Should I tell my boyfriend that our friend kissed me?

Actions speak louder than words, and when you pushed him, at that moment, it seems that you want nothing of his advances. I don't know the intricacies of your relationship with your boyfriend, but it seems to me that there are some benefits to telling him about the deed. For one, you won't be placed in a position that you have to hide anything -- that's a very stressful situation obviously. As to Derek, well, you just have to keep distance from him in the meantime.

Oh what an awkward situation! I think he kissed you by telling you he loves you. If I were you, I will not tell my boyfriend coz what if I am wrong. Do you consider yourself like to flirt? If then, you have to choose who you like more. Chad or Derek?

There are just some things best kept to yourself. If you want to avoid confrontations between you your friend and your bf just be silent and pretend it did not happen.

This is certainly an awkward situation dear. Well, tessa, if you think that there's no wrong from your side, then you need to tell your boyfriend about it. I believe, in a relationship there should be no hide and seek. But you mentioned that you don't want to make it a big issue, so you need to make your boyfriend understand this and tell him to let it off and you told this because you love him more than anything and din't want to hide anything of your life to him. By that way, your loyalty quotient will improve from your boyfriends point of view and you don't have to be feeling guilty of not telling certain things to your boyfriend. Coming to derek, well when the guy know that you are committed and he still made a move to tell you that he loves you when your boyfriend is not there, then you should think about continuing his friendship. I don't think it will be healthy enough to entertain such people around you. It would be better if you put the fire off before he makes it more complicated for you. The future will take it own versions of such things and your relationship with ched will affect in the future if this guy is still hanging around with you. Cheers! Good luck! Hope you come out of this situation soon.

I won't tell my boyfriend because the situation will getting worse.The best thing to do is now confront Derek about what was he mean did that kiss?It might be saying love but remember that you're both best friend so make sure that chase won't brake your friendhip.

sometimes telling a lie can save lives.....

For me he will react not good specially if he love you if you think he is okay why not.

Oh gosh your friend cross the borderline on friendship there, especially if he knows you have a boyfriend. Hmm I would say if they are close perhaps you need to tell your boyfriend as maybe Derek will tell him before you and your boyfriend will wonder why you had not. If you can avoid Derek forever then I would say it is not important for your boyfriend to know, though I do not think you will be able to avoid him forever. I sort of see it this way, that if this was my boyfriend in this situation and I found out later, as innocent as it may be for him not telling me then I would wonder why he did not tell me. Best of luck Tessa, but do make sure you let Derek know what he did is wrong and if he wants to remain a friend he can never do this again.

Wow.. Well, I've experienced that a long long time ago and didn't tell my boyfriend about it. If it's n0thing but a friendly kiss to you (even though it was on your lips), you shouldn't have to tell Chad. But if you felt something more, then you should tell your boyfriend. In that way, you won't be feeling guilty for what happened. You just have to tell it at the right time so no one will get offended. If the kiss meant a lot to you, I think Derek means a lot to you too. And if Derek kissed you (on the lips), he either likes you or loves you. Therefore, think twice.

Just leave it as it is for the moment. There might be some complications that may happen if you'll tell your boyfriend about this. Think it over yet. On the other hand telling may also prove your honesty to him. But if you like the kiss think it over and over again. Your friend might be so in love with you so that he was not able to prevent his emotions at that moment. Think it over again or there might be a love triangle that will arise. You can't have 2 men at the same time.

I think you need to talk to derek. After all he has been your friend for a very long time. He is probably feeling as bad about the whole thing as you are. As long as you are sure that it is Chad you love and not Derek, you need to tell him. There shouldn't be any secrets in a relationship. Especially not ones as big as this. However if you are in any doubt as to who you want to be with, I would suggest thinking it through carefully before you tell your boyfriend anything. Good luck and I hope you manage to sort this situation.

hi tessa9 i think you should tell your boyfriend as soon as possible yes, you cannot avoid that he will get angry to you but if he loves you perhaps he may understand you and forgive you. ;) you should avoid your friend (DEREK) even though we've been close for so long if you love your boyfriend you must don't hurt him. anyway, you must tell derek that you are happy with your man now ..i guess so. ;] take care

if you still love your boyfriend, don't tell him.It will make your relationship worst and got probability that your boyfriend will punch your friend

If i were u, i'll never tell Chad the kiss cause no man can forget and bear the kiss from other guys on his girl's lips. Men're jealous in their blood. If u really love Chad and just take Derek as ur good friend u have to talk with Derek wht u think. Dont be the girl who face both guys. That's really disgust. Hope u can deal it well. Best wishes!

for the spirit of fairness and truth, maybe you should tell your boyfriend.. but are you willing to sacrifice and risk your relationship with your bf for being honest? i know it is bothering you this time but if there is nothing you feel more than friendship for this guy, i would suggest you to not tell your bf and probably just stay away from this friend \of yours until he gets the idea that you don't like him more than friends and that you are not going to be an easy girl to change mind of even though he tried to do more than kiss you...

From your push at that very moment when your friend Derek was kissing you,it is easily to know that you had put all your heart into your boyfriend,and loved your boyfriend deeply.Now,to avoid some unnecessary trouble,I think you should just keep this affair in your own mind.If you told your boyfriend,things might go badly.Meanwhile,it is better to pay attention to the act of your friend Derek,who you should check whether he had fallen love with you or just liked you.If he said some time after that,you don't need to be worried about this.If he tried to show that he loved you,you should tell your boyfriend what had happened,and face it with your boyfriend. Best wishes!

I would tell the boyfriend. I am not one for telling secrets but what if you decide not to tell your boyfriend and Derek tells him instead because he was upset with you that you pushed him away. Some times when boys like you and they get rejected they try to make a big scene out of it so I would definitely tell the boyfriend before he does.

that's a difficult situation. it was clear that you are not interested in Derek because you care about how your boyfriend will feel. you are the only one who knows your current boyfriend and most likely, you know his character. i would suggest you tell him so that it will not put you in bad light in the future. but if that would just complicate matters, then weigh things.

hello tessa, This is really hard ,sort of complicated. If you think your boyfriend will understand the situation,better tell him,but if you think this will create a big deal between your relationship...then,forget about it and avoid Derek and never go with him or met him. You also need to talk with Derek ,not in person..in phone and asks him to stay away from you and that you are not interested in him. If things will become more complicated,then tell Chad everything and wish he could understand and everything will be fine...

You should definitely tell your boyfriend. One rule about good relationships is that there should be no secrets, especially something of that nature. Through that, there would be trust and that is very important in a relationship. There was once a time where I was being stupid. Me and a couple of friends, including a childhood guy whom I look up to as an older brother (call him Mac), went out to drink. Due to certain circumstances, me and Mac ended up in the same room alone to sleep the night. I had a bf that time and he had a gf as well. He tried to grope me and stuff as soon as the lights went out! Whew, the thing is nothing happened between us. The first person I told the incident to was my bf. Of course, he was furious. Really, really. He wanted to hit Mac the first chance he could get. The months that followed was really awkward. But things started to get better. I know my bf appreciated that I told him. If I hid the truth from my bf and it came out, my bf would think that I liked what happened. That by not telling him, I might be hoping for another chance like that. Understand? It's gonna be a big fight once he finds out. If you told your bf right away, he would simmer and shout at first. When he's calmed down, he'd love you more because he knows he can trust you. Then, you can forget about the incident. That's to say, that your bf is a sane and understanding guy. There's also the chance that your bf is actually insane and will get mad at you even though it wasn't your fault you were kissed. Either way, you definitely should tell and talk about how to deal with things afterwards.