I still miss him terribly

United States
June 10, 2011 11:08am CST
The 30th of this month (June) marks the 7th anniversary of my Daddy passing away. He lost his fight with liver cancer after only 4 months of being diagnosed. This horrible disease kills quickly, which is an answer to prayer for the families, because it is also very painful for the patient. I hated to see my Dad hurting so badly. I had someone tell me this week that I should be "over" it by now. Can someone tell me if you ever truly "get over" the pain of losing a parent?
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• Portugal
10 Jun 11
no one ever surpasses that. besides it is needed time for people to just be ok again. im sure that it isnt easy for you to just accept that you lost your father. dont worry and take your time to just feel a bit better. sure there is no person that just accepts it. its normal that you wont be happy this day bcs it takes you bad memories back. dont feel bad about still feel sad with this. sure everyone would feel the same you are feeling. cheer up^^
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• United States
10 Jun 11
thanks for those kind words. It is harder some days than others! Sometimes something will happen and I will want to pick up the phone and tell him about it. Then I have to stop and remember that he is not there anymore for me to call
@bunnybon7 (35529)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Jun 11
Why thats just silly. you NEVER quite get over loosing a parent. i didnt even get along with my mom that well, but sometimes i still miss being able to talk to her as cranky as she was. after 9yrs. I still miss getting home and hearing my answering machine with her voice saying, call your mother!! i miss dad to but i seldom seen him the last few yrs. and sometimes i forget hes gone except around this time of year. i actually miss my late hubby John , tho the most as his birthday usually was on fathers day. since his is 17th. its been 8 yrs and i still miss him.
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• United States
12 Jun 11
My Parents - This is the engagement photo of my parents from 1964. They divorced in 1972 and I lost my dad to cancer in 2004.
Thanks for those kinds words. There were times that my dad and I didn't see eye to eye...well that's not quite true. My step mother and I didn't see eye to eye and I refused to put Daddy in the middle. I wish now that I'd tried harder to get along with her. I missed out and so did my kids. [b][/b]
11 Jun 11
I know losing someone special is very hard and sad to think but as we all know that we just borrowed our life from God. So He has the right to get it from us anytime. And just think that your dad is at peace now with Him. Don't worry because your dad is in good hands right now. All we can do now is pray for your dad. Hope this could help.
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@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
11 Jun 11
Sorry for your lose; you never get over losing anyone you love,especially and parent or a child, I have lose both. Don't you listen to anyone who tells you that you should be over losing someone that was so very important in your life. However, you must not let the lose keep you from the living the fullest life possible, he would not want you to mourn his dying forever. Celebrate his living and the time that you shared with him(hopefully great times) My mother has been gone for sometime now (cancer as well), I am so fortunate that I still have her voice on my answering machine saying that she was just calling to check on me. I love that I have her still calling to check on me. Let the pain subside, but let his memory live on.
• United States
20 Aug 11
Some days are better than others. His birthday would have been last week. My husband took me out for ice cream. We celebrated his birthday with funny memories of times together with him. Like when he ate a meal that I had scorched and I couldn't even choke one bite down. I was begging everyone to go out and get pizza or burgers and he was eating it like it was the best thing he'd ever had.
• Bangalore, India
11 Jun 11
i am sorry to hear this.!memories are the tape that is kept loaded with what we loved the most and in that way you loved your daddy and good then..love has no end..!
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• United States
31 Aug 11
Daddy was a huge Dallas Cowboys football fan. Watching them play now is so much fun. I can close my eyes and still hear him yelling at the referee's, or hollering at the players to run!
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
11 Jun 11
It is hard, and it is not easy to cope with. A parent is someone you always depend on besides your future spouse. They are you lifelong friends, and they are the only ones you can trust with. I love my parents, and I wish their happiness forever too.
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• United States
31 Aug 11
I agree. My husband tells me that those who believe there is a time limit on grief is someone who has never lost someone. Thanks for your comments. I do love my mom and I know that she misses my dad also.
@AmbiePam (48182)
• United States
10 Jun 11
I wish you would have told that person there are huge oceans out there, and that they should pick one and jump into it. How rude. I can't imagine losing my dad. With my mom's dementia so awful, if I lost my dad I'd be a wreck. He's my rock. I'm sorry you lost him. But like you, it is answer to prayer when they are in so much pain. My mom is just 51, but the dementia is so terrible, we wish it was something that would just take her on to Heaven. Just to give you an idea - I had to go in the bathroom stall with her on vacation, and make her sit on the toilet, to sit back down when she got up without actually using the toilet, and then I had to wipe her. We wish God would take her, but we seem to be facing years more of this.
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• United States
20 Aug 11
OH bless your heart. At 51, that is so sad. I know it must be hard on you. We were the same way with my grandmother, whom we finally said goodbye to April 4th. She had been going downhill for several years, and when I saw her in March, she just looked so frail. Way back in October, in a moment of lucidness, she asked me to take her life. It was so hard to tell her no, because I knew she was ready to go home.
@krajibg (11940)
• Guwahati, India
10 Jun 11
No, the pang of separation lingers forever and since the earthly affair has to go on we tend to forget for a while. I am sorry to know this carpenter. Liver cancer is deadly but if it is detected early and it is replaced by a small portion of any of the family member the patient recovers. Now since it is already past lets pray for the soul to rest without pain.
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• United States
10 Jun 11
Unfortunately my dad didn't find his cancer until it was too late. By the time it was detected it was stage four and had moved into his lymph nodes and several other organs. Thanks for your prayers