are you a good child to your parents

@SIMPLYD (78623)
Philippines
June 15, 2011 10:24pm CST
When I was younger, I did some things that made my parents mad at me. I guess, during that time , I was just young and carefree but not innately bad. But all of us outgrows some bad acts in us and as we grow , we mellow and realize our mistakes. Now, that I am older, I know in my heart and I can see , by the way my parents treats me, that I have become a good child to them . I now, always bring smile and happiness to my parents . Maybe because I am already financially capable and emotionally matured. What about you guys?
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@shengcruz (221)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Yes, of course! hehehe I want to believe that I've always been a very good daughter to them. Wherever they maybe now, I am confident that I am still much loved by them and that they still patiently look after me. I think there was never a single moment in my life that I became a source of frustration for them, I am not bragging, actually. I am just happy and proud of myself knowing that I did all I can to please them. I'd like to think that I am their li'l darling now and until the end of time... I will always be their favorite child (Good thing my bros aren't mylotters..hehe).. Do you think some parents really practice favoritism among their kids?
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@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Your parents must be very proud of you sheng! Parents love their children unconditionally. However, i cannot say whether some parents practice favoritism, because we only have a daughter for our child. However again, i have noticed that some parents can really play favorites among their children. Some would become the favorite of their parents just because they are financially able and can give their parents various comforts. But some would base on being the kindest among the children. But i wish they shouldn't do that , because it hurts the feelings of the other children.
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Thanks SIMPLYD for the best response. Yeah,I think parents shouldn't play favorites among their children. In my case, I think mom and dad were fond of me because I was their youngest and their only girl. Sometimes my brothers would tell me that mom and dad used to give me special treatment and so I was their favorite. I really have a hard time defending my parents from my brothers.I then think that it's useless to argue with them since their minds are closed. What's important is I know deep in my heart that that they have loved us unconditionally and equally. Perhaps, some parents are just misunderstood by their children. Some do have the "apple of their eyes", but it doesn't necessarily mean that this child is most loved or most favorable among the other siblings. Anyway, as a parent, I promised to myself that I would never practice favoritism among my kids...I will love them impartially till the end.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
5 Jul 11
Welcome. You deserve it my friend. In your case, it is obvious that you are the favorite of your parents. Of course, because you are the youngest and the only girl, so they will really dote on you much, as compared to your brothers. But i know, as your brothers were growing , they too, were doted well by your parents. That's always the case when we are smaller. our parents take special care of us. But once we have grown, they more or less lossen up because we can already take care of ourselves. Though, for girls, that will go on until they get married.
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I was a mischief when I was kid and my parents had a hard time raising me. They used to scold at me all the time, drag me home, ground me during weekends, etc.. Although I understood why they did that, they were to protect me from hurting myself. Of course, as a kid you're always active and you just wanna explore and I always did and I always got punished coz of it. But now, I understand what they really meant. I had my reasons then but their reasons for punishing me are more clearer now.
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@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
It is only when we experience some downs in life, when we realize that the reminders of our parents are after all correct. And it is also during this time that we go back to them and let them feel our remorse in having disobeyed them. But our parents love us dearly, so they would always take us back in our arms. To them, we are always their "good" children.
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Yep, I guess you're right. Being their children, I also think they take pride at how we grow up because they're the ones who brought us up. It's like most of their life's worth of work.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
16 Jun 11
I was a good guy. I listened to my parents directions regarding studies, job posting, marriage etc. Thereafter I decide. My children also behaved like myself. No problems from that score. have a good day.
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@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
That's nice to hear. Seldom would you see children , in their younger years who didn't in any way, disappoint their parents by having bad behavior. It's part of growing up i guess, being rebellious. Your parents must be so proud of you all throughout!
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
16 Jun 11
I hope so. Both of them are not alive now. But they will subscribe to the same view. have a good day.
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
i would like to believe that I've been a good child to my parents. Although, I believe that parents do love their children unconditionally, I would still want to be the best daughter for them. I too have done bad/naughty things when I was younger. My parents still understood and forgave me regardless of those things. Hence, now that I am older and much more mature, I would like to be the best daughter as much as possible.
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@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Basing from your narrative, you are naturally a good child to you parents. Your desire to be the best daughter to them proves that you are. Keep it up!
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Hmmm if i were to access that, i can i say i have been good.. i had good grades, more than good i believe.. i was in the honors, my parents were all the time going up the stage to pin me that ribbon or put that medal on my neck i never dissappointed them, i was good in painting and they were proud of me i believe.. just that i guess i hit that point of choking where i know i had to stop doing what they wanted me to do, it was always like that, this is what they want, this is where i should go, this is what i should do, i should not do that but i should do this.. there were always commands and i guess i got to a point where i got into this rebel mode.. and well i started objecting behind their backs and it happened in college but still believe me i was still a good girl infront but a rebel at the back, my grades are still freakin high but i would often sneak out...cut classes and attend when there will be exams...well i was pretty bad that time and well thats what happened, i got pregnant when i was 19 and things turned 360 degrees. They all started pouring their dissappointments and i was in much more rebel mode! It was hell but i still got through it and both sides got to understand what happened... so am i good child to them? i would still say yes, with a little "kick"
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Wow, i appreciated your being honest of your rebellious ways. I guess, each and everyone of us at one stage of our lives, have rebelled to our parents in ways we unknowingly and knowingly have done. But still , in the end we come back and make amends of our rebellious ways to our parents. And when we do that, we again become "good children" to our parents.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Well, yes at first i was on denial and i do not admit what i have was wrong or somewhere down the road i made a mistake. I was on denial stage really bad even when i was pregnant with my first child, i tried my best to hide her because i was ashamed but when i felt the support from my hubby i realized there is no need to hide! And to think i was able to hide it for 6 months! Only then when i admit my fault and my mistakes that i fully accepted that i was wrong, that somehow i need to apologize and that means breaking down that wall that prohibits me to accept the fact that i will be a parent soon. But i did broke down, admit my mistakes and though there were tears and a lot of hurtful words still said.. in the end i was able to forgive myself and accepted what happened and it made me a better person, a better daughter to my parents, i was able to see their perspective along the way and in the end it made me realize their worth and my child's worth. It was never easy but well i am glad i went through it because if i have not, i do not know where i am now.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
It's but natural to deny our mistakes at first, because it's hard to accept that we did a mistake. However, it being a mistake and hiding it would bug us constantly. When we finally realize that we have to own up to our mistake and make it known to people closest to us, it's as if a huge load was taken away from our shoulders.
• United States
16 Jun 11
I personally think I have made my parents very proud of me. All of us as a child upset our parents, we don't do it purposely is just we are children we have yet to differentiate, what is wrong and right of course then we just do it eventhough we know it will upset our parents because basically we want or we think we could get away with it. But I know for a fact that my parents are extremely proud of me. I am a great job I am finishing up my education, I am married with two children. I remember a saying that my mom used to tell me when I was growing up, "What goes around comes around" what you do to your parents eventually you will experience it with your own children and you know what she was absolutely correct. My son is a stubborn as I am and my daughter has my same temper. Funny how things happen.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Yes, i noticed that too. Whatever you have done to your parents will surely be done to you by your children. So, let's just be good children to our parents and be a model to our children.
• United States
17 Jun 11
I couldn't agree more!!!
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
17 Jun 11
My dad is no more, but my mom is alive, she lives half a kilometer way, i go to see her everyweek, she comes to our home too, it is our duty to take care of our parents, they are next to god only.. Thank you so much for sharing this nice discussion Namastey. ^Kalyani^
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Nice to hear Kalyani , that you take it as your duty to take care of your mother, because i do think that way too. Our parents must be so proud of us. I pity those parents who doesn't seem to care about their parents , put them in a nursing home and don't even visit them. It pains my heart for those poor parents.
• China
17 Jun 11
I can not see i am a good child,but in my parents' eyes i am a good child,most of the time i am a good child that alway follow what they want me to do,but sometimes not,because i have my own idea,so sometime they angry with me,but not so serious.And now i am an adult now,althougth now i don't have my own child but i know my parents are not so easy to bring me up,so i will be filial and respect to them.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Our not following some of what our parents tell us, do not actually make us "bad" to them. It's just sometimes, we do some things our own way. Having respect for our parents , means loving them unconditionally.
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
16 Jun 11
Dear friend, It was know that I was a naughty child when I was kid, later when I grewup may in college days I was bit not much into nay bad character or nature, Moreover my parents liked to apprecaite my teens till present. I feel my childhood naughtyness would be a part of being immature. Anyhow I feel much happy that my parents feel I am a good boy.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
It's nice to hear that your parents do regard you as a good boy. Keep it up and make them proud forever!
• China
16 Jun 11
well, i think that i am a good daughter in my parents' eyes during the process of growth, although i once also a mischievous and made them angry, i generally was a obedient child. they love me and i love them, too...
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I think each and everyone of us passed a stage of mischievousness when we were kids. Being that doesn't qualify us as bad to our parents. It's part of growing up so they don't consider us as "bad" when we did that.
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I always wanted to be a good child to my parents.So as much as possible while I am at home I want to show them how much I care about them that I am also a good child to them by doing some household chores at home and taking care of their needs everyday.As much as possible I want to do something that makes them happy every day.I always cook dinner for them so that in my on way I can show them that how good I am as a daughter.I never talk back with my parents even if the words sometimes is hurting my feelings.But I know what they are telling me is for my own good.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Your parents must be so proud of you alquizar. Though they may not vocally tell you, deep inside, they are. Seldom now that we see children as good as you. Keep it up and am sure God is smiling at you !
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
16 Jun 11
Until now, no one thinks I'm a good boy. I always make mistakes. When I was a student, I often make a mess, and make me get a predicate, a recalcitrant child. Now, I was married and had children. But, I still can not be a good boy.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
Well, making mistakes in life doesn't make us a bad person. Those mistakes makes us better persons. So why would you say that you are not a good boy? To some parents, their children will always remain good for them. One can be bad, but still they remain good to their parents. It's their parents who can tame them, after all. Let's just love our parents, whether we are good or bad.
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
While I was growing, I had my share of haughtiness and naughtiness that rendered my parents's high blood pressure to great level. I am not proud of it but I admit I could be unruly.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I guess, all children tends to be naughty. This naughtiness is perceived as innocent "bad" actions by our parents, which they don't take seriously, but could just be forgiven in any situation.
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
hello simplyd, I can say that i am a good child to my parents. I always make them proud of me with my school achievements. But...i gave them one heartache when i fall in love. I disobeyed them for the first time when i run away from the arranged marriage that they wanted for me. That's the only time that i make my parents disappointed and yes...my whole kin as well. have a good day
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I guess, everyone of us, in one way or another has been "bad" to our parents. Although, we have no intention of being so, but sometimes it's inevitable , like what you did to them, when you disobeyed them. Don't worry, they will soon realize that you just want to be "real" happy having a husband of your own choice.
@tina256 (190)
• China
16 Jun 11
me too ,when i was a child ,although i am a daughter for them . daughter also could be naughty ,lol . i ofter made my mother angry ,i also even fighted with my mother .i am very sorry for this . but now i am close to my mother ,i constantly call my mother when i get free .i love my parents very much . i think everybody have their own version of childhood,it is a very cherishing memory.
@SIMPLYD (78623)
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
When we were younger, we tend to rebel to our parents. Rebel we may be to them, but they love us and we love them too, dearly. But i noticed as a person grows older they begin to realize that they do love their parents so much and do things to make up for those days when we rebel against their wishes.
• Philippines
16 Jun 11
I was a mischief when I was kid and my parents had a hard time raising me. They used to scold at me all the time, drag me home, ground me during weekends, etc.. Although I understood why they did that, they were to protect me from hurting myself. Of course, as a kid you're always active and you just wanna explore and I always did and I always got punished coz of it. But now, I understand what they really meant. I had my reasons then but their reasons for punishing me are more clearer now.