! :P
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I would not say I am UNhappy, but not truly happy. I hope that sometime in the future you are able to find a job that allows you to travel.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
I'm glad you're happy! I think I am happy. The only thing that makes me happy is to be around with the people I love and love me back.. I feel extreme happiness when I am playing with my younger siblings and my parents! They're just so cool!
@lilybug (21148)
• United States
5 Jun 11
I rarely see my parents and I don't really see my siblings either.