Can you teach a mother how to be a good mother?

Philippines
June 23, 2011 3:24am CST
It's hard when you think about it, cause every mother has their own technique in bringing up their children. But what will you do if they are messing up their child's life. I can only feel bad for the child. All I can do really is talk and give good advice but if that doesn't work, well at least I tried.
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@picjim (3003)
• India
24 Jun 11
That is all one can do.We have to hope the gist of our advise sinks into the mind of the errant mother.It depends on the circumstances the mother was bought up in.If her up bringing wasn't proper and she hasn't corrected herself,there is little hope for the child but for the intervention of the father or others like you who will try to reason with her to mend her way.
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• United States
23 Jun 11
I think each parent should have the chance to parent how they feel is right. I don't think all parents are good parents but they still deserve the right to try on their own. helpful advice never hurt anyone.
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@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
23 Jun 11
No, because I won't be a mother. I can only be a father... But I think first of all, you shouldn't do the things which you don't want your children do, at least in front of them. Little children will imitate everything they see because they don't know whether it is good. When a habit is developed, it's very difficult to reclaim.
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@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I think you are right on track. Coz really, that's the best you can do. Just talk to the mother about your concerns and once you've already said your piece then it's all up to that mother to clean up her act. However, you must also be careful about how you talk to the mother because no mother would want to hear from other people that they are doing a bad job at parenting their children. That would really hurt a mother. So, if you've already done your part and you have already voiced your concerns, then it's time to step back and just pray that the mother comes to her senses and try to do better at bringing up her child.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 11
Hi santosmarichris! Me too agree with you. Things like that always happen in front of my eyes and I have tried to give some advice but who wants to listen to me-since I am single. Me too feel bad for the child. They have to face things they should not have too. I know the mother perhaps feel pressure as most I have seen are those single mothers about preparing an adequate life for them but I just hope they spend some precious time for their children. We have tried but if they refused to follow then like you said we already tried our best.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Jun 11
I honestly don't think that a person can be taught to be a good mother. The majority of the way that a woman ends up mothering her children comes from the way that she was brought up. Those memories from early childhood are what really molds a person's parenting style. Therefore, I believe when a person is older and they have their first child, much of their parenting style has already been formed and might change in small ways, but not in major ways.
• Mexico
26 Jun 11
Hi santos mari chris: I think so. I mean, when you become a father or a mother you don't go to a course about how to be a good father/mother. We all make mistakes so if I am closer to this mother I'll be polyte and I'll try to give her my advice. But of course that's all you can do. ALVARO