Is it me or does being single suck?

United States
June 24, 2011 9:42pm CST
This is just a random thought. But being single sucks, in my opinion. I mean I have a lot of female friends which takes up my time but I am longing for just one special woman. A woman I can share my life with and possibly settle down. Is it the weather making me feel this way, I honestly dont know. For the past year now I have been content with being single especially after dealing with the wrong women time after time. Now I think its time, am I the only one that feels this way? Just a random thought.
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• United States
25 Jun 11
Hi mrporter2011, I don't think it's the weather that is making you feel that way, I think it is a very natural and common feeling to have that special someone to share things with. Being single does not suck, it is the time you have to devote to finding out more about who you are and enjoying life as single , getting yourself ready hopefully for that special lady to come along. You have to be able to love and enjoy life on your own, before becoming part of couple. Now this is not to say it will take a long time to find that special lady, it could very well happen the next hour, the next day or maybe even a week from now. I have also been in bad relationships and I am enjoying my life as a single and finding out more about me and what I like and what I don't like daily. If you can't find someone who will love and respect you and treat you with the love, and respect and the kindness we all deserve, then it is best to be by yourself. It's best not to rush into something that could be disastrous. I kind of think we both have been there as they say and done that.
• United States
25 Jun 11
I agree with Rubie, life doesn't suck when you are alone... it doesn't have to. You can be content to be alone or you can begin to refine your idea of the type of woman you want to be with .. look for women with the qualities you want. You may have to date a lot of women to find the right one.. but I would just be yourself and be honest and create friendships with women and then move on from there when appropriate.
• Australia
25 Jun 11
Yes i have been in alot of bad relationships too, it seems i am attracted to the worng type of boys... bad boys. I hate being single but dont trust in anyone enough to believe in them anymore. It's a catch 22 as i am lonely when i go to bed every night and could rekindle the love with my ex who is also missing me but shows me no respect. Its hard decision to make, being loveless is a bad feeling and you can't shake it off easily, you can only try to find something to smile about.
• United States
25 Jun 11
I think it is better to be single and alone than to be in a loveless relationship. If there is no love it is pretty much like being by yourself anyway.
• United States
29 Jun 11
I was like this and it was not all that bad. I think of it this way. You don't have anyone nagging you about the places you want to go. You get to come and go as you please. You don't have to clean up after anyone but you. You don't have extra noise to bother you in the house. I can go on for days. I am not single anymore and it is a great feeling. I am just not liking the part where he always wants to know where I am not that I am doing anything wrong.
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
nah.. i dont think so.. hehe for me it's a time to savor your freedom.. no "honey where are you?" "honey who's with you?" and all those sorts of stuff. though it's really great to have a partner as well, i can say just be happy being single than force yourself on having a partner and later on realizing the the girl/boy you "love" is again, not the right one... :)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Being single has a lot of good things in store too. The feeling of independence and in control of yourself and your life makes being single great. Just enjoy first being single. But do note that there will come a time when you will feel lonely. You will eventually feel a need to have a partner in life and when that happens you better not hinder the feeling. Every now and then I feel the same way as you are feeling now especially with this gloomy and rainy season. Just stick with your goals and let the right person come at the right time. Of course, this also entails you to do the right actions to that right person at the right time. Haha!
• United States
25 Jun 11
I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person, but when you find that right person everything gets right with the world. You may be longing for that special woman, and then when you have her you might not want to move forward.... that happens a lot where men want women in a long term relationship but they don't commit. Then sometimes too, men get involved with women who are not ready to commit to them... I hope you do find fulfillment in your life and find the right woman to spend the rest of your life with.
@insulin (2481)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
For being a long time single then it's surely suck.Just look for that special person or? Is it that difficult? Try to mingle around and maybe you can look for that special person who can understand you in every way but anyway love is everything and love is in the air!
@GemmaR (8526)
25 Jun 11
I think that being single for a long time is a bad thing, but there is nothing wrong with getting to know yourself again after you've just got out of another relationship. Some people just try to be in a relationship all of their lives without really considering why they feel this way, or what it might be like if they were single for just a little while. I spent the first four months of this year being single, and I managed to lose a lot of weight, earn a lot of money, start looking for a new house, and I am happier now in my new relationship than I have been for a long time.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
yes. i does sucks especially when you miss the feeling of care by your side. concern and of hope of the foreseeable future for the both of you.for man is created for with a companion, so it is deep in our nature that we need somebody to strengthen us when we are weak and who needs ours in return,
@ladybug565 (2217)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I love being single. There are some things that I miss about being in a relationship but there are alot of things I dont miss. I have been in alot of bad and hurtful relationships so I would just rather not ever go through any of it again.
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
I think being single doesn't suck. I think being single is the time for you to discover more about yourself and what's your weakness or strengths or whatever. I think it's a time for your personal growth. Some people grow without needing a partner in their life. I mean maybe it's best for you to be single at this time because there's something that you should do or change about yourself right now. It might also be the reason why had not so good relationships in the past. Analyze yourself and the relationships you've had in the past, pin point what's wrong. It might be them or it might be you who's wrong, you just don't know it. And most of all, learn to love yourself more but don't be selfish of others. If you found out what's wrong with the relationships you've had in the past or if you found out that it's really you that's wrong, it'll be easier not to make mistakes anymore in your future relationship. Good luck.
@SIMPLYD (88343)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
There will always be a point in a single's life to long for someone to share his/her life with. This is natural as we grow old and have experienced all the good times of being single. We now long for someone who we can grow old with , have a family and share whatever we have in life and most of all take care of each other when we grow old.