Would divorce help us, Filiipinos?

Philippines
June 24, 2011 5:15am CST
There is much controversy regarding divorce in the Philippines. I sometimes wake up on some heated discussions on whether such so called "remedy for broken marriages" be legalized or not. Proponents give grounds for legally terminating a marriage such as separation (in fact) from spouse for at least 5 years prior to filing legal separation from spouse prior to filing irreconcilable differences the famous psychological incapacity drug addiction or habitual alcoholism All these, on the premise that the marriage is irreparable and the spouse totally fail to perform marital obligations. At what state would you regard a certain marriage as irreparable? Is divorce really a remedy for broken marriage? Do you think the Philippines would be better with divorce?
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8 responses
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
I believe that every Filipino should have the option to divorce his or her spouse when necessary. If marriage and its sanctity is very important (as what anti-Divorce people say) then why is getting married as easy as ordering pizza? :/
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Very keen observation, rdmcollamat. Sanctity of marriage is very important, we just sometimes fail to know how to place such importance. Prayerfully and wisely choosing a lifetime partner before marrying is extremely important.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Puro IMPORTANT tuloy nasabi ko lol...Thanks for your valuable comment.
@junmae (1591)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
I also heard of this issues everywhere and anywhere here in the country. I heard people talking about this in busses, jeepneys, malls, parks, and even in the office. I also read some article and blogs with regards to this issue. And it confuses me if such bill would be approved or not. Anyway, I dont know how to answer your question because I saw the good side and the bad side of divorce. I am a family oriented person and I have a strong faith with god and it is his will if a couple gets married. However, some relationship must be ended to end up also the pain that they gave to each other. I am confuse with this thing and I know that people are also waiting for the result of this bill.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Bright comment, junmae. Discussions are actually everywhere. I'm a family oriented person, too. If we take God and His Word, no person would ever decide to end a marriage through divorce. I guess we can pray about it and do something to help strengthen marriages around us. Sometimes relationships do fail because some people go through a lot of hardships in their marriage life. Whether a proponent likes divorce or not, the result will actually be always painful and lots of hardships. But may we not judge or criticize but let us do our share - helping marriages work .
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Not at all. Some Filipinos will only take advantage of the situation. In the Philippines today divorce is not yet legalized but then there are a lot of broken marriages out there. If divorce will be legalized, I guess more homes will be broken and more children will suffer the consequences. What the people should learn is to think twice before getting married to avoid any complications.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
You got the big point there, abatencila. Though sometimes even the most perfect decision also fails. Deciding right before and after marriage will help. Thanks a lot.
• United States
24 Jun 11
Marriage and divorce are things that involve serious decision making. If you made the right decision with choosing who to marry and why get married, then divorce ought to be avoidable. However, if a couple has troubles that are irreconcilable, then divorce should ONLY be the last choice. With the way people jump into marriage, divorce comes easily. But why are we SO worried about divorce?
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Thanks, redmaryjane. You're definitely right. Why worry? Comments here are so well appreciated, really. Lots of people actually really worry about divorce, but I guess myLotters commenting are not really one of them and this discussion is not necessarily designed to cause us to worry. Knowing various opinions and concerns is valuable though, especially it it's about something which could greatly affect our way of living as a nation. But you're so right in saying that proper decision making will likely ensure a better marriage relationship.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
of coarse no, it's obvious that it destroys relationships. If need be a divorce, one should face the consequence of not/prohibition of marrying another one, let us not follow the stupid mistake what a lot of states in the US did, of endless marriage and divorce.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Well said, vogue. Sometimes, although not all the time, divorce ends up in an endless search for the "right" person. Hope this doesn't happen to us. Thanks.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
why not implement divorce?? there are tons of marriages out there that are not working out anymore. both partners are just suffering. people say that divorce will ruin a family... why in the world will divorce ruin a family when the partners who would want it are already ruined, they're both already torn apart. divorce is not for those who are happy, it's for those who wanted freedom. this is just my opinion, i totally respect those who are on the other side.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Thanks, Tammy, really appreciate the comment. Wish couples would exhaust all means to restore their failing marriages because it's really worth trying.
@jaiho2009 (38996)
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
I don't know in what aspect does "divorce" could ever help us. Divorce,separation is a personal choice and nothing to do with the Filipinos in general. But,if you were referring to our culture and tradition which we don't take divorce as an option...i guess we need to be realistic more. Thu our country and the people in our country are aware of these separation that is going on with many couples and is acceptable in our society,still the churches are there to disagree with this matter. Religiously,i also do not agree with divorce,it's like giving a ticket or permit to elicit affairs. But if we look around,women who suffers the most with their husband's cheating on them,i will consider divorce or legal separation as the best way to give freedom to both (couple) in diplomatic way and legalities of course. If divorce will be approved,then maybe kids from broken family will also understand easier why things happened and why some family ended that way. I know no one wants to have a broken family,who wants anyway...no one. But this is reality..and reality should be accept and not condemned.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Well appreciated comment, jaiho. I'm referring to Filipinos in general considering culture, tradition, economy, etc. but I do agree that divorce is a personal choice but certain ways things are being done affect outcomes. You got it right to mention about kids from broken families/divorced parents. They really need to be considered. Many kids do suffer because of divorce. Some also survive. How about us, will our children be able to face consequences given the rearing, culture, teachings, environment they have been exposed to? And I do agree too that no one would ever want a broken family and reality should be accepted, and properly dealt with. Thanks, jaiho.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
30 Jun 11
With or without divorce the Philippines can be better if only the citizens learn the true value of good discipline and respecting laws and rules. I don't think what we have now, a politically and economically immature society can benefit with divorce. I think divorce can make it worst because may couples will use this as an excuse for their own pleasures.