Caring for the Elders

Philippines
June 19, 2011 9:50pm CST
What are the things that you do for your parents? My friends are both 80-year olds but are still able. At these age though, the elderly can be prone to illnesses like hypertension, asthma and gout. Just last night, my father woke me up to check up on my mom because my mom was having a nervous attack. I checked her blood pressure and it was 220/100. Oh my goodness gracious! We should all be sleeping at this time of the night and to some, it can really be annoying. Taking care of the elderly would really call on so much patience and tolerance. Here in the Philippine setting, we care for our parents and we dont endorse them to golden homes. Friends, what are the things that you do for your aging parents? Please tell me that i am not alone...
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• United States
20 Jun 11
caring for the elderly is such a topic that is sooo often ignored. I would love to take care of my mom when she reaches a certain age, but if i have a family of my own it would be very hard. I know there is elder abuse in homes that are very cheap and the ones that are good are very expensive. I think i would have my mom in my home but have a home care taker on times that i can't look after her. i think it would be less expensive than a good quality home and my mom would be surrounded by family. The way i think it should be.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
21 Jun 11
Yeah, that's true. A lot of children are showing more and more disrespect to their parents, as that is the culture nowadays. My grandparents are in China, but they are returning soon, and they have chosen to go to a nursing home. We went around, looking for the best one, and asking friends who have had personal experience with some. We've planned to visit them every day. I have a little sister, and our schedule is extremely busy, so I think this is the best plan for us. But obviously, everyone has different situations.
@nemrac12 (388)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
hello grace, yes you are not alone. we Filipinos are really very hospitable, not only to visitors but most especially to our oldies,(parents, grandparents,uncles, aunties)i've been caring my 2 aunties for almost ten years already, ages 81 and 76 years old. It needs a lot lot of patience in caring the elders. Thanks God my 2 aunties had no Alzeihmers. Understanding them, their being old and being "makulit" sometimes.
• United States
21 Jun 11
Luckily for me my mother and father are still young. My grandmother passed away at the age of 82, but she was very active, if you looked at her you would never have known she was that age. Just two weeks before she passed away, she was hospitalized, but she lived by herself with her partner, perfect health, and no problems. My aunt unfortunately we had to put in a living facility, because on numerous occassions she fell down and really hurt herself. She needed to be taken care of 24 hours a day, and unfortunately with us working that was impossible. But the location was near by and everyweek she was with us. She had a brain tumor, which she was operated on 20 years ago, and unfortunately it grew back. She passed away 5 years ago. But trust me if I would've had a choice I would never had placed her in a living facility, but with her not being able to take care of herself and the doctors saying she could hurt herself, we had no choice.
@oXAquaXo (607)
• United States
20 Jun 11
My parents are still in their forties, but my grandparents are really getting up there. They both are really good at exercising and trying to keep healthy. Unfortunately, my grandpa has type 1 diabetes and my grandma has genetic heart problems. They continuously travel to and from China to occasionally live with us. When they're here, I make some jasmine tea everyday for them during the afternoon. They're becoming forgetful, so I have to continuously remind them to eat their vegetables or fruits or protein, and bring them their daily pills. But I really enjoy helping them out, as they were the ones that basically raised me when I was young. Happy mylotting!
@GemmaR (8526)
20 Jun 11
My Mother and I care for my elderly uncle who recently had to have his leg amputated due to a clot after having a heart attack. We have to visit him every two days to ensure that he has a bath and is able to eat his food that we have to take for him. It takes up a lot of our time but we are happy to do it because we know that he would do it for us if he was still able bodied and we needed him to do so. We should support our family, as they would always be there for us should we ever need them to be there.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
20 Jun 11
Graceekwenx, I believe when it is our time to take care of our aged parents, we will need to reverse our roles as who the parent will be and start planning ahead for them and the road to take. Starting with knowing and understanding what medical conditions they might have - to start our plans and prepare ahead. Basically, they should not be alone if they have a preexisting condition which warrants constant medication and care that they do not slip and fall in the house. As such, we may need to look around like a domestic maid or if they do not like to stay in the house then maybe sign them into a day care facility where they can socialize with their peers and be looked after by professionals and caregivers. I can understand about the sentiments against putting our parents into golden homes but I do not think we can help it if we or family are not in country. I believe it is very prevalent nowadays where families are moving abroad due to work reasons and as such it is just inevitable when there are no close relatives or other siblings. For my dad, he has been very much in the pink of health at his 75 year old self and as I have my family at home and my sister at another location, he will just come over to stay with either of us for a certain period. In this sense, it beats the monotony and on another keeps us in touch with one another. IMHO, thinking ahead and flexibility is of the essence here when it comes to taking care of our elderly parents.
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
the things that i would like to do for my parent when they get old is to comfort them, give anything they want and they need do not put them into any home for the elders, they need your care when you are a child they take care of you and now they need your comfort please give them the best. If I were you spend the time of your life caring them, they only have limited time in the world. Give them the best.
@ynahh1 (454)
20 Jun 11
The least thing that you can do to your parents is to takecare of them like the way they took care of you when you are still learning to walk.Asian countries has a big respect especially to the elders.e.g philippines many of them are still lving in thier parents house eventhough they have own family already,in addition filipinos still consider the opinions of elders while making a desicion.However in some countries they are particular in "home for the agents"an institution that admits elders.Just do the best thing that you can do untill they are alive i bet you they also not intend them to be the burden of our life.
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
20 Jun 11
my mother broke her leg when she was 85, it happened in 2010. I am married and have set up my home in another city but work in my old hometown where my mother lived. so I booked in for a small hotel room and helped care for her from Mon to Wed after work and spent three hours an evening there to do my part. Thursday then I travelled home after work and commuted to work and back on Fridays. My mother passed away a month ago. My maternal family showed their detest to me all the time during these 1,5 years I helped out as nothing I did was good enough and enough for them. They expected me to give up work and leave my husband to care for my mother 24/7 which I could and would not do.
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
20 Jun 11
I want to take care of my mother when the time she gets old. It's realty important to let them feel our clove and care. It's our duty to give them the most valuable gift we could give and that's to take care of them when they're old.