is it confusion.....feelings.....LOVE

Philippines
June 7, 2011 2:27am CST
hi guys i am now facing a big confusion in myself this past few month because my ex-boyfriend and i got a communication this past few month, and we've been chatting and he was calling me in my mobile,actually we both married already....we just separated for almost 7 yrs. because we don't have communication, and me i got married and also him got married last 2010.The problem was he just waited me for many years before he got married, me i got married 2008 which he don't know that i got married already because we don't have communication for 1 year,and now last year November it was accidentally i just left my yahoo messenger open, and he saw it was open and then he just sent messages, i thought somebody else but when i checked it, he was him.....i don't know the feeling my heart beat fast, i don't know why i felt that way, and we started conversation to each other, he was asking how am i, he asked me also if it is true that i got married, i told everything to him that i was married already 2008, he was asking too much question about me.....in the end he also admit that he was also married, and i told him its good because i knew in myself that he was move on already, he give his number and he asked me also my number, so i give it until we were continued communication, until this month. Now i am confused because the more we were talking to each other, my feelings to him was coming back, and he also admitted that he still love me.I knew in myself that i have still feeling to him, but it is not good because we were both married..... Now it is really bothering me because he was asking me to meet each other????? Well i dont know what to do????
3 responses
@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
HI honeymalen! What a dilemma you are experiencing right now! Eventually, you have to solve that problem and in my opinion, if I were in your shoes, I'd end the communication immediately. You can still change your phone number. You're already married (have you got kids already?) and he is, too, so think about all the people you will hurt if you succumb to your feelings for him. I think because you forgot about him when you lost communication, then eventually you will also forget him if you do the same right now. What I also think is that he may have a problem with his own marriage, don't you think so?
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Oh, so there...he has a problem with his marriage because he married for the wrong reasons. Maybe he wants to get back with you, but it's too late now. I think what you have to do now is you can be friends as of now because your husband will be hurt if he finds out. It's always bad if you're the one making fool of others. If things will take it's natural course, I mean if your husband have no feelings anymore for you then that's the time you will be free to love your ex, but that's the sad part, you have to wait. But, you know what, time will tell if the two of you are really meant for each other.
@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
If it bothers you so much, let it go, consider the most important right now and you need to think wisely for the action you will going to make. You need to be sure or you must imagine what will happen if you will come back to him. Is anything good will happen if you then came back? think, how about your present life now, having your new husband? how about his new family, will he leave them that way..? Think wisely and don't let your heart fall you into ruin.
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
hi thank you for your opinion,actually i was move on already, i thought i already forget him, but because of this communication last year, and we started talking each other again, i was married for 2 yrs. and half, the problem was my husband and i was not in good situation since last year , not because of him, it was since before
@moirai (1341)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Uhm... I'd say always keep in mind your husband. And tell him the same, to always keep his wife in mind. There is nothing wrong with being friends. Just as long as you know where things stand now. It is different from before. You not only have yourselves to think about (the two of you), but each of your spouses (and families) as well... The two of you, as a couple, is in the past.