too much talk

Philippines
June 21, 2011 3:24am CST
my mother-in-law and father-in-law always talk unpleasant thing about my wife. everything they told me about my wife is not true. my wife is a great. yesterday, my wife decided to talk to her parents about it but they deny saying it. my wife said, "anyway, what is important is to forget the past...please try not to give comment again about me because it hurt my family and me." still, my in-laws never admitted their sin. What do you call them?
6 responses
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
I congratulate you for being a good husband to your wife. Despite the unpleasant things that her parents tells you about her, you still remained loyal to your wife. Just don't mind her parents' denial. At least now, they know that whatever they tell you will surely be relayed to their daughter.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
actually, i will never believe my parents-in-law. Like...my wife is hard headed, she's disobedient, rude and cannot stand alone. my father-in-law said,"she knew nothing" i knew my wife better. but not to mind them is hard. it hurt us ( me and my kids )
@SIMPLYD (78118)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
Have you talked to them about how you feel when they do that to their daughter? She is their daughter, yet they put her down? How can they be like that, when they are your wife's parents.
• Philippines
30 Jul 11
i told them that (1) they should talk to their daughter instead of telling me or our sons. (2)what they are saying about my wife are not true (3)i pity them that they cannot see how a great person is my wife
@francesca5 (1344)
30 Jul 11
this is a difficult problem you have here. sometimes parents do say negative things about their children. i think sometimes it can just be a bad habit that they have got into, and they might not even realise they are doing it. my advice would be not to be angry with them, but when one of them does it next time, look sad, and say that that was an unkind thing to say. sometimes this can be the result of a bad relationship between parents and children and you can't do anything about it. but other times pointing out, in a gentle way, that you don't want them to say negative things your about wife, might work, you never know!
• Philippines
11 Sep 11
i think it is their habit. whenever, i am driving for them ( sometimes, i do)my mom-in-law always give bad comment to anything. and imagine...it is a three hours drive and not even a single nice words did she spoken. bad things is, she never forget to hurt my dear wife's feeling. she always with me when i drive them. i did correct them once in a while in a nice way.
11 Sep 11
yes. i have had a relative or two like that, and it can be very bad for the child who hears nothing but criticism, it does a lot of damage. but at least your wife has a supportive husband.
@jonnieke (38)
• Kenya
22 Jun 11
some mother in-law are gerous sometimes they can cause lot of disagreement in the family, sometimes separation. you should be very cautious of them, and always try to avoid their paths.if you are capable of moving to another area, please do so, because familiarity breed contempt.once they dont see your family they will stop hating her.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
we lived in a subdivision next to their subdivision. you just need to walk. we don't always go there. sometimes they will ask me to drive them or accompany them. it is then, they will start telling me, HOW I HATE IT! I avoided to accompany them but sometimes, their were no more excuse. i plan to work to U.S.
• United States
21 Jun 11
I am happy to hear that you are very supportive towards your wife and that despite the lies and or made up stories you are there for her. Sad that they do this and not sure what to call hem but I would be very upset and you have a right to do so as she is your wife and it is not nice to be this way towards her.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
i like to answer back or to shout at them but i remember my wife, she told me, "if you really love me, always respect them."
• Netherlands
21 Jun 11
What an unpleasant situation! I could not imagine my parents do that sort of thing. Isnt it normal for parents to support their child? What good does it do to speak in such a manner about your child? Especially to the one they love? Do you have kids? Do they speak to your kids about their mother in that way too? If so, action should be taken, it is just not acceptable! What are they hoping to accomplish by badgering your wife?
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
they speak to our kids about how bad is their mom, like "your mommy is hard headed" my wife is the eldest. they are four, 3boys and 1 girl ( my wife ). it is not acceptable. i admire my wife because she still respond with respect but it hurt me a lot when she cry. maybe twice or 3x, i answered my parents-in-law with respect of course, that my wife is not the way she describe her. my wife is gentle, loving and intelligent.
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Why would parents say some negative things about their son or daughter. I don't understand why your in-laws would do that. If that's a joke then it's fine but it's for real then there must be something really wrong in this pictures. I have never heard of anything like this. I would suggest that you keep your mouth shut because I'm sure your wife would be so upset knowing that her own parents would say such things against her.
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
actually, i am keeping my mouth shut for many years but my kids had grown up and still they keep saying it. yes,there are times they say it as a joke but my kids don't like it. now, they ask questions, why their grands are like that. my answer is always, "ask mommy". my wife will just tell them, "you know mommy best." sometimes the kids get angry and we ( my wife and i ) will tell them not to mind them. my wife is upset. it is not me who's telling her. what we did, we avoid attending social gathering with their friends so that they won't tell it to us.