Have Mercy....Marry me..will you? could you?

By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39142)
Philippines
June 17, 2011 2:44am CST
Here in my country,decades ago when a girl reaches the age of 30 and still single,she's often been kid/bullied to marry the first guy whom she meets outside. And tagged as "left by the last trip" Here's one story that made me start this topic. Jenny is on her late 30's and always been the center of teasing in their office. She's pretty and never had a boyfriend,she's a real shy type girl,that's maybe the reason why guys are also aloof to court her. Then...one day,this new hired employee noticed about this and out of the blue offered Jenny to MARRY him. Yes...ROY proposed to Jenny impromtu.(spur of the moment) To their office mates amazement,Jenny said "yes" To make the story short..they got married and happily married for more than 30 years now. "I asks the couple (ROY AND JENNY) how does it happen and what did they feel Jenny says...actually i said yes because i had a a crush in him the first day he joined us in our department. Roy said...honestly ,i pitied her everytime she's been teased/kid and bullied by our officemates, it's "MERCY" that drives me to marry her,and knowing she's a good person,I tell myself,it won't be hard for me to learn to love her. Indeed...they are happily married for 30 years now,with 2 kids and 2 grand kids. Take note...ROY is younger of 8 years than Jenny. this is not a referral link http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8qwZUT4Poo&NR=1 [b]"for love to some is like a cloud to some as strong as steel for some a way of living,for some a way to feel and some love is holding on and some say letting go and some say love is everything and some say they don't know"[/b] 6/17/11 3:42pm PT
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18 responses
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
It rarely happens in ones life time. but not on every one elses.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
that would be another "hit" story
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
dear LK, Don't worry dear brother...who knows your story is another "shakespear" untold story and still waiting to be unfold
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• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I hope we can witness LK's Untold Love Story waiting to be UNFOLD
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@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Hi jaiho! Wow,what a love story! Love can really make the impossible possible! I'm glad they are living happy now knowing that Roy just pitied Jenny. It will really hurt Jenny if Roy would have fooled her since Roy is her first suitor,first love and everything that is first,hehe! I am happy for Jenny!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hello cutie kid, I was really amazed about their love story. It just begun with pity from Roy and Jenny being desperate (hahaha) I am sure it's love that made them decide ...maybe it sounds "impromtu" but deep inside their hearts,love is already there..just need the right time to flourish and voila...it did! have a great weekend dear
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• United States
17 Jun 11
Maybe I'm crazy, but I don't find that story to be romantic or inspiring or positive at all. I think it's horrifying and just plain awful. First of all that a woman is persecuted for not being married by a certain age. It's no one's d@mn business what her relationship status is. It's horrible for a culture to condone and encourage this juvenile behaviour. Secondly, he proposed to her out of PITY and just figured he could LEARN to love her? That's so NOT romantic that is' outright insulting. If a man ever did that to me, I'd tell him exactly where he could shove his pity proposal. And finally I think it's just sad that the poor woman had to settle for marrying her crush just to stop being bullied in her work place. Much less that he only proposed to her out of pity. This whole story just makes me sick.
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• United States
18 Jun 11
jaiho2009 - Thanks, you too ^_^ LetranKnight25 - Because this is a public forum and I have a right to voice my opinion on any subject I choose. Furthermore, I don't see how treating women with equal respect as individual human beings is "too liberated".
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hello GCL, Thanks for your response and have a great weekend ahead
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
why respond when it makes you sick, ignoring it has always been the best option? from where you came from that doesn't happen because you guys were too liberated. so, please i beg to differ, just ignore something that makes you sick
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
17 Jun 11
Good to hear they are at least happy. Spur of the moment? Not for me, thanx. Anyway as they say age, looks and whatnot ain't important. It's what's in the heart. Or so they tell me.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
uh uh...bet i am still having a sleepy head (hahaha) typo err Actually i am having a sleepy head this (head)"MORNING" while heading to attend this emergency meeting.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
17 Jun 11
very sweet sweetie.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
dear I can't sleep thu i am sleepy..having the thought,(^_^) What if someone approach me and say "marry me" (^_*) uh uh...not now...i am still sleepy
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hi jaiho, This is rarely happened it is good that they end up happy together Because they have feelings for each others But in my own opinion I will not marry someone because of mercy I want to marry him because I love him and he loves me too... miss yah!
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
Oh well my dear bhaby..let me think about it. ok...i will consider one,marrying because of "mercy" give me choices
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
choices? maybe we can visit a zoo for your choices
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
that's great...i want a huggable....bear
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
17 Jun 11
Jai beti Thank you so much for sharing again. Wait for one day more, Dada' student has gone to Guruji, with cell phone, Guruji will provide more details soon. Here the husbands are usually older than wives, though exceptions are there always. All that matters is love and care, the emotions, youth doesnot last longer I will go rest too Dada is snoring, the med given to him has some thing i guess Blessings from me and Dada. ^Kalyani^
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
dear maa, Thanks that dada is doing fine. And again...thanks also for all the understanding dear maa. There are good stories of love that are yet to be discovered and i love hearing good stories...one success story is yours and dada thanks for all the blessings too maa...love you and dada
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Wow!! This is amazing, and proves how sometimes a relationship can last and you may not have ever thought. Many times there are people that marry for arrangement reasons and it ends up working out. But to ask someone because you feel Sorry for them, but still together 30 yrs. later and Happy now that is what True Love and commitment is all about.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
hello KH, It's really one of the good love story i've ever known in real (not from a novel) Seeing the couple in person and listening from them how their story started really inspires me,that love really moves in mysterious ways. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend
@jazel_juan (15747)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
It is nice to hear such wonderful stories of love jai, it might not be love at first but they were able to endure those 30 years and still both are strong.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
hello jazel, It's so nice to hear such kind of success story of love that endures all the odds and sounds like fairy tales. It's so inspiring and made me fall in love again hahaha have a great weekend my friend
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Are you kidding? I find this so unbelievable, I think it's made up.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
hello andy, Some great and successful love story are not written,unpublished and not even shown in movie theater. There are lots of good love story of happy endings and some tragic ones...untold and unfold. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend
@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
And yet they lived happily ever after. It's a beautiful story Jaiho... Anyway, I'm back! Hehehe been busy these days, school has just started and there are a lot of things to prepare aside from my ready to go self. :-) Kumusta amiga? I am visiting because I am missing you all! And of course, the chit chat too.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
dear amiga, Really one of the best story i've heard in real life. Life really has lot of surprises right..and love always gives reason for our hearts to fall in love hehehe. I am fine dear..and yes i know you are busy again for it's school time.. wish to see you every now and then
• Mexico
19 Jun 11
Hi jaiho: I think that was a lovely story. Sometimes i think that love arrive in the less expecting circumstances, like for example this one. So basically they were mean to live together, the p0roblem is that they haven't talked to eachother and tehy could be a good couple. Thanks to this special circumstance the guy felt brave enbough to ask her to get married. I think he was wise and he has learnt to love her. That's lovely. ALVARO
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
hello Alvaro, The couple are happy living for 30 years now and their two kids already has family of their own and have kids also. Love really moves in mysterious ways and we never know when love comes. For some people..it comes unexpectedly when they thought there is no love. For some it comes the moment they stop searching for it. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend dear
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
20 Jun 11
I think that's really sweet, my parent always said its not love what made marriage last but friendship the couple made in the way. I think basically the married is really deep friendship. I think this day its OK if a woman much older than man one of my aunt married to a man who younger 10 years than hers. Its not big matter if you ready with what will you dealing in the future.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
hello nangisha, Yes,age doesn't matter when it comes to love. I don't see any reason to make age as big deal...it's love and love always that matters. thanks for your response and have a great day always
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
18 Jun 11
Hi sis!! What a goooood story~ I really like it~ No matter if others say they could not believe or sick of it I do believe such a love story. Why?? Because I have heard about the same story but different people of course and like yours they were happily married more than 20 years. The same reason why the husband marry her~ Why not?? I don't see that mercy as something insulting nor lowering the women status or level. If they can live together for that long of time I am sure their love works. With that mercy too I am sure they both can live together till the end of their lives.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
hello CTH, Yes dear sis..some people never believed that great love story are just around. The Shakespeare's love story are inspired from true love stories,from simple people just around our neighborhood. Love really is the main reason why the couple agreed to marry each other. Yes,there was this "mercy" pity in the first place..but it's really "love" that binds them together and that made their relationship lasts till now. thanks for your response and have a great weekend dear
@funnyGai (52)
• United States
20 Jun 11
Hi Jaiho2009,I feel you are the hero of the love story. it's good .. Thanks for sharing with us
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
hello funnyGai, How i wish someone will ever asks me or proposed marriage in sweet manner We...it's not my story dear...mine is a different one (^_^) thanks also for your response and have a great day always welcome to mylot
• United States
21 Jun 11
Hi Jaiho, if both are thinking the same, then day... month... year.. then one fine day life... so any one of them have to come forward to wish, what they have desire, to the concern person, then only it will go head. if you didn't inform that, they it will be a waste of time..
@Strovek (868)
• Malaysia
17 Jun 11
Nice love story.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hello Strovek, Thanks for dropping by and have a great weekend ahead
• Indonesia
17 Jun 11
Thanks for share those story.It's awesome and remind me that sometime miracle can happen without we understood.It's marcy or fate?I think it's both.How luck Jenny and how mature Roy!!It's not easy to find someone like him.And nothing can say but congratulation for Jenny :-D
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hello red, You are right...Jenny is so lucky and Roy for being mature. But i still believed that...they were really destined for each other. Or else,the marriage won't succeed and lasts...they learned to love each other in the real meaning of it. have a great weekend ahead
@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
18 Jun 11
Hi jaiho, Its really a nice story but one thing which i got surprised to read that ROY married JENNY just to rescue her from officemates. No i think he was also got attracted by her but he is not accepting it as one can not marry one just for this reason.But anyway all's well that ends well its nice to hear that they are happily married since last 30 years wish them good luck.
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
hello sjvg, Actually,there is already attraction between the two. They were attracted to each other and that makes the whirlwind love affair successful. 30 Years of happy marriage is enough proof that love really moves in mysterious ways. Thanks for your response and have a great weekend
@wzm1022 (43)
• China
17 Jun 11
A very touching story ,a very good result, in China,we call it "lovers to get married"
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@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
hello wzm, I've read a very good story that happens in China actually. It's almost same ...the guy is younger for many years ,but it's never a hindrance for a great love story. I guess the story is called "steps made from love" or stairs of love. thanks for your response and have a great weekend ahead