have you encountered this..?

Philippines
June 7, 2011 10:04pm CST
you love someone so much..but the problem is, his/her parents don't want you to be their son's/daughter's partner for life. and worse, they want another person for him/her.. what would you do..? how will you prove them that you're the right person..?
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5 responses
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Hi anjiel, There are people I know have the same situation to you and they also asked for my advise regarding that matter. Here I am now trying my very best i can to help you too. There are some ways to convince them that you are the right person to their daughter/son but it really takes time and effort. If you have a long patient then this will work for you too. First, tell to your girlfriend/boyfriend about her/his dad and mom. Ask a basic question like "What's your dad job?", "Is your dad interested in sports?", "What is your mom favorite food?" Bring or prepare a favotite food to her/his mom. out of that, make a little notes to yourself. Get together with her dad/mom. Get to know them more. Second, You have to impress them in everything you know that qualifies them to their daughter/son. Third, You have to get their trust, Let them know that you can be trusted in whatever way. Lastly, Show them how you really care for their daughter/son. Tips to you. You have to pray to the person you really love. Ask God to let his/her parents to have an interest to you. everything you need. God is always there to back up you. ^^,)/ May God Bless you!
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Don't give up to the person you really love. Afterall, Parents will not be the one who will decide. They can't force their daughter/son to love someone he/she don't love. Be strong anjiel! I know you can make it. Just have some patient and everything will work to both of you. ^^,)/ think positive.
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
thanks for your advice. i've been trying those things you mentioned. but i still feel they don't like me for their child..guess i should double my effort.. hope it works.. =D
@rhejans (191)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
Yes! double your effort and make it so sure that they can see it and your sincerity to your girlfriend/boyfriend. As time goes by they will learn how to accept you. It's what like my other friend too, now he and her girlfriend they were already engage to each other and his soon to be mother-in-law is the one who preparing for their wedding next month. ^^.) Just be patient and work on it! God Bless
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
I encounter that problem before with my partner parents. But because I showed good things to them they are slowly accepted me and now respect me as their son-in-law...
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
wow..really..? hope that also happen to me.. but isn't it hard impressing them..?
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
12 Jun 11
It's really hard most especially your poor marriage to their son. Parents is always want a rich man or girl for their daughter and or son. They don't know that love is binding the two of you...it's not money matter but love
• United States
8 Jun 11
if i really loved that girl and that girl also loved me, we believed that we would be able to surpass any obstruction to our happiness. then we would run away and did not care about the disagreement from parents. it's a blessing if we get agreement from parents. but if we don't, then the show must still go on. parents don't have the right to determine who is the best person for us. we are adults and know our spouse more than our parents. and it's I and her who will build the marriage life and face all the problems in it. parents here can function as advisors, but not decision makers.
• Philippines
11 Jun 11
i agree..parents should only act as advisors.. but, would they not start misunderstanding between the couple if they are not in good terms with each other..?
@toniganzon (48524)
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
You said that the parents have somebody else in mind. Then it would be very difficult to prove to them that you're much better than the one they have in mind. I'm a parent and we always think that parent's knows best. Nevertheless, I'm not telling you that there's no way you can prove yourself worthy foe their child. But it's just gonna take a lot of effort and the percentage of success is very low. So if I were in that situation, I would give up. It's one of my weaknesses. I just can't force a parent to like me for their son. I always think like this: if you don't Ike me to be a part of your family, then why would I want you to be a part of mine!
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
would you give up though you love their child so much..?
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Well, though I was not able to experience this myself but I've seen this situation in my friends' life. What I can say is that, no body can stop two people if they are truly in love with each other because true love will endure and always find a way. A couple who love each other would stand the test even if only the two of them against the world. Once the relatives, parents, friends who are against the relationship would see that they can not do anything to hinder the relationship and would see that they are happy with each other, they will also learn the like the person.
• Philippines
8 Jun 11
so, is "destiny" real..? hehe..