Dating 101

Philippines
June 9, 2011 9:16am CST
Anybody got some cool tips, tricks and ideas for dating? Especially for first dates. I'm looking for something that will really instill me on my date's mind. Care to share your dating experiences?
3 responses
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
First date ever?or first date with another person?whatever it is, I think it would be better if you ask first a girl's preference of a place to date to.In that way, you would know she would be comfortable of the set-up.
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
I've been in quite a number of dates, but I can't say all of them resulted in a success. Yes, I usually asks for the opinion of the girl on what activity or where she wants to go out with me. I do feel her opinion is really important. However, I don't want to make her feel that I am too indecisive on what to do and that will project me as short of being a man who can handle things. Do you have any suggestions on how to do this without bumping on the disadvantage?
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
8 Jul 11
You can suggest a place or activity for a date and at the same time asking her opinion as well would do...In my opinion, a guy who would ask my opinion is not a turn off, but a gentleman. Being indecisive could be sense during the conversation or as date lasted. :) The best way to impress a girl on a first date is be with yourself and start a conversation that would interest her.Talk more about her likes and dislikes and share about yours whenever needed. Interpersonal skill-wise,follow this principle "people want to talk about themselves"... :)
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
"People want to talk about themselves". That concept is quite true but to some extent only especially with shy and timid individuals. Well, I'll take it from you. It should really be the case that I try to ask what activities she wants to do. In conversations, as much as possible I try to ask a lot of things about my date. Also I pull off some decent humor with it and a bit of something of myself. But really it is hard to know what a girl thinks about you. I'm really not a good psychic at that especially if the girl you are with isn't that expressive. Thanks for your inputs miessy!
@mend3z (52)
9 Jun 11
You need to do something unusual so that your date will remember you. If its a first date and the first time you have met I think it is best to go for a drink, the reason for this is that if you really don't get on from the word go then you only need to finish your drink and then the date can be over. If you go for a meal then your stuck and have to endure all of the courses! If you know the person quite well before the date then do something that you are sure they would enjoy and also something that you can do in all weather - going for a walk along the beach would be a disaster for some people if it was raining but saying that some people would probably find it romantic. My Mum always says don't have sleep with them on the first date as this says to girls that your not looking for a relationship, I can see her logic in this. Hope that helps and good luck!
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Thanks for the insights! Your idea of just having a drink is nice. Saves you from spending on meals which may turn out to be forgettable if the date turns out bad. Haha! May I ask, do you recommend watching a movie on first dates? I think it is hard to get a good get to know conversation when both of you are busy watching a film. Also, will a romantic first date be too off and aggressive? I want your opinion on this since I usually do casual first dates only. Thanks!
@mend3z (52)
9 Jun 11
I can see where your coming from on the cinema thing but I suppose the date doesn't end as soon as the films finished so you could spend time discussing the film afterwards if the conversation isn't flowing too well as it will provide some common ground for the two of you. I think that romantic dates really depend on the girl, some girls will like them and some won't. I personally tend to keep romance just to valentines day and birthdays (evil I know) so I think it could be a bit too much for a first date. I feel that the only rule for dating is DON'T GET DRUNK!
• Philippines
9 Jun 11
Why mend3z? you got some experience dating and getting drunk at the same time? Share it up will you? Haha!Yeah! I'm sure getting drunk while dating will make a lot of things happen at the same time! Much like the Hangover movies. Haha! I'll follow that rule of yours! Thanks!
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
Never be late on a date! If you were late, no matter what excuse you provide, it's still a major turn off!! Hope that helps ^^ - kat
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
Yeah! I think that being late for a date is a cardinal sin! I don't have any problems with that matter since I seldom get late with my appointments. I was never late for work and I'm always on time during meet ups. I usually set a big allowance of time whenever I have an appointment. Much more if it's a date with a girl I like.