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Philippines
June 22, 2011 12:09pm CST
Hi myLotters! I hope you all are having a blast here. Now that my son is already 18 months, he's really quick in imitating words from adults around him. So quick that he repeats them until he's able to use the words in a situation suited for them. My hubby and I are now extra careful with our language since this very bright boy inside our house is really learning words fast. I get scared sometimes because the neighborhood is packed with people who do not really care about being careful in using foul language in front of their kids. I hope parents will realize that children not only take after their DNAs but also take after their behavior including the use of foul language at home.
5 responses
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
29 Jul 11
That's funny! My daughter, who's 2, says the f word and the sh word in front of the whole congregation! I was so embarrased so when we came home I put a jar-i got this tip from-(i wish i could say i came up with it) a parenting magazine and I told anyone if they use any foul language they'll put a dollar in the jar, no exceptions. pretty soon the jar was filling up and soon after that hardly anyone uttered a curse word and now my daughter seems to have forgotten the bad words!If anyone is interested in how much money we collected lets just say it was enough to to buy me some shoes! and get myself a message because i hardly get pampered! Im being careful too to not utter things i wouldn't want my little ones' repeating lol!
• Philippines
2 Aug 11
That was such a clever idea! And it really worked, they have forgotten those words... Children really copy manners from adults easily, I'm glad you are being careful not to say bad words you don't want your little ones to repeat. Parenting is so much more than just taking care of children, its becoming a model worthy for your kids to emulate.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
2 Aug 11
you wanna hear something sooo crazy/embarrasing..my husband sometimes take a leek in the backyard in our old house(our yard was fenced all around) and my daughter would look everytime he'd do thati guess she'd watch so many times now she's doing it! Now we live in a different house and town and we have neighbors in the back of us and im afraid she'll do the same thing. come to think of it while we had friends over once she took off all her clothes, picked a spot(perferbaly under a tree)and let it out..she did the number 1(one) in front of him and his 5 yr old and they were like ewwww look she's taking a piss. My husband just laughed he thought that was the most funniest thing in the world. y do guys do that??Anyone?
@peavey (16866)
• United States
22 Jun 11
That is so true. Sometimes it seems like children will only say the things you don't want them to! They pick up so fast on bad words I think because we emphasize them.
• Philippines
22 Jun 11
Emphasize they are. Especially when we are full of emotions during the time the words are spoken. Perhaps they feel the intensity and they become fully aware of the existence of the word they just can't help but utter them too.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
24 Jun 11
It is more than the emotion behind the word. we stop and say "Don't say that word" or tell others not to say those words around the little kids. we make it a big deal, by the way we treat those little slips that they many times do not even notice.
• United States
26 Jun 11
I think one thing to also consider is teaching your kids about those words. I've tried to teach them those words are only said when someone is mad & an ADULT & they are not for kids to repeat. If someone must express themselves there are alternatives that are not as bad but still express frustration.
@verolop29 (1096)
• United States
2 Aug 11
hi snugbunnies! u should try this. if they do(im not saying they will)next time that happens tell them such ugly words dont need to come from such a beautiful girl or nice boy. it only works for someone else's kids not so much on mine. i have and 6 and 2 yrs old(both girls) and if u do it to ur own kids try not to overdue it. wht i mean by that is dont say it more than 4-5 times a day just try to be creative! i used to do that with my nephew when he was little because he used to say the f word ALOT and i got to his level which was on my knees and i told him such ugly words...coming from such a nice boy and whenever i was around he never said those words. my sister asked about what happened and i told her and she told me it doesnt work with her. that is a mystery to me.y some things work for someones' kid that doesnt work for our own....
@SIMPLYD (83191)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes, that's true. Children tends to imitate whatever they see in their parents, even the way they talk and the quality of their words. So as parents, we should be careful not to utter foul words, lest they might be copied by our children. Though, as our children goes to school, they would tend to adopt what the other children utters. It is for us to admonish them when we hear them say foul words.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Yes, setting a good example for your kids is a way of training them to become well-mannered individuals. Proper guidance also is needed as they go out and meet others, they will encounter those words that are not spoken at home.
@asyria51 (2870)
• United States
24 Jun 11
I understand the sentiment of not wanting your child to swear, even when they do not know the word and are just mimicking the words of others. I try really hard not to swear in front of my 2 and a half year old, but at the same time when someone says a bad word, I tell her that is a naughty word and that nice girls don't use that language. That turned around on me today in a good way. I stubbed my toe really badly today and let out a small four letter word, and my daughter told me I was naughty and told me to go to the naughty step. I sat down, she counted to 2 (I tell her she has to sit on the naughty step for 2 minutes when she gets in trouble), then she told me I could go play.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
You have a bright girl, you trained her well... I'm glad you weren't disobedient when she told you to go to the naughty step. :)