A friend always on the last minute chicken out

United States
June 5, 2011 1:58am CST
I just couldn't believe this guy would do it again. He has history of last minute chicken out, and that is why we seldom call him and go with us. I remember 6 or 7 years ago, while I was still in college, me and another friend plan a trip to Florida, and we also let him in. On the last minute, he called me up, and give me some lame excuse that he couldn't go or something. Tomorrow, we should go together to this Georgia Guidestones park to see the rock formation, those inscription on those rocks. The same thing over again, he called me late at night, and giving some lame excuse that he couldn't go tomorrow. Oh well, no pressure, but I don't think that We would ask him again then. Never mind. Do you have a friend like that, weird huh!
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8 responses
• Hong Kong
5 Jun 11
Maybe he has some reasons behind which cannot tell. Is he depressed because of other issues? Does he have financial problem which cannot be told in order not to lose face in front of you guys?
• United States
6 Jun 11
Hey, it won't be get killed to be honest with us, nonetheless, we are friends, and we won't force him to go, if he has his own reason, and I won't gossip behind him. Everyone has situation coming up. But, that is not his first time stood us up at the last minute.
@KrauseHome (35034)
• United States
28 Aug 11
Personally I would not be wanting to invite someone like that. They are usually the type that are always like Why I am I never invited, never realizing that everytime you ever do try and invite them they usually chicken out or decide not to go. I could see if there was a valid reason like they were sick or something but to always be the ones to back out... Would make me think about asking someone else from now on for sure.
@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
hi, yeah you're right,i hate those kind of people,because you set good enough the time then a friend will not go to see you that day, i have one friend who act like that,every time we had a reunion he always act like that and create many excuses to the next day.
• Singapore
6 Jun 11
I think maybe you should understand his reasons, Maybe his going out with other friends. You can talk to him and tell him his history, maybe he will be shy to back out next time. But in your case, i think maybe your friend is not enjoying your company and does not want to be friends with you. I used to have a friend like that, we were going out and he seldom appeared, thats why i said "used" because we dont contact anymore. Anyway on a side note, enjoy your trip!
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
6 Jun 11
I hate it when people do that to me. Either they want to do something or they don't. I cannot be friends with someone who tells me they will do something and they either back out or they just do not acknowledge it at all.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
If be mad if a friend confirms coming with us but would back out at the last minute because sometimes it takes a lot of effort to plan and make reservations only to find out you you need to have that extra slot. Luckily we do not have such a friend in our group and we always come together complete, sometimes when one cannot make it it is because of a good reason and not some lame excuse.
@minimoyz (277)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
Yup, others have that kind of disorder, not wanting to be with other people, or maybe because he cant stand being with you guys!! financial problem maybe... instead of leaving him out, why dont you guys let him plan the next trip and maybe he'll have no excuse of not coming! Aloof? THAT SUCKS!! better help him though!!
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
5 Jun 11
I know how you feel, I also have that type of a friend. I don't really know what is up but suddenly she decides she wouldn't come. It's really annoying because before we go somewhere we already try to compute the costs and it is usually divided as to the number of people coming. So when she backs out suddenly, there would be discrepancies to the costing and it would cause other people to panic. This time around, we plan to go vacationing this coming February. It's the first out-of-the-country vacation with the group. We have already decided on it last Christmas and everyone did agree. Last week, we found a very good and inexpensive deal/package but the thing is, we must pay half today. Some of us paid fully so it could cover those who don't have money just yet. But before even listening to the plan she instantly said she wouldn't be coming. I mean, why? Can't you even give us a reason why not? I now think that she doesn't really like to come with us. I don't think she enjoys us here. It's sad because she's our college friends but we can't do anything if they don't want to come with us. So like you, I think it's best that you don't expect too much from these sorts of people. You could still invite him the next time around, but don't expect too much. Just invite out of respect.