Living in rural area without a car

United States
June 16, 2011 1:57pm CST
This is terrible. I just moved to an isolated area where my boyfriend's family lives, and it is impossible to go anywhere by walking. I have no car, and my boyfriend got a job this week so I am stuck here in his house. I've never been so dependent in my life. I always lived somewhere where I can walk anywhere. This change is killing me. How do you handle life without transportation? Without anywhere to go?
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@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
19 Jun 12
While hubby was serving as professor, we were transferred to towns, cities even rural areas, we could manage without car, we have to depend upon public utility vehicles
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
5 Aug 11
hi, oh that so really not good because i cant go to the mall or to the place i want especially when the placer is really far to my location,and also i hate to wwalk alone and go somewhere,and also its really hard to transport,not really comfortable,but what can we do you dont have any choices.
@albto_568 (1268)
• Costa Rica
21 Jun 11
I have never moved, but, years back, I had to spend some weeks in a rural home, of one of my aunts, kilometers from nowhere, no public transportation, no car, I understand perfectly well what you are feeling right now, and it is nothing good or easy to overcome, I got an addiction to videogames in that house, I was alone, at least you have your boyfriend the evenings and nights. I hope you get used soon, or get a car and find somewhere to go and things to do.
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
Quite frankly, I haven't experienced this. Living in a place where you don't have anywhere to go is like being stuck in an island. I just took your description here and pictured it. I think I'll have numerous nervous breakdowns having that kind of lifestyle.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Oh my...that is tough to handle a sudden change like that. Being in a rural area is no piece of cake without a ride either. I know. I live in an in between area. Living in a city wasn't great and being too rural wasn't great either. I like in between. I wouldn't be able to get many places without a car though either. I actually took up a couple of hobbies when I lived in the rural area. Enjoying nature was one of them and the other was cross stitching..LOL..the cross stitching is a bit too laid back for me though. I'm glad you are back online with us..that might help some. Tell your b/f that you need something to keep you busy too. Maybe he has some suggestions how to help.
@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
17 Jun 11
Hello Sasha. I see to "fast" solutions to your problem: first you could use the public transportation, i am thinking that you must have some buses around where you know live. second you might consider a bike (cheapest option) or a scooter (but this one is more expensive). I am thinking that a car requires a driving licence and a car, so this might not be the optimal option.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
yikes! that is so boring and limiting. i would tell my bf about how i feel, of course. how he reacts to it will conclude what will happen to your relationship in the future.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
17 Jun 11
Living in a city without car is fine but I guess in a rural area it's inconvenient. Are the buses there frequent??? I have not been in that situation ever but when i imagine it, it seems to be inconvenient.
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hi dearie, i guess it's about time for you to find other things you can do at home. I used to live in a rural area too but it was good. Simple life as it may be defined but it's happier and closer to families and neighborhoods.
@SIMPLYD (83265)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Don't they have public transportation there? Maybe you can go around the place and enjoy the new sights. Most of all be nice to everyone in your family's boyfriend, so that they could be with you in times you need their companies.
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
At least you have myLot, so you can reduce the feeling of boredom and isolation. Don't you have TV, or at least a radio for music? If your boyfriend's family lives nearby, why don't you visit them or invite them to visit you? How about books, did you bring some? Having a lot of free time gives you opportunity to read up on topics you may have missed earlier. The internet too can provide you almost unlimited access to information from all over the world. And you can get in touch with your boyfriend through the internet and cellphone anytime you/he want/s. Why not experiment growing organic vegetables? Whatever you decide, it will be very important for you to really organize your day and set daily objective/s and stick to them so that you will have a sense of achievement everyday. Without it, you will feel "terrible." With it, every day becomes an opportunity.
@stanley777 (7177)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Sorry to hear about your situation I hope you can find something to do to spend your time while your boyfriend is away.I thought rural areas are a nice place where you can relax you know fresh air, the scenery far from the busy transport of the city.But as you have said it's an isolated area, you mean you can't even walk on the surroundings and enjoy the view.I hope the week is over so that your boyfriend can be with you.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
17 Jun 11
We went with no car for a year. Fortunately there is a grocery store within walking distance, but there isn't much else except parks and houses. I think the dependency would be very difficult. I would try to find hobbies and things to do that don't require driving. (Maybe take up photography? or gardening?)
@youless (93717)
• Guangzhou, China
17 Jun 11
I can understand that it is inconvenient to live in the rural area without a car. Do you ever consider to buy a bicycle? At least it is easier for you to go anywhere with it. It is better than having a walk. I love China
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
It is boring really but learn to adopt to your new environment slowly and eventually everything will be okay. Take a walk and you won't be bored.
• Canada
16 Jun 11
That's tough. Usually when you live in a rural area you kind of need a car. You could consider getting a job yourself to save up for a car. I live in a big city but where I work I really needed a car to get back and forth. It took me a few months but I finally saved up enough for a car.
@GemmaR (8526)
16 Jun 11
Is there no way that you could get hold of a car? You can probably get one that isn't too expensive. I don't know how old you are, but if you're over 25 your insurance shouldn't be too much either. You could start a new hobby? Are you creative? A friend of mine makes greetings cards and sells them at craft fairs. You could do this, and earn some money at the same time which means that you might be able to afford a car. If you're in the country, you could use the extra time to go jogging in your new surroundings and get fit, or spend time online making some extra cash. There are lots of things that you could do. Does your boyfriend have a car? You could arrange for him to take you into town and then pick you up when he's finished work at the end of the day.
• United States
16 Jun 11
Ouch and that is one of my fears. See I have lived my entire life in the city and later this summer we are contemplating living in Arkansas. Tough I will have a car, I won't know anyone and or the place well, and have the feeling that even with a car at first I will be so bored and feeling as yourself. Hopefully if the move takes place, I will have to quickly adapt somehow though the rural place does not have much for entertainment. Maybe you can meet some interesting people near you age group and hang out somehow as that feeling, would be so mind boggling. Good luck with that, and maybe a car soon too.
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
16 Jun 11
It is terrible. But I am not surprised. We are in a city/village in Indiana--Here also one has to depend on his own car. No private buses. Even in Detroit -I found people depend on their own conveyance. it is because USA all are rich. I found your blogs interesting. I know what is bothering you is new people, new surroundings, new situation- lack of car. That is compensated by internet. Blog more. be happy. You can write for ehow, ezine, so that u will be busy.
@elida279 (165)
• Bulgaria
16 Jun 11
I'm in exactly the same position for 9 years already with this difference that there are so many places to go to. Unfortunately I cannot have a car and there are no buses as well. You can imagine how much money I'm spending on taxi. My heart is paining :D. But good that I found myLot so there is hope for me now :D.