Working mom is not that easy!

@masang (295)
Philippines
June 10, 2011 7:07am CST
I have two kids, all girls. Because I'm a working mom, I seldom given them quality time. I planned to quit working but our income would not be enough. I really wanted to spend enough time for them but due to the demand of my work, I can't just do it. I need your advise!
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@SIMPLYD (78119)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Since you need the job and can't just quit, then better plan your time well. Maybe at night, after you are done with the dishes or whatever chore, you could bond with your two kids, by just being with them, checking their assignments and at the same time asking them what has been their activities for the day. Then at weekends, you can also allot a time of bonding with them, perhaps watching videos with them or simply going for a stroll. Then, on Sunday, bonding time with their Dad too. Don't feel guilty not having more time with them, but make them understand that you need a job to help out in the expenses. That way, they will not feel bad for you , not having much time to bond with them.
• United States
14 Jun 11
I too am a working mom. I am also attending online school full time. Having two kids under the age of 4 is really tough and I feel like I miss out on so much. The really bummer part is that i work second shift. i work 2-10 and I feel like I miss out on so much. I wake up and cook 3 meals for them then shower and leave. I miss playtime, bathtime, story time and bedtime. I am currently using sites like these to try and gain extra money so that I can maybe cut back on some hours. I know that it is really hard, but we have to make sure that they are taken care of. I am also going to try and sell avon or something. my mom made good money off of it so hopefully I can too.
• United States
10 Jun 11
Unfortunately in this day and age it's extremely difficult for families to survive comfortably off of one income. I was a stay-at-home mother for the first year or so of my son's life but had to return to the workforce shortly after that. I now work full-time as well as take college courses so it's a rather large juggling act to make time for my now 5 year old son. It CAN be done though - I save my homework until after he goes to bed at night (which makes for very late nights for me but I get to spend time with him) and we have the weekends together. Best of luck to you and your family!
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Hi Masang! All moms are worth saluting! It is hard to raise a family under one income especially in times like these. My mom friedns in the office share the same predicament. Much as they want to look after their kids, they just couldnt. For the meantime, you can always catch up with them during weekends. Have you tried looking for a job that is mother-friendly?
@Educo11 (19)
• France
10 Jun 11
Thanks Masang for starting this thread. This is a very important question. I had a similar problem like you five years ago. At that time my daughter was 10 and my son 4. I could tell they needed me more at home, so I decided to make a few radical changes concerning my work. I started searching various job opportunities on the internet and slowly cut down on my working hours. It was a gradual shift. At first I wasn't really sure if I was doing the right thing, because my salary decreased significantly, but I spent more time with the kids. It was actually a blessing in disguise, because I started blogging and now it's started to pay off. The kids were much happier with me around, and in retrospect it was a very smart move, because shifting to the internet job opportunities actually helped me lay the groundwork for the lucrative online business nowadays.
@egram09 (78)
• Philippines
10 Jun 11
Why not try to establish your own business at home, or if your children are studying, why not put up a new venture near your child's school. By this you could work at the same time you could spend time with your children. Happy myLotting!