Daughter Has Really Grown up

@SIMPLYD (80362)
Philippines
June 9, 2011 8:40pm CST
Our daughter is already 21 year old. But why is it that my husband and i and also the grannies still think and treat her as the little girl we once have. We would always remind her of things to do, which she would snap that she knows already. We always worry that she might not know how to do things, which she would hush us that she has her own way. We always worry that something might happen to her along the way, when she travels to Manila or to our province alone. We always call her baby! Do you feel the same too, to your grown up children?
5 responses
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
I don't have a grown-up child yet, my son is just 5 and I am still wishing he will not grow-up that fast. Time really foes by so fast. I just used to carry him in my arms, now he is already in school doing things on his own. But in my eyes he will always be my baby. I think all parents feel that way Ms. D. We try to be protective of them because they are our most valuable treasure.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Enjoy your son while he is still a kid. When he grows up to be a teener, he wouldn't like to be kissed and cuddled anymore. That's what my office mates told me about their sons. But for daughters, no, they still can be cuddled and kissed until their teens. However, teenagers tend not to like our meddling on how they do things , be it boy or girl.
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
My 5 year old son doesn't want to be meddled on what clothes he has to wear. At 5, he sure know what he wants!
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
15 Jun 11
Yes..I do feel that way. It is hard to break the habit of guiding them after having done it for so long. When my first child started driving, I just could not comfortably be a passenger..he could do everything right and I just could not get the image of him as a little boy out of my head. I still think of him as my little "beebow" although he is 6 foot 4 now..LOL.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I guess, all parents feel that way. They never outgrow the fact that their child is now grown up. All they have in their mind is to guide and protect them as always.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
11 Jun 11
This is happening in almost all houses. Even we worry about our children like this though they have children of their own now. Sometimes I use to tell within myself - No, I should not worry. there is no point in worrying. But still we worry. Of the two of us myself and my wife -- she worries too much. I worry slightly lesser than that. I know the principle "less luggage; more comfort" - same way "less worries ; more comfort". But applying in practice, we find it difficult. We are not teaching children to breath. They breath of their own. Similarly they must be able to do their things of their own. have a good day.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Well, when it comes to as who is the more worrisome, it's my husband. He frets so much over little things, specially when our daughter asks for our permission to party. He would sometimes don't like her to go, and i would refute him and explain why our daughter should attend, etc. I guess, once we have children, it will not be taken away from us to at least worry about our children, even if they are already married and have grown old too. It's an inherent trait of us parents.
@jameygc (453)
• United States
10 Jun 11
I think that's a very normal behavior between parents. In my case, I am the grown up daughter. I am 30 and have my own family now. My parents still does the same. No matter how much time pass you are going to see her like your baby. And honestly, I don't see nothing wrong with it. That is how the love of a mother and a father is. She should feel fortunate to have a parents like you, that no matter how old she is, always are going to be there taking care of her. I am glad to have mines. Some people don't have the opportunity to feel so much love like I feel. So, keep going mom and dad. You have time enough to keep enjoying your baby.
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Sometimes though, i can see our daughter getting annoyed. Makes me feel sad that she would feel that way. But i guess, she doesn't like to be prodded on , on how things are to be done. Still, she would make us feel after, that she is already grown up so she doesn't need our instructions.
@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
I guess my parents and also my grandma (maternal side) feels the same with you! They keep on assisting me things that I surely can do but I appreciate it a lot!
@SIMPLYD (80362)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Well, for us parents eve if our children has grown old already, they will forever be the kids we once brought them up. Though, sometimes our being like that , annoys our children. Nice to know you appreciate your parents as being like that. I do think sometimes, our only child sometimes gets annoyed for our being overly protective .