Living alone.....

Philippines
June 7, 2011 8:32pm CST
I am a single Mom and had been living alone since my son left for college that was 3 years ago. Alone in the house, only with my dog. My activities of daily living is work, home, church and walking my dog. I don't think i am missing something, i am happy, i am content, i watch my health and i can take care of myself pretty well. But sometimes i asked myself, is it really good to be living alone?
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@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
8 Jun 11
I am experiencing the same thing you are. Living alone actually has a lot of good quirks. For one, you answer to no one and no one bothers you. You eat what you want when you want and you do what you want. But it does get a bit lonely at times. I would rather though live alone than to have negative companionship so until I find the right one for me, I quess I'll be living the good life alone. lol
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• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Yeah, i dont see any negative thing in living alone, but just like you, sometime it gets lonely, but ahhh work will overpower that loneliness. As long as i can cook myself, do my chores, travel, etc, i am comfortable living alone. But sometimes i asked myself if this will be my disposition and thoughts until i get old. That will be more than 20 years from now though hahahah. Just happy that way it is now......:)
@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Me, I still hold out a glimmer of hope that i will find that individual to grow old and die together with. Like you though I look forward to many more years (if its 20 more I'll take it in an instant) lol, and will always relish these moments of total freedom. But I think a nice back rub or foot rub would be nice from time to time. lol
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Thinking about living in solitude simply pours out a pearl of tear from my eye. "NO MAN IS AN ISLAND", as what the adage say. Currently I am living alone. I agree with PTOWER76. Living alone has it's perks. Like him, I also hold on to that hope that I can be with someone who I can grow with emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Who doesn't want a nice back rub or foot rub, a warm and hearty breakfast when you wake up, someone whom you can share a sounding laughter with, someone who is a source of inspiration? Who doesn't? It would be nice.
@flapiz (4151)
• Australia
8 Jun 11
I think it's okay if you're not sick and you don't have any medical conditions. Just take time also to socialize with people once in a while. And well, exercise and don't always just stay at home.
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• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Yeah flapiz, lucky me that at this moment, i am not suffering from any health condition, that is why i am taking care of myself, not just for me but for my son and my future grandchilren. My work is an exercise to me, i climb up and down the stairs everyday! hehehe.
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@flapiz (4151)
• Australia
8 Jun 11
That't good to hear. Well take care then. Have a nice day.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
hi flapiz, nice to hear you back. you are young and i think you are a nice girl. soon when you will know how good and wonderful it is it live in your own. Don't you love that freedom? Just always be able to know a good thing from a bad. Have a nice day, too!
8 Jun 11
Sometimes its good to be alone. In fact everybody should live happy, no matter in single or with anybody. Life is a set of a lots of part that we live one by one. It happens according to our daily activity and/or with respect to our surroundings. Sometimes its funny and entertaining with family and friends, some part of its force us to live alone and to devoted to god for the peace of mind. So if you are living alone, than there must be a reason behind it. And I believe everything happens for good only. So live life as much as you can and be happy with the present circumstances. God is Great and God is One.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Sometimes there is fear living alone, and loneliness, but you have longer time to talk with God to respond to these circumstances. Maybe that is also one reason i want to live alone to be closer to Him. That is the beauty of living alone, to be closer to God. Have a nice day ChinmayKumar, and welcome to mylot. We have plenty of great company here, hope you enjoy.
8 Jun 11
I never agree about the thinking of good to be living alone. We are human, we have social, we were born to live within social. It's not the problem when we have to live alone in some cases, but it's really good when we connect to others. So many interesting thing we will discover, so many things we can learn when we do connect.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
I got your point friend, of course we need to have a interaction with our fellow human being. That is a part of our daily living when we go to work, and other places. Did you experience living alone in a house or apartment or room yourself, having the freedom to do things u want to do? There is also a beauty of living alone..
@moirai (1471)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hmm... I don't mind living alone so much. It was that way for me from the end of 2009 to beginning of 2010. I was happy enough being able to do as I please. The only thing that I fear about living alone is... what if I die and no one knows... until the neighbors smell something...
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Oh dear, you should have at least one important person to contact in case of emergency. I am sure you have at least a phone to use hahaha...
@samaire (154)
• United States
8 Jun 11
"Better alone than with bad company" people said. If you are happy there is nothing bad in being alone. But there is difference between alone and lonely! I hope you are not lonely! I live with my boyfriend but sometimes i really want to live alone. To do my stuff, to get dog, to go out with friends more. Now my life is work and home in front of the tv or computer. I really got used to live with someone so i am scared to think that someday i could live alone
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• Philippines
12 Jun 11
You are very correct! That is why I love being alone because I can do whatever i want, the freedom is just wonderful when u can do want to you to your heart's content! As long as we are doing things in a right way then living alone is better...
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hi whitewingspeak, Welcome to myLot! I am glad that even you are living alone you are still happy,contented, and taking good care of yourserf well. Living alone is not bad as long as you are happy. Maybe there are times that you may feel lonely. this is normal. All you have to do is to find your hobbies that interest you. Do you like to draw? take some course in art. Do you like to exercise? walk or jogs in a park with your dog, or better yet, join a nice gym. try to get gym that offers everything you are looking for. You may be interested how to swim (its never too late to learn most things). Exercises strenghtens the mind as well as the body and takes care of a lot of stress. Maybe as time goes by you will be having some fun and activities here in myLot. You will really enjoy it. why? You learn something new, something different, a lot of information on everyday of life. I've been living alone too when i was in high school. My parents need to send me in a school where i have to rent in dormitory. What i did was just to make those things i have mentioned above, and for me living alone is a good way of having an experience of being independent. I have some tips to you. You may read bible everyday and night. It will increase your faith in God. This is one of a good opportunity to take some time to talk to God alone. May God Bless you! Welcome to MyLot! ^^,)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hi rhejans, thank you and thank you for the nice thoughts you shared. I really admire someone that is courageous enough to live alone. Humbly speaking, i have been so far happy being me, but maybe this is for the mean time that i am still young and healthy. Yes, i involved in things that is fun for me, outdoors specially. Honestly, I am not fond of reading the Bible, but i would like to thank you for reminding me that i have to give and share time with our Creator. I do believe in Divine Intervention, and i will remember that always. Thanks to MyLot, for having such wonderful sharing of thoughts and ideas.
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• China
8 Jun 11
Though you are alone,you're not lonely,because you have a clever son and you fill your life with some pleasant affairs.In my opinion,loneliness is just from our mind.If we feel pleased with our present condition,and lead a happy and busy life,we will not feel lonely at all.You said that sometimes you asked you whether you should live alone.Well, when you have such feelings,you'd better make a call to your son.
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
In this high technology world, we can do things easily. Yes, i talk to my son when i feel i have to, we communicate through Facebook, YM, text messages! And we do it everyday, hahaha.
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@momof3kids (1903)
• Singapore
8 Jun 11
For a particular person I know its not good but for my father I see that he adapts pretty well living alone. Like what the mylotter in box one said, that is what I feel about living alone, for my father. But for me when the time comes (if I were alone and as healthy as you are) i think I would want to volunteer. I have suggested this in almost every discussion. Its just that I see no way around it.
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• Philippines
9 Jun 11
hi momof3kids, yes its not a bad idea to volunteer, that requires time and effort. I have done that few months ago, when i was applying in a hospital where i am at now. You have that good and hearty idea, speak the good words always. Have a nice day!
• United States
8 Jun 11
I don't think that living alone is a bad thing as long as you are getting sufficient human interaction. As long as you go out and do things you need to do, it is fine to be living that way if you are happy. My mom also lives alone when my sister goes to my aunt's place to babysit 24/7. I am in college, but from time to time I would visit home just to see how she is doing. She still seems relatively happy, but there are times where having someone would make you feel more comforted.
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8 Jun 11
try seekers. but with MyLot you do not own life anymore. be happy mom.
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@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Jun 11
hi whitewinjgspeak I get a lot of loneliness solved b y mylotting a lot bu t I do have a roommate not that she is any help as she sleeps all day'b ut at least i am not alone. I seemy son each week when he comes to visit and i do socialize here at times. but I am not thrilled at having to live in a retirement center. however we were homeless my adult son and I so we had to do whatever wasnecessry tol get ourselves housing. you go to church and hopefully you have friends there and see them occasionally? You sound happy and of course you can get out and make friends. here my health puts a crimp into my going out unless I can get a friend to take me places.But again you have a dog and that s just wonderful as they are great company. also you work and have coworkers who must provide a it of friendship too.
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
hi hatley, yes glad to be here in mylot, makes my busier and hopefully meet some friends too, not just making money is my purpose here. you know, i am just lucky i live in a place where everything i go is close, my workplace, stores, a long stretched boulevard where i can unwind without spending a cent. yes, i have friend too but not as close to them as when i was younger, they have family of their own now, very preoccupied with their kids. i wish i am livng near you so maybe i can take you out sometimes in a place we can talk about life and everything. take care hatley and i hope you and your son today is in the best of health.