"I remember the boy, but I don't remember the feeling anymore."

@bingskee (5237)
Philippines
June 7, 2011 11:50am CST
That was a line from a local song. She was on her way home that day and to her surprise saw someone from her past. It was not a part of her yesterday that she wants to be reminded of. They looked at each other, and as expected, she was caught by surprise. She did not know how she looked looking surprised. The other person pretended like she's just one of those passersby. For some reason, she paced in a hurried walk, almost running, never knowing if the other person was still looking, and never caring if he is. She just wanted to run away from a bad memory. Have you ever felt that way upon meeting someone from the past? Have you felt nothing and void, not exactly feeling hurt or anything, but just nothing? Sometimes, our yesterday's mistakes are a thing of the past that could hunt us down if we let them. There is no point brooding about the possibility that those sudden 'meetings' could do us harm. All we have to do is go on with the happy life we now have.
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@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
7 Jun 11
I recently got re-acquainted with an ex (the wonders of FB!). It was more than 20 years ago when we last saw each other, and I could barely remember our short relationship. So lately, we've been trying to communicate regularly to try and remember what went wrong the first time around. I could certainly remember her, but not the feeling.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
hello, bounce58. that is nice. you might have parted okay. painful and ugly separations do not work that way.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
9 Jun 11
I think she doesn't agree with Joey A., she seems to think it was painful and ugly.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I think so...This song has a real message.I had been meeting some people in my past recently.Some were former boyfriends,some flings and few crushes.Maybe we're just thinking differently when we will be older, and had the opportunity to meet more important people in our lives that seeing someone you really care from the past doesn't affect you anymore, though some memories are enough for you to smile.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
and some are enough to make one frown...
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
Well,I tend to forget bad memories.As far as possible I didn't want to bear grudges to anyone because it will give burden to carry in your life.I had forgiven them if they hurt me in the past and I was even surprise that we can really go along without even feeling hesitant.
@juryse (753)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
I remember this song. Nostalgic. I've experienced this a couple of times already. I just smile and walk away. IT happens. If the feeling is no longer there then it's not there but you do not forget all of it.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
hello, juryse! how are you? 'been a long time! i agree, if it's not there, it's not there anymore. one could not forget probably the person but the feeling is not there.
@moirai (1853)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hmm... maybe it is a good thing - this feeling nothing. Maybe it means we have moved on from that past.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
i have the tendency to agree.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
i remember the song very well (hehehe) So bad i don't have boyfriend/s in the past that would make me feel that way. But crushes i have..and i am excited to met and know how and what there life's now after many years. I met one of my crush and i feel dismayed because he becomes chubby,but still cute. have a great day
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
that is a different thing, jaiho, i suppose.
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
i also experience same thing when i studying in my school and when all the classes still undergoing at the time . i excuse myself to go to the women's room upon going out i also met my classmate whom my friends tease on me. he saw me but both of us avoid meeting each other eyes. when we seat on the class each of one pretend not seeing each other. i don;t know maybe he become so shy and also me. that is funny thoughts too..
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
was he your ex???
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
I have always loved the songs of Joey Albert. I like to sing them when I was younger. Yes, I have been in this situation before and it was a really awkward moment. But we just had a good laugh. We both have family's of our own now and he is just part of my past.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
that is nice to know, sweet_pea.
@toniganzon (49796)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
If I'm not mistaken it's Joey Alberts' song. And I love that song so much. It was a great hit in the 80s. When I was in college I was walking on the street when I saw, from afar, my ex-boyfriend. I wasn't bothered and I was ready to face him or even greet him if he got near. But the moment he saw me he walked in a different direction to avoid me. It was very obvious that he really avoided me as I clearly saw that. I told my sister about this and she said, he's definitely not over me yet. I remember the boy but I don't remember the feelings anymore. So I see no point in feeling nervous or surprised, and I see no point in avoiding him.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
yep, a hit in the 80's. maybe it is not the feeling of love that was not there but a hidden feeling of awkwardness, or worse, hatred. we do remember love feelings when we see exes, and it is normal not to feel anything, which is love, anymore.
• United States
7 Jun 11
Hi bingskee Yes I do have a unique way of handling situations as you mentioned. I have a very unique way of handling situations like this and they were in no way planned. I suppose the so many heart breaks in my life, via it be family, friends, relationships, anyone painful that is. For some reason, my brain immediately filters people out. See I do get hurt and I do pain over the actions. But somehow my mind completely filters these types of people completely out. Meaning that I feel absolutely nothing, I can be amicable as I find I am respectable, but I do not feel sad, anger, hurt, love, care and or nothing. So yes my unique filtering works well for me as I rather just not feel then deter my thoughts.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
hello, dear. that is nice to know. i know it is a process, too, this filtering. but some find it hard to do.