June 24, 2011 2:24am CST
I always keep telling my self after a painful break up that being single is always better that having someone that you love and love you back but no matter how much I keep telling my self those things it seems that being alone is not means happiness after all.
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24 Jun 11
Well psotmanpinoy...To tell you the truth,sometimes being single is much better than being in a relationship but I can't really say from your point of view how you look at "single".To me being in a relationship sometimes can be really lovely and sometimes troublesome when the opposite gender always have a problem with you.I've been in a relationship once and to tell you the truth,I somewhat hate it because the girl who I am attached to was really possessive plus she came up with all sorts of troublesome rules that I have to agree to.One example is that I can't talk to my previous crushes just because she's afraid of me cheating on her and get into a relationship with my previous crush.Worst part is that she can talk to other guys but I can't talk to other girls which I found it kind of ridiculous.Then again,being so madly in love with her,I just abide to the rules and play her game. Sooner or later it just pisses me off and well each of decided to go on our own way.Furthermore,she had been playing behind my back for 2 months for another guy.So you see psotmanpinoy,being in a relationship can sometimes be hurtful especially when you find out that the person you love is going for another person who is better than you. Well despite all that,I still enjoyed the relationship I was in and till now,have not regretted being in a relationship with her.Well let the past be the past and we shall leave it behind us.Just look ahead and carry on with your life.We can't cry over spilt milk.I'm sure life will grant you with a better mate of the opposite gender.However since you are single be ready to mingle with other girls.Don't waste you time thinking about your previous relationship.It is just a waste of time knowing that the one who you used to love has probably move on with life.That's why you have friends.Always there to cheer you up.So my point is,if you are ready to get into a relationship,be sure you are ready to face the day when you guys are going to break up and being alone with friends around you is sometimes happiness in life.
24 Jun 11
Well darkvadeth I'm sorry to hear that, maybe you're right on that opinion but also might be things happen for a reason. Maybe there are people that choose to be alone rather than with someone else or just afraid for another commitment. I'm not afraid to try again, I'm just afraid of getting hurt for the same reason.
3 Jul 11
yes indeed it is hard to be pretending you are okay.. that you are doing great and that yu are always happy no matter what status you are in. but really we know of course as humans, and as everybody else we also want to feel that we have that special someone, that we have our partners to be with us all the time and they would make us even happier. i guess what you can do now is to keep yourself buys, try to go out more and see more people so you wont be burdened more of having the feeling that you are alone... right?
25 Jun 11
That so true psotmanpinoy, I agree that being single is a very lonely empty feeling and it could almost be mistaken for depression. There is the lack of will, the lack of care the lack of excitement and you can feel as though you have nothing to look foward to or that noone cares about you. This isn't the case at all, even if it read right. Everyone's life has a purpose, we get lost but we will be found again. You will have something to wake up and look forward to one day, you will be appreciated for all your worth and not slip back into the arms of someone who doesn't deserve you. The feeling will ease emptiness will become your thirst for getting more out of life. I wish you all the best.
24 Jun 11
Yeah its very difficult to keep pretending being single, probably when you are in a longer term of relationship, Relationship is very beautiful, when we learn to handle the pros and cons of relationship. But once out of the committed scene its very painful to be single, you just can live without the person you love so much and the worst part is the other person seems enjoying on the breakup... But breakups, commitment, troubles they are a part of life and we should be able to handle any situations in life, that's what life is. When you are out from a relationship make yourself busy in activities, keep more interests in your current friends spend some time and hangout with them you will feel lighter. Share your problems with the person who you trust the most so that you can feel little better. Plan your schedules and iam sure after some time you will enjoy living a single life. Time heals everything, so have faith in God, he will surely help you from that.