Selfishness - have you been selfish?

United States
June 26, 2011 10:45pm CST
I think that everyone does something selfish at least once in their lifetime, whether they realize what they were doing was selfish or not. Nobody is perfect. Do you agree? Is there anything you've done in the past that could be considered selfish? What was it? How do you feel about what you did? Would you have done something differently? I admit, I've done plenty of selfish things in my lifetime. Too many to count! However, I do realize that some of the things I've done in the past was selfish, and I try my best to not do anything that could be considered selfish. Although, I can't say I will never do anything selfish again... because like I said, nobody is perfect.
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@megamatt (14331)
• United States
27 Jun 11
Of course I am selfish. All humans are selfish by nature. It is something that we try not to be all of the time, but it is something that creeps on. If you ever have had a thought about how this thing benefits you, then you are in fact rather selfish in many ways. In fact a lot of the times we think of ourselves and how things can benefit us if we do this action. Granted, at the base level, there is nothing wrong with that. I mean, what happens to other people, sure if something bad happens to them, we feel bad about them, but when something bad happens to us, it can really be a downer on our life. The fact of the matter is we have to draw the fine line by helping ourselves and hurting other people. Hurting other people to help ourselves, yeah that is the most supreme form of being selfish and that is not a good thing for sure. However, any time we do help someone, there is some thought, whether off handed or otherwise in the back of my mind, that if we ever need any help, that if this person is a true friend, they would return the favor. Its not something a lot of us are proud of, but its there and we are helping someone, because down the line, it could potentially be a benefit to us. People are self serving, selfish, whatever in general. That is what has allowed us to survive.
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@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
I actually grew up selfish, and boy, it took a lot of hard work and determination over the last 15 years for me to change my whole way of thinking. I used to go as far as getting as much as I could for myself and taking advantage of people as well, it was a horrible feeling. Last going off, I felt so dirty inside that I couldn't handle it anymore, and I knew that I had to change or else I would have nobody at all in my life. Today, I'm still suffering from the - well, not sure what to call it, but I'll say aftermath - of my past selfish life. Today, people wouldn't believe me if I said I was brought up selfish, and the things I used to do for my own gain. To this day I still feel dirty and awful inside whenever I receive something, and I feel guilty thinking that it should be ME giving to THEM. I won't even try a sample at a food kiosk anymore unless I know for sure I'm going to buy the product.
• United States
27 Jun 11
Hi Masihi, Thanks for responding! It sounds like you are doing really well! Admitting that you used to be so selfish in the past, and putting forth effort to change is a wonderful thing! You should be very proud of yourself, and not be so hard on yourself. :) You sound like a great person, no matter how you were in the past... it's the present that counts. ;)
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@Masihi (4228)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
I truly do appreciate your kind words of encouragement, I'd like to find a balance in everything, truly, but like everything else, it does take time. I don't think I'll ever forget my past, but I'd like to at least be able to use it as a guide, or learning experience so that I can reach out to others who are struggling with selfishness.
• United States
27 Jun 11
No problem dear, Of course you'll never forget your past. That's a very hard thing for anyone to do. However, I am sure that one day, you will be able to look back and know that you are a changed person... for the better and that you did it all by yourself. You sound like a very strong, and intelligent person. ;) You'll be okay.
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
27 Jun 11
I have done things that are selfish and like you to many times to count but now I try to be more aware of what I am doing and I am sure since I am only human I will make the mistake again and I always try not to.I hope that you have a great day.
• United States
27 Jun 11
Hi funnysis, you sound a lot like me my friend! ;)
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
28 Jun 11
Thats good then at least I am like someone LOL glad to meet you and hope that you have a great day.
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Ohh I am guilty, i admit i have done selfishness in my life. Most of those involves love affairs heheh. I am selfish when i am in love. I want him to focus on me most of his time. When he wakes up in the morning, i want him to text me, this way i am so selfish and being demanding.. He is not complaining, anyway.:)
• United States
27 Jun 11
It's always good to admit our faults! ;)
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
26 Sep 11
A little selfish not hurt! Be less selfish is not taught in any school. And that's not at all accidental. The reason is that nobody is interested to make some independent men, who think more about themselves. Because who knows what he wants really, who does not have a goal toward which to proceed without hindrance, even if this involves a bit of selfishness, is a "victim", a person can be exploited by others . Would be nice to think of us first? It is actually superfluous to ask someone to think first and do it because that, even if unconsciously. Yes, we are selfish, even if we do not realize. Often make a compromise between our desires and reality. Ideas about man kind, honest at all times, honest, selfless are deeply rooted in each of us and make us behave accordingly, even if it is in our disadvantage. Come to depend on our weaknesses that are exploited by others. However, should rise around us a wall of protection to defend us from the risk of sacrificing our desires and goals for the interests of others. But should be less selfish and in love, and friendship that the two may be tool of manipulation. For, without harmony "supply and demand" in terms of feelings, no love and no friendship can not be sustainable. So, a little selfish not hurt!
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I admit I am selfish at times! Especially when it comes to my family, I make sure they have what they want before I consider sharing with others. It's like I make my family most comfortable first before others. Like my husband handed in some brand new shirts that he is willing to give to my brother and guy cousins. But I preferred to give all of it to my brother. But I think it's just a mild king of selfishness. :)or is there such?
• India
28 Jun 11
Yeah many a times I have been slefish in my lifetime. When things are not right track I sometiess become too selfish. Honestly speaking iam very selfish in terms of money I barely spent any when my bro or friend ask I hardly give them money, because I feel giving hard earned money becomes very difficult for me thus I dont know what others think but in terms of money iam a lot conscious.
@toniganzon (49185)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Being greedy and selfish is part of man's nature. How we handle and learn from them defines our character. All of us have ambitions and to reach those, in one way or another we have to be selfish. Nobody and nothing is perfect in this world according to how society or morality defines perfection. But we can try to correct our mistakes. Like what you've said, you were able to realize it and are trying to avoid it.
• China
27 Jun 11
Being selfish is just the human nature.I think this benefits us a lot when we involving.But
• United States
27 Jun 11
I know I have been selfish towards myself always doing for others and leaving myself out. I was told by my daughter the other day that i need to stop. but,that won't happen anytime soon. People are always coming to me when things go wrong and I am always there to do what I can.
@GemmaR (8526)
27 Jun 11
I think that everybody is selfish at some point whether they realise it or not. As children, we are all ego-centric, meaning that we are unable to think about anyone else apart from ourselves, and we only really become unselfish when we're around the age of 5 when we start school. I am a rather selfish person in some ways, and tend to do things whenever I want to do them, however I would never do anything which I thought would annoy or upset any of my friends or family. It is important to think about our own behaviour though, and try to stop being selfish because we would not like it if other people behaved that way to us.
@vindiku (256)
• India
27 Jun 11
Hi, Its good you realized the fact, but as per me, I would say that you haven't realized the whole fact. The actual fact is each one of us is selfish and we are selfish all the time. Selfishness means caring about nothing else other than self. One one is caring about self only. Can you just imagine even a single moment, where you have haven't thought of your self. It happens by default. There is always an "I" or "ME" factor running through our minds and that is the factor which helps us survive. We always do what we think is right, not what others think is right? I always eat what I think is good, not what others think is good. These are just some examples for you to understand that, whatever we think or do, there is always and "I" or "ME" factor. Its absolutely necessary to survive in such a fast world. Have a nice day.
• United States
27 Jun 11
I think everyone has been selfish a time or two in their life. It's human nature. I do agree nobody is perfect. I do teeny tiny things that I feel guilty about later on, like if I'm doing laundry, and I'm almost done with all five loads, but my favorite show comes on so I don't do the last load of laundry.
@naija4real (1293)
27 Jun 11
I have been selfish in the past when it comes to money. I do not like giving money to my relation even when I have a lot of them. I started changing the habit when the pastor of my church preached on it during church service. I now help my friends and relation and I also give to the Lord.