Is It Possible To Have Two Lovers

Your friend's in a tricky situation. It's difficult to say when you're in her shoes i guess. But to me, there's always just one guy and one girl in true love. Others can be best friends, well wishers or anything. But not more than that. Maybe she loves one of them as a lover should and to the other, she's just being affectionate. Maybe she's unable to see that and confused. Just tell her that she can love both of them but one is her life partner and the other is a friend.

I could not and have not been in love with two men at the same time. I am wondering though is it caring for one and truly loving the other that your friend might be experiencing. She does need to do something as she cannot marry one and still be in love with the other, I do hope she can get this figured out as she will be miserable if she does not figure it out. At worse they both can find out on their own and she will end up with none. Do continue to speak to your friend so she can truly figure out her emotions.

For me yes it is if you not content about your wife and a lover but Jehovah God would make happy in you if you follow him only one wife.

She's confused right now. For sure, no one can love a person in the same level. We are just so selfish at times that we don't want to let go of someone. I know it is hard to decide but try to find some time alone and ask yourself who's more important, I am sure she'll find the right answer.

This is weird situation if your friend loves two person at the same time.I think the person with whom she is getting married might not be her dream person or is not what she wants.She feels satisfied with the other guy she talks too.Again I think it is just attraction towards another guy that she is having. You cannot love two person at same time and if you do I doubt you love any of them.It is mere infatuation.

yes and No...it is not exactly possible........however.Its doable.......as long as both of these "lovers'are oblivious to the situation then its ok...but i'm not an expert...So..what do I know?

I also feel that your friend is not doing the right thing. Loving two persons at the same time could be dangerous and if she is caught, she may lose both of them.

If you were spending time with both people intimately, it is certainly possible to love both of them. I was in this very situation myself several years ago. In order to tell this story, I have to admit that I was cheating on a lover with another woman, but that was years ago when I was very young, and both women have since forgiven me for my infidelity. Unfortunately, however, I did not end up marrying either of them. LOL At the time, though, I must say that I loved both women, which made the pain of losing both of them at the same time that much harder to bear. It took me a long time to get over this situation. I met another woman a couple of years after this happened. I married her and stayed with her for ten years. During this time, I never cheated on my wife, but we recently separated for other reasons. During the time we were married, I often thought of how things would have been different if I had ended up marrying one of these other women instead, even though it has been close to fourteen years since this happened. Even though I loved another woman faithfully for over ten years, I have never forgotten these other two women, so apparently, it is also possible to have LASTING feelings for two lovers at one time…

I was thinking about the same thing today in office when I saw one of my friends flirting around with a guy in office. And the friend I am talking about here is committed since last 5 years. People sometimes want all the attention of the world and they do this. They want to take advantage of people around them and then ultimately end up in huge trouble. Your friend is doing the exact same thing and I doubt she will be in trouble soon.

There is a show on TLC called SisterWives. The polygamist is on live television with all of his wives and children. Eventhough it's permissable to him, some don't like it!

I don't know. I mean I have never been in that situation but there was this girl in our school and she had 3 boyfriends at the same time . Really, to be honest, then I was having problem with the one and only boyriend I had, I don't know how she manages to take care of all it at once.

very complex situation. You know you love and like two people is very difficult. But to just one may be just a fad to another love. must understand who loves strong and true. This situation is quite common. Whenever you face a difficult choice to find the right solution, so good luck. Have a nice day!

Two lovers to people who aren't faithful eith their partner.We only one heart so I believe we must love only one. :)

of course it is possible to have two lovers. but this is not a right and good thing to be done. It's like cheating on two ppl that love you. It is impossible for us to love two guys at the same time, at least for me, it is impossible. Maybe she just dun feel like letting go any of them since they love her. Sometimes ppl are just too greedy, even though we already have a partner, we still think of getting a better one or making others to love her or him so that his or her partner will get jealous. Frankly speaking, i will consider them as players. Dun play with love, it is the most precious feeling in human. Without it, the world may be horrible.

People can, of course, and fall in love with 2 people, but you don't go to try to have at the same time two people, it will only make you more pain. When you fall in love with two people at the same time, can only choose to give up one of them, I think you love and families more important to you!

Ya sure it is possible

I truly believe that when u feel what true love is, when you have that kind of relationship already then that's the time you stop looking for someone else. Personally, I could not afford to being close with another man if I'm having an exclusive relationship, esp. with her situation that she's about to get married. I just wish she can settle it up and clear her mind and heart and able to choose who's really the one for her.

Sh needs to make up her mind who she wants to BE with. If she is just talking to another guy and not getting involved with him that is one thing. But if she is sleeping with both she needs to quit playing with their emotions and just choose one.

I personally think it is not possible to be "IN Love" with two people at the same time. I feel that when you are truly in love with someone, that person becomes the center of your life and that is all you want to be with is them, when you just love someone you dont feel that way. I do believe you can have love and care for more than one person at a time. I hope she knows that the truth always comes to light and she is the only one who is going to lose in the end.

Unfortunately for your friend, it sounds like she's using some amount of logical fallacy to justify her belief. While it is entirely possible to love more than one person in the context of a romantic setting, most people are too worried about social mores and taboos. There are communities around the web (may be NSFW, be advised, due to the more open-minded nature of the subject and about any other mores and taboos that are frequently broken) about polyamory. Polyamory, meaning love for more than one person, is something that can be successful, but it requires an open level of honesty and trust that most people cannot successfully manage.