starting over in a defrent place!

United States
June 18, 2011 8:54am CST
Is it truly possible to start over in a new state or country? Is it possible to get away from all the bad things that one has to watch day in and day out if they are in your mind and triggered by your surroundings? Every were i go in this city i see all the bad that happened when i was younger over and over so i am leaving my home town to go to another state. I'm hoping that i can leave the past here for the most part. I just want a fresh start for me and my girls. i want to be happy again. Is that really to much to ask for. to be happy?
5 responses
@ptower76 (1618)
• United States
18 Jun 11
Starting over can be filled with anxiety because of the unknown factor. I can tell you based on my experiences that is very difficult. But it is possible to transcend if one is emotionally and spiritually motivated. I live in the same city I experienced many of my past experiences in and have been able to overcome my adversities and start a new life that is both free of the negative influences of the past and emotionally, spiritually, and financially fulfilling. Good luck on the move and the fresh start. I will offer a prayer to my higher power to lend you a hand.
• United States
21 Jun 11
thanks i feel better knowing i am leaving. i'm still scared but i can't stay here there is nothing here. no work nothing and the schools are bad. i will miss my family but theirs nothing i can do about that right away. Plus they don't always treat me right. so i think i'm better off not seeing them everyday.
@ptower76 (1618)
• United States
21 Jun 11
Sometimes it is good dealing with family at a distance. Time will heal the old wounds and one develops an inner peace with one's self. My relationship with family mostly because of distance, has been limited to occasional phone calls for some time now. You know, we get along a lot better now and they are actually glad to hear from me and I them on those rare occasions one of us decides to call.
• United States
26 Jun 11
Lets hope that's how it is. i feel relived to be out of my home town. I feel better now that i'm away. I don't rely know my family is pretty upset i moved away but they rely wasn't there for me any way.
@maximax8 (28906)
• United Kingdom
19 Jun 11
When I was 19 years old I had a good job for a ship brokers and I bought a little cottage. I was so happy traveling to work every day by train. I had a great upset when I was made redundant. I tried hard to get another job but it wasn't possible. In the end I bought a ticket around the world, let my cottage out and got a working holiday visa. Off I went for just over one year having the an amazingly enjoyable time. I met a man and when I got home we got married plus had a baby the year later. I wanted to become a primary school teacher. So that is what I did and that is now my career. Six years ago I moved from one county to another county. I am happy living here and changed from living in a house to a bungalow last year. It is so lovely to start over again in a different place.
• United States
21 Jun 11
that is an amazing story. I wish i could travail the world some day but i don't think i can at the moment. but a fresh start is going to be nice. i hope to here more about your adventures. and thanks for commenting!
@maximax8 (28906)
• United Kingdom
21 Jun 11
I am glad that you like what I did when I was 20 to 21 years old. My adventures have continued since that time. When I was 29 years old I taught in a school on a maternity contract. It went from May to October with the school holidays paid for. In November of that year when I was 29 years old I traveled off to New Zealand and the Pacific Islands. I had a fantastic trip and it was very exciting. I went snorkeling in French Polynesia with black tipped sharks and sting rays. I was sand boarding in New Zealand when I spotted a penguin. Good luck with your fresh start.
• United States
26 Jun 11
thanks and that is cool. i hope some day i get to see more of the world.
@megamatt (14326)
• United States
19 Jun 11
Starting over is something that can be a bit of a leap for some people. I don't want to say that it cannot be done, because people have in fact done it and in life, there is really few things that are completely impossible. However it is something that is a really huge leap and something that has to be done completely or not at all, without regrets. You can't really do something like that halfway, otherwise it does defeat the entire purpose of starting over and thus you are back to square one in many ways in life. Therefore it is something that should be thought for carefully, and if it is something that would really benefit you a lot in life. I really don't think it would be something that I would want to do. Or rather it would be something that I am really able to do at this point in time in life. Now five years from now or whatever, that could change. However it is a decision that requires a big upheaval in life that I am just not all that comfortable with. Many people have done it on a whim, and when its done, there is really no turning back. However, if you feel its the best for you life, then you should go for it one hundred percent. Just be certain that there are no regrets when it is done, because there is no turning back. In the end, its possible, but difficult in many ways.
• United States
21 Jun 11
i know thank you. i'm am ready and i need to do this. the city i live in is bad. there is nothing here. I need to do better for my kids and me.
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
19 Jun 11
I have started over a few times. it is good to start over if you are not happy where you are.Being happy is never too much to ask for. Good luck.
• United States
21 Jun 11
that is so true thank you!
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
I think starting a new life in a different place is a brilliant idea.You can have so many opportunities and less stress minus the the judgment from other people.You will also have the chance to meet new people who may contribute positively in your life.
• United States
21 Jun 11
that is what i am hoping for. i can't wait we leave Friday!