Gossiping. Do you control yourself when it comes to Gossip?

United States
June 13, 2011 5:48pm CST
There is good Gossip and bad Gossip. When it comes to sharing things that will be upbuilding to others and about someone else's good accomplishment that can be beneficial to others. Gossip that brings people down, ruins reputations, and does not benefit realy anyone I try to stay away from. If a subject tends to go in a negative direction I try to change the subject. I know that I feel like I wouldn't want someone to talk about me in a negative light to others, or ruin my reputation so i try to be mindful of what I'm saying about others. How about you?
10 responses
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I don't like gossips. Whenever someone tells me something, I always take the other side into consideration. When you hear gossips, you're always hearing only one side of the story and it's never great to read a book only half written. Besides, most of the time I just let it slip by my other ear. I pretend that I listen but I don't. It's a waste of time for me. I'd rather participate here on myLot than gossip. Another thing is, I think gossip starters and spreaders have nothing better to do in life because it just makes sense. Gossips are boring if you think about it. What do you do now that you know something about a person? Do you gain personal growth knowing it? Do you learn new useful skills when you knew about it? No.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
You are absolutely right. We really gain nothing from gossiping. We don't acquire any new skills or anything that would be of use. And we diffinitely don't make money. It is just best to use our time on other important endeavors that are worth our time.
• Philippines
12 Sep 11
Yep, I'd rather be productive than spread false news.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
7 Aug 11
When people comes to me, and I try to be cautious about this. Or I won't join this conversation at all.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
Yeah it's good to be cautious about these things. I don't like to be involved in such conversations either. Gossiping about others that damages another persons reputation is very harmful. A lot of the time people tend to say things that isn't true. And we wouldn't want to hurt another person's reputation.
@megamatt (14332)
• United States
14 Jun 11
Gossip is something that I can really get highly amused how. However, it is really not something that I take all too seriously. All it takes is one person to make one offhand comment about someone, just a thought about someone, before it really can get out of hand a lot of the time. Something that is just a stray thought for whatever reason, can turn into something that someone believes to the truth. All it takes is one little side comment to cause everything spiral out of control and everything can just be one muddled mess. However, that is really just something that I would really want to avoid at all costs a lot of the time. There is just nothing good that comes out of constant gossip for me. Besides, there is just far more important things to worry about, other than gossiping about the lives of other people. In many ways, gossip tends to be a train wreck that you cannot really look away from. In other ways, its just something that I have to really force myself to look away from it. So yeah, I try to avoid gossip.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
I agree with you it only takes one thing for a story to turn crazy and get way out of hand. It always amazes me how something that can seem so crazy someone else can believe it and think that it is true.
@SAMKAT (91)
14 Jun 11
I am all weather person and let me say I do some time Gossip but this generally happens when one talks ill of me
• United States
12 Sep 11
It can be discouraging and hurtful when other people talk bad about us. That's why people should stay out of others business. If people don't listen to Gossip and share it with others then it wouldn't spread.
@gamma9967 (607)
• India
14 Jun 11
When i start gossiping i really don't realize what am i speaking but i and you share a similar thought and i don't like talking bad about someone so whenever this is the case evei i try to change the topic because it is none of our business.
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• United States
12 Sep 11
Yes most people like to have their own privacy. That is why there are some many things that try to protect a person's privacy. And so it's the same thing when it comes to gossip, we don't want people in our business so we should stay out of theirs.
• United States
14 Jun 11
I'm learning! I have to say, I've learned from the best, my mother is a huge gossiper. I can always tell when she's talking to grandma about me in Spanish, too, nothing I say or do is private! If it's negative, but true, I think it's fair game, and you have to work with what you have and be confident in what you say or do, so it doesn't matter what people think. People will talk, and I think it's going against natural instinct to try to stop!
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• United States
12 Sep 11
That would be hard to deal with and avoid if our parent/s are that way. I personally feel that gossip that harms others in a negative way is wrong. If it causes damage or hurt to another person's reputation it's a sad thing to talk about. I feel if we wouldn't talk about such things while a person is right in front of us then it wouldn't be a good thing to do it when they aren't a wrong. Once gossip starts spreading the damage is done so it's best not to start. So i'm happy that I don't spread gossip. People know not to talk to me about others, with me is where gossip stops. Thanks for sharing your views.
• United States
13 Jun 11
I have to admit that I have very little control over what I share. Unless someone specifically tells me not to share something with anyone else, it might leak out. I know that I should be a better person than this, but it just happens sometimes. What do you do to control yourself in this area?
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• United States
12 Sep 11
It's pretty easy for me not to talk about others. Somethings that I think about before I start talking about someone or something is: Will it damage their reputation, is it speaking of them in a positive or negative light, Would i say such things if they were sitting right in front of me, if I were in their shoes would I want someone to repeat what I'm about to say about myself. That generally helps me out a lot. Keep working on it, You will get better at it.:)
@allknowing (58112)
• India
14 Jun 11
It is said that even the kinds gossiped. What we see in films is nothing but gossip. What we read in novels is nothing but gossip. News channels are the biggest gossipers so what's the big deal in gossiping as long as it does no harm to anyone!
@allknowing (58112)
• India
15 Jun 11
Please read as 'kings' (kinds - typo)
• United States
12 Sep 11
There is good and bad gossip. Bad gossip is the kind that hurts others. Good gossip is for example when we share something that someone did that would be encouraging to others. So i agree that good gossip is just that. But gossip that belittles and damages another persons reputation is hurtful and we should avoid it.
@cyfernet (2797)
• India
14 Jun 11
Gossip is good especially when the gossip doesn't cause anyone trouble because some who are in the surrounding areas might think that we are gossiping about them. Usually this happens in crowded areas. So i guess as long as we don't reveal anything loudly about what we all talk then i guess it's good gossiping about anything as we get to know many things that could be known from the other person.
• United States
12 Sep 11
Yeah if it's encouraging to others and doesn't damage another person's reputation then we should feel comfortable. It's when it gets to be about very personal matters and in a negative light that damage is done.
14 Jun 11
I admit that there are times when we cannot control our mouth but we should try to stop it because it is not good to gossip other people.So we should try to shut our mouth and keep it to ourselves.
• United States
12 Sep 11
How you said it is very straightforward and to the point. And that is diffinitely how we should look at things when it comes to gossip. We don't want others talking about us and we shouldn't do it to others.