Changes..

United States
June 23, 2011 11:22am CST
Life can change so drastically and so quickly you might not even notice the change yourself. Has anyone ever reminded you of something that has changed that you never noticed? My children are all making a big transition this year. Today was their last day of school. My oldest will enter high school in the fall, my twins will start a new school (middle and elementary split between 3rd and 4th grade here.. they're entering 4th grade), and #4 will enter kindergarten (the youngest is still home for 1 more year). Now I know how much their changes have affected me.. this is a lot for a mom to handle! It's been a lot of tears and sadness at the fact that my kids are growing up so fast. But as far as how it's affecting my kids.. I didn't think much of it. The oldest and the kindergartener are excited.. the twins aren't showing any emotion either way. I figure they're either excited.. or just okay with it, but certainly not scared or apprehensive. The other day the twins' Kindergarten teacher came into where I work. I started talking to her about how I hope my new kindergartener gets her for a teacher, and she asked how the twins are doing. I said they're soon to be 4th graders. She asked if my daughter was okay with that. She reminded me that my daughter used to be an extreme worrier. I had almost forgotten. My daughter would cry almost constantly. If she forgot to bring her ballet shoes on the day they did dance she would cry and worry and make someone call home so I could bring them to her (now she'll just dance barefoot if she forgets her dance shoes). I remember her transition from preschool to kindergarten. It was an entire summer of worry and no sleep because she couldn't stop worrying. She was switching to a totally new school and new teachers and new kids.. and she was terrified. She didn't want to go to kindergarten.. she wanted to stay in her little preschool forever. I can't imagine how much worse it would have been if she didn't have her twin brother going through these same changes along with her. It is amazing how much she has changed over the past 3 years.. and also amazing that I forgot about what a worrier she used to be. It surprised me that her kindergarten teacher reminded me of that (also surprising that the kindergarten teacher remembers considering she has had so many other students over the course of the past 3-4 years).
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
25 Jun 11
i THINK CHANGES ARE HARDER ON THE MOMS THAN THEY ARE ON THE CHILDREN, LOL.They grow up way too quick. Enjoy every minute u have w/them. They'll be gone before u know it. Good luck to all of u w/the changes. Happy weekend.
• United States
25 Jun 11
That changes did not become difficult on me until the last couple of years. Thanks for stopping by!
@dawnald (84129)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Jun 11
Amazing how they change. Dearra was so shy in kindergarten that she wouldn't talk at all, and now you can't shut her up.
• United States
24 Jun 11
No.. there's no way she was ever shy!!
@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
24 Jun 11
I can't believe how fast things change and how fast children grow. My oldest was really shy when she started school. She liked to go though, the first day of preschool she was really ticked when we picked her up. She didn't want to leave and didn't talk to us the whole way home lol. But she didn't participate much, she listened and learned but she wouldn't raise her hand or anything till the teacher told her she wouldn't get a sticker at the end of the day unless she started raising her hand. She has changed since then. She is still a little shy but she gets great grades and she plays soccer too. She isn't super aggressive at soccer but I think having teammates has brought her out of her shell a little more. I can't believe she is going into the 3rd grade already.
• United States
24 Jun 11
Mine did the same thing.. they cried when I went to pick them up. There were also times I would show up early to hang out with them, and they'd cry because they thought I was taking them home!
• United States
23 Jun 11
I can empathize a lot. I'm about to be a senior in high school and my youngest sister just finished kindergarten. We both started out the past school year nervous; me because I was becoming an upperclassmen, and my sister because she was starting school for the first time. Now, I have to worry about college and how to pay, and she worries about when I move out. I have no idea how the past 3 years have even gone by, it seems like I've been on autopilot.
• United States
24 Jun 11
It only goes faster as you get older.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
23 Jun 11
Yup..sometimes we look back and are amazed at what we see. I started writing about 10 years ago....and doing craft sales. So usually at night I am preoccupied by my crafty things. One day I was thinking...what did I used to do with my afternoons and evening? It's weird to try to think of what I did and come up with only watching tv! I am so busy now I don't usually have alot of time to sit and watch a movie or whatever! LOL
• United States
24 Jun 11
I know what you mean. On days when my school work is caught up and I happen to have the day off of work I wonder what I ever did before I started work and school. I get so bored so quickly when I don't have those things to keep me occupied.
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
Talk about big changes in school for kids... My son just graduated from pre-school. In the fall he will start kindergarten. From two days a week, two hours a day pre-school, he will go to a full day, 5-days a week kindergarten! It's a big change for him. Last week, he got his kindergarten package. He is so excited because he already has his homework for the summer. He can't wait to cut out pictures of things that start with the letters of the alphabet.
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
27 Jun 11
Both of my children have changed a lot in the last few years. With Paul it is easier to see since he is with me all the time and I can see the physical changes in him as well as the emotional changes. With Kathryn, being that she is older, I guess it is just something that I take for granted. When we first moved over here she was quick to make friends with the other children in the neighborhood. But the first time that she was invited for a sleepover, I had to walk up the street at midnight to pick her up because she was scared. Fast forward to now, she will be entering third grade in the fall. I've seen her during the past four days, but she hasn't stayed at home. She's been staying with a little girl from around the corner and will call me occasionally, and we've taken Kathryn and Hannah (her friend) swimming at my mother's house over the weekend. But at night, no good night mommy calls or anything like that. She is just growing up too quick. I do attribute part of the reason that she is growing up so quick to what we are going through with Daddy, but I'm really not ready to lose my little girl.
• Canada
23 Jun 11
For these reasons, we should make each moment of our lives count. Life can become so fast paced, we find ourselves losing what really matters in life. While change is essential, it seems to be very threatening to many. It is all too easy to ignore or be oblivious to changes. And there are some changes we wouldn't want to miss. Change can enrich our lives and to be attentive to change is always a good idea, even in times of negative changes. We are creatures of habit as people and like the comfort of a dependable routine. We find ourselves frightened of change and these fears are how we stifle our own changes. The nature of life is that anything could change at anytime, in a split second. Change is inevitable and is just a part of life.
@bunnybon7 (31533)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Jun 11
sadly as i get older, i hate change more and more. of course the most change is my fear of what i see in the mirror and how i feel. i keep forgetting to how big and how much my grandkids in florida and ohio have changed. till i see a pic of them then, wow, they are so grown.
@scaflone8 (191)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I know how you feel sometimes when we go on with our lives or we are busy or sometimes preoccupied we tend to forget this little changes that are happening around us and when we settle down and look at the people around us we notice how much has changed. When I see the kids from my old school where I used to be a scout leader and now I see them all grown up, taller than me and now in high school. It made me realized that I'm old hehehe but changes are inevitable in life and we can't do anything to change or stop it, it's better to embrace and accept them. I'm glad to hear the changes in your family and as the progress they have made specially on their education it just reflects that you have done well in your role as their parent, their guardian and their teacher in life. God bless you and your family always.