Can't control myself - I want to message my boyfriend!!!

@dream_ozn (1758)
Singapore
June 26, 2011 9:14am CST
Sometimes i just feel like calling my boyfriend, SMS him. However, I don't want to appear clingy and I think it is necessary for me to give him some space. But, I really feel like messaging him and its taking me a lot of effort to contain myself. Do you experience such a situation too? What would you do?
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13 responses
@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
3 Jul 11
why dont you message him already. whenever i am in the mood to send him a message, i would. i will not think what he will say or how he interprets my affection. then its up to him. why control your feelings and you simply want to just let him know how you are feeling... has he said not too send him any message? I WOULD REALLY SUGGEST THAT YOU go ahead and let him feel you love him send him those messages even if it clogs his phone!!! haha =) goodluck girl.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
4 Jul 11
Sometimes I'm afraid I will get too irritating and thus will refrain myself from messaging him too much. But like what you say, I should let him feel that I love him when sending those messages to him. Doubt he will not like it!
@jacklintan (1302)
• Malaysia
27 Jun 11
Don't "chase" after the man. Let them chase you instead ;)
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
4 Jul 11
Hi jacklintan, You are just so right. We should not chase after the man, it should be the other way round. Any tips?
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
you actually just wanted to say how you feel and that you misses him. Go and text him if you want. But, if he started to tell you that he doesn't want receiving more text from you in a day then you should adjust too. it's a matter of checking first if you think he will like receiving more of your sweet notes or not.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
4 Jul 11
I not really sure about him. Sometimes he's fine with it while at other times he's don't really like it. Guys are guys and sometimes i don't know what he want too
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
I don't think there is any harm in SMS or calling him if you have something to share or something to tell him, or even if you just feel like communicating. But is it just because you are bored? If it is just because you are bored, then you might want to put some effort into trying to find something else to do as well.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
4 Jul 11
Hi cutepenguin, You are right. I really need to start finding things for myself to do rather than just keep thinking of him and hoping that he will reply me when I'm bored. I really should not depend on him for too much. Unless there is something important to tell him, there's no point calling him since he don't tell me much of his stuff too. Anyway, I really need to stop bothering so much about him and start finding my own things to do.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
27 Jun 11
I would resist that. Not being able to control myself is a very bad sign. It would make me question if I was not in love, but rather infatuated with someone. That's not good, and normally ends badly. I want to be in control of myself at all times and in all situations.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Yes, it usually ends up badly because this might not be real love and I do too, at all times, want to be in control of myself. Thank you andy, for reminding me that I need remind myself that i can control.
@aisha209 (45)
• United States
27 Jun 11
There is nothing wrong with that he should be happy. Maybe you should try and go to school for that. They can make pretty good money.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Go to school? Aisha, Perhaps you want to further explain your point?
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
i have been like that when we were new and was a bit uncomfy with us being far away from each other. when i got myself a job and got busy with my life, i finally found myself not texting him and even forgetting about him which is wrong i know that is why i always call him once a day. so if you dont like doing that, just keep yourself busy.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Definitely, when we are kept busy, we'll forget that we miss him and then the urge to message him won't be as strong. So as you mention, it's a good thing to keep ourselves busy so at least we will do our own stuff.
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
It is not bad to call or text him from time to time. Especially on days that you will not be able to see him due to work. I think it will just mean that you care for him and constatntly thinks of him. Send him a sweet text once a day. I suggest every morning, so that he would know that he is the first thing on your mind when you wake up. However, try to avoid calling or texting him every hour of everyday. This would seem that you are monitoring or controlling. You would not want him doinng that to you as well right?
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Yea, calling him or texting him every hour of the day definitely seems like I'm controlling him and I don't want to appear like that. It's really irritating and i know it. Yep, but it's no harm sending him a sweet message just to let him know I'm thinking of him.
@dyeni23 (128)
26 Jun 11
Seriously, that's sweet. But too much, as we all know, isn't good. Some guys tends to be irritated and think of it as "clingy". A little space wouldn't hurt :)
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Definitely, i need to give him some space. I need to be independent and not be clingy. it's not good in that way. It's better to build up the atmosphere and then let it out when me meet rather than SMS-ing him all the time.
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Hi, I would be happy receiving your SMS if I am your BF. C'mon send him a message now and tell what you feel. There's no harm in that. Boys always love to receive messages from their GF.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
Hi, thanks for letting me know that BF loves receiving messages from GF. But, what i'm worried over here is that when will it be too much?
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
That happens to me as well. I feel like calling and monitoring every move he has to make sure that he's not doing any other stuff. But it's actually an immature thing to do so. Guys like it when their girl does their own thing and have a sense of independence. Give yourself a little time to enjoy your life even without him. Most guys does not find it pretty if their girlfriends are clingy and don't do other stuff other than them. It's normal to miss him every now and then but wouldn't it be more fulfilling if you allow him to be missed by you?
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
That's right, it would be much more fulfilling to let him miss me rather than show that i miss him everytime. Exactly, I just want to make sure that he does not do other things and that he does not do things that I don't like specifically, which like what you mention, really immature and i have to change this habit. It would not be good to appear clingy and we girls need to be independent and do our own stuff rather than always being concerned with what our partner is doing.
@adex19 (114)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 11
well if you truly love your boyfriend you should not hide anything from him. you should call him very time you feel like. i call my girlfriend very second most guy don't like when a girl hide her feeling form them you should tell him how you feel that make the relationship strong
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
27 Jun 11
You are right, I should not hide anything from him. I should just call him when I feel like it. However, won't you feel irritated if your girlfriend keeps calling you? Or if you are out with your friends?
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
4 Jul 11
yes I experienced that too. it depends on the guy. if he is OK with constant calls and texting then I will keep doing that. if he doesn't like it, I will then find something else to occupy my time.