So Much Envious!

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@axlrate7 (1366)
Philippines
June 21, 2011 11:01am CST
I just figured out myself that I become envious this year. Last sunday, june 19, 2011, I saw my peer friend have a car now, (I envy). I open my facebook account and see my batch mate in highschool, they have a good life now (I envy). I saw my crush saying in the status of her "in a relationship"(ouch, I envy). And when I walk outside, I see everyone around is doing fine in their life. I feel left behind... I don't want to be envious, but when I see someone that have a good life, I can't help myself to think, I wish I am the one on his place, the one who experiencing all this goodness in life... I'm sorry for all the negative thoughts I have posted today... I really don't have friends and having no someone to talk to so it's really hard when you keep many things in heart... I just using mylot to release what's on my mind and my heart... Sorry guys for being so dramatic, sometimes I can't help myself for being like this... it's like the heavens window is close to me. =(
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14 responses
• South Korea
21 Jun 11
I think all of us has that kind of feeling... and its very hard to avoid.. But everytime it will happen to me.. I always tell to myself that they were in their position now because they WORKED HARD for it.. even those who were born rich..they parents.. or grandparents worked hard for it.. So what I am trying to do now is try to figure out why I am this lazy or maybe I need to study more not only academicly( I dont know if we actually have that word in english..lol) but also practically,,lol so dont worry I think were still young and and if we will really put effort on it.. maybe who knows someday..we'll also get what we want.. Never give up:)
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Thank you Princess for reminding me. Yeah, maybe I am not trying that hard... You made me smile... Thank you so much! =)
• South Korea
22 Jun 11
welcome :)
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Too much envy is not good,but envy sometimes gives you inspiration and challenges. You will work hard to reach your dream and you will also have goals in order to achieve those things and success that your friends achieved. Just start to do things now. Start to put some meaning into your life. Then you will realized you will also gain those things your friends have.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Yes, I will... I will start...
@brannray (132)
• United States
21 Jun 11
I'm sorry that you're feeling that way. I think we've all been there though, so don't feel too bad. Also, think about this, just as you're envious of others, there are others who are envious of you for different things. You may not see it, but it's true! Hope you feel better!!
@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
Thank you for a nice response... but how someone can be envious to me in my situation right now. No job, no money, no car, no appeal(they say I don't have that), no talent, I can't even play basket ball... I'm sorry, but I can't see how someone can be envious in this life of mine...
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@wongchoiyee (6178)
• Malaysia
21 Jun 11
I am your friend. All mylotters are your friend even its online. Don't feel so sad buddy. You know what I am also feeling the same the feeling of defeated. I was once surround by a lot of friends and people on the streets are jealous. Now I am alone, and no one to talk to in person but I believe friend, you aren't left behind. Its just a matter of time. Time to meet a new friend, time to come by when you are successful and a lot of time for love. God Bless You.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
What's the best thing in this website are the words of mylotter's that give you life in times of sadness. Even though we don't know each other here, you use your time in giving such a food for a though words and sentences. And I thank you for that for enlighten my heart, God bless you more... =)
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@pibi713 (187)
• China
26 Aug 11
Actually, you just saw the highlight of your friends on the facebook. People only update good things of their status. Normally, we all have common lives. Maybe your friends envy you of your life.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
26 Aug 11
Your definitely right, I just only seen the front not the whole story. I did envy easily of other people's live before and that cause not to look of my own strength. God gave me a one of a kind strength to use and yet I'm so envious to others talent and strength. But thank God that I see that now, it takes me a long time to gain this wisdom. I'm using my time now for more important things rather wasting it in something I can't gain. Being so much envious will not put me in success and peace but in doubt and fear. God reminded me of something more precious than any earthly things I can get. My friend, thanks for your response and God bless you! =D
@Ghajini (776)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
I can really relate to you since I hardly have any friends. Moving on, we always have ONE GOOD FRIEND and HIS name is JESUS CHRIST. :) Also, it does not matter how many friends you have, since in the end of the day only the true ones matter, the ones who are there for you in your ups and downs. In short it's quality over quantity.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
1 Aug 11
You're definitely right! God is only the one that is always in our side, He never leaves us nor forsaken us. And I agree of what you said about quality over quantity, its much better to have one true friend than having many around without any true sincere intention for you. Thank you my friend for reminding, but don't worry anymore because I'm already good now. God bless you! =)
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
24 Jul 11
There can be only good or only bad, as we can not only be beautiful or ugly, right or unjust, courageous or cowardly, worthy or unworthy people or our people. Man is ultimately built after the pattern of a coin with two faces. In this context, envy, malice as part of the gentleness and the part of human nature. In their way back easily, envy reactions are feelings that tell the story about the need for love, attention, to have to be with others. When we include jealousy, forget all the good things about ourselves and obsesses us only what they are or have. Envy arises from insecurity and low self-esteem too. When we are jealous, cease to believe in ourselves and endowed with all the ideal object of envy that we do not have.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
31 Jul 11
Hi, my comment is late, sorry for that... After I read your response, a question is built to my mind, are you a psychology? You are very correct for what you said above, you know I am kind of person that have a low self-esteem, I even stammered when someone is talking to me or I am speaking into a small group. I don't know why but whenever I know someone will listen to me, I get nervous easily and forgot what will I say and stammered, I often failed because of this.
@katrinapaz (2438)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
i think you are just focusing on the goodness and luck that everyone has had except of your own. Try to be optimistic and look at yourself. You are improving on your english and communication. You also have a lot of friends here in mylot and i am sure your money is growing too. Work harder if you can so that you can have the things you want but do not forget that you are doing that for yourself and not so that others will be envious of you.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes, you're right... I am, it's like a magnet, sometimes I can't help myself to be down when seeing someone successful that is younger than me... But because of all the response that I see in this discussion including yours, I think all things in myself now will be okay... I just need to focus on what's really matter and not consuming the energy just by staring others life... I have my own life to keep me busy... If I want something, I need to work hard for it like you said..! I like your response Kat! =D Thank you! Anyway.. Do you know Armando Paz??? The layout artist???
@SIMPLYD (73924)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
Don't feel down, my friend. I think it is but natural to be envious sometimes. Just don't let it consume you though. Focus on the nice things you have also in life. Make a lot of friends. Do good things that could bring out the best in you . Find a nice job that could easily let you earn money you could save to buy those coveted things. Love your family. There are a lot of things to be proud of yourself. Most of all be happy that you are healthy unlike others.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
You're right! Sometimes I just forget the precious things that I already had... Thank you for reminding me... God bless you! =D
@pb0289 (66)
• India
22 Jun 11
hello dear...never feel that you are all alone...there is someone who loves you the most and they are your parents and above all there is God...being envious is normal only when it occurs in a limit...everything is bad when it goes out of limit...even i am at times at your position...for example as you mentioned seeing your old friends happy on facebook etc etc...but then after sometime i realize that some day or the other my good time will definitely come...i also feel that i need to control my envious nature as it is not good for me...instead of wasting time on regreting why i donot have a happy life i then try to work hard...i try to improve on areas where i am weak...read good books,engage into some activities that gives me happiness,talk to god for sometime...try to find out both good and bad qualities in myself...initially i also didn't have many friends then i tried to figure our that why am i not having friends and do you know what i got the answer...i found out that the way we behave or respond to people the same we get from them...so first we need to look within ourselves...even i was not having job initially and all my friends got placed in good companies...i used to envy them a lot when i read their facebook status that they are placed in so and so company but its foolishness instead get inspiration from them and try to find job and work hard...ur story is very close to mine but the only thing i can suggest you is to be optimistic...after every dark night thier is a bright morning...look at the people who are in more worst condition then yours...i bet u'll b happy...thank god each day and he will give u your share of happiness... :):)do reply after reading this i'll be waiting to hear ur response... :):)
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
Hi, actually I'm okay now... I feel great today... I watched this movie "The Pursuit of Happyness" and it leave me a teary eyes, learning like what you said that there are still much more worst condition than mine. I just need to be strong in all the trials that will come, and in my situation today, I don't know how this will be change but I know God will never forsake me. And I agree of what you response to this discussion, in my every envy, I need to see things more in positive ways... to have an attitude of gratitude... You know what makes me sad, for having no friend, for having no someone to talk to when you are load of problems and sadness... Thanks to this site, somehow it makes me feel better because of many encouraging response like your response... Thank you very much! And GOD bless you always! =D
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
I feel you axlrate7 (your name derived from p-pop group? just askin..). I also feel like that. That is why I hardly open my facebook account. I can see my close friends before having their own family, while I am still single. they are now in different country, starting their life and they are doing fine, i guess. But it seems they are having a good time through some photos they had posted. I imagine how happy they are. Some of my classmate, who are not so good in college having their own dream house, and that proves me that not because you have an award during in college, and you have high grades that you will have a good life in the future. You and you alone will work on it. It seems both of us are being lazy and we did not plan a real goal for our future. Maybe we do not have plan five years ago, that is why there is nothing happen to us at present. Instead of feeling envious with them, why not take care of our own life, be busy with it. Do something that make your life improved and start now. What do you want to achieve in life,like cars, house and lot, a lot of money, travel? why not plan on how to achieve it. I think that is the better idea rather than feel envious. They got a wonderful life and me, my wonderful life will be happening. This is not too late to change what we have to change. You never know, you might exceed your expectations.
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• United States
21 Jun 11
Hi axlrate7! Heaven's window is close? So what? When one window closes, the other window opens ! :) Envy is bad only when you wish harm to the other person who is fine. But being envious may not be wrong when you add a positive quality to it, like , if it motivates you to work hard to equal the other person in buying a car or getting into a relationship or do as fine as the other, then it is not wrong.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
I guess you're right, I have to put this in positive ways...
@sjvg1976 (12674)
• Delhi, India
21 Jun 11
Envious person - To envy some one is bad but can't avoid it as it is human nature & no one can say that i don't have this habit as i can't believe it he/she may be lying.3
Hi axlrate, You don't feel so sad this is human nature & every one feels like you feel. I also feel the same way its very bad feeling when i see someone of my group doing better than me.But i know its bad to have this feeling but can't leave it.
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@axlrate7 (1366)
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Thank you for your response, and thank you for reminding me that I'm not alone in feeling this thing... =)
@jhaidro (879)
• Philippines
21 Jun 11
I think that it is normal to feel this way especially if you see from the people around you things that you want but do not have. I also feel this way most of the time but I now learned that in this life it is not always about wanting more. It is more of appreciating the things that you have.
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