A not-so responsible mom?....what do you think?

@whengcat (1458)
Philippines
June 27, 2011 2:27am CST
For most of us moms, our family comes first especially our children right? we see to it that our children are well taken care of, nurtured and everything but what do you think of this mom?: She's a well dressed woman from head to toe, looking so fresh everyday with her make-up on. But here comes her children, wearing old clothes, sometimes almost torn and dirty. You can mistaken them from any street children actually. I just can't help but wonder, she's taking her time to take care of herself and left her children uncared for....such an act of selfishness don't you think?
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@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
there are tons of mother like that.. we even have a neighbor who has all these new clothes (trust me, you wont see her repeat any clothes she already used) pampered from head to foot, but when her children comes.... you'll see how the mosquito and bugs love them.. they have these black marks all over their body and you can say that those are from insect bites, some are still fresh and red and some are not. they clothes dont match as if they were the ones who picked them, (her children are still young by the way). i dont consider is as selfishness, for me it's just plain irresponsibility...
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Same here, she's also a neighbor and I just can't help but wonder everytime I see her kids like that, I pity those kids...
@tammy27 (1247)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
i dont know how she raise her kids when they're inside the house, so i cant judge her that much about being a mother. but really, i cant help but pity those children as well. great thing she's not a Filipino... hehe
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
No. actually she's Filipino, she's my neighbor here in Laguna...I'm not totally judging her actually, I just can't understand why she takes seeing her kids like that while she's so dressed up everyday.
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
That is so shameful of her. I won't do such act like that. My daughter first before my pleasure. How can a mom so be so responsible? I know a mom like that also. She is our neighbor then, one morning when my daughter and I was going to school, her daughter saw us pass by their house, this girl is staring at my daughter maybe because she's trying to ask herself why my daughter is so neat while she, wearing an unpressed uniform, wrinkled pair of socks and I think she doesn't even bother to comb her hair or take a bath first before going to school. I pity her.My heart was really broken to see situations like this.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Very sad indeed. Children that are not well taken care for sometimes go worse as they grow up.
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I believe that if all of us can be a better parents to our children, no one will grow up bad and this world will be filled with kind person.
@Rainegurl (2158)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Maybe it's a sign that she is a bit irresponsible. But then again, we do not know the real reason. I am a new mom and I try to do everything for my daughter. However, I could still see a some lapses. A bug bite here and there, nails a little too long, et cetera. I try to work too and I leave her to the care of other people for a few hours a day. They are a gem but sometimes I see my baby with mismatched clothes, dirty hands or a diaper left too long. In short, I cannot make everything as perfect I wanted it to but I try my best. I hope the lady you are talking about is not so heartless as she sounds. Have a nice day!
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
You have a point there but this mom have lots of time with her kids as I've seen it that's why I can't understand how she takes seeing her kids like that.
• United States
28 Jun 11
Hi Whengcat! That is just too sad and bad. I do agree with you. I was so well known for always having my kids neat and clean. This meant a lot to me because in a sense I was molding and teaching them how they too need to care for their own someday. I would never dress me before them and remember the days I spend countless hours getting them ready and then had to rush to get me ready. lol
@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Hello HWG Yeah, it's really mother instinct that sometimes we don't care how we look anymore and be so contented and proud to see how we brought up a nice young lady/gentleman
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Probably she's not that so irresponsible but maybe that has something to do with her age or lifestyle. Is she the younger type of mom. Probably she's still in the age of enjoying her youth that's why she might have taken the kids for granted especially with the way they look. But with due respect I am not in the position of questioning her what kind of mom is she with her kids. She probably might raised them well on her own manner.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I'm not totally judging her I just can't understand their situation. I mean she's got lots of time with her kids but she doesn't care too much.
@marnice (60)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
She's so irresponsible. As mom I think first my family too especially my daughter. I see to it that when we do out my daughter is well dressed.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Yeah, really true, eventhough we don't have much we still need to look neat and nice.
@vangie26 (449)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
It is a sign of being irresponsible being a mom if you let your children just take care of themselves., but in another way, we still don't really know the real reason behind them nor what really is going on inside their house. I knew someone who really can't find much time taking care of the kids because she has to work and honestly her work requires her to dress up coz i think she's on sales.. we just have to justify things..we may not know it but with the kids, they understand the situation why their mom is dressing up and not them.
@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
That I'm not sure also but I just can't understand why she takes seeing her kids like that.
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Hi Whengcat, Maybe, her Job requires her to wear good. As with her Children, they may be very active and wants to play every where. Under the Sun, Rain and Where else? LOL.. When I was a kid, I was very active. I used to play with my fellow kids at our backyard throwing clays. That may be the reason why some Moms just let their growing kids out with their old clothes on because they are very active. thanks Dennis
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Yeah, I get your point but i bet your mother will clean you before the day ends so that you'll be comfortable going to bed at night. But this kids, you'll see the clothes they wear yesterday is the same as they have today
@angelo315 (232)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Hello whengcat. Eventhough I am only a new mom, I know how to be a mother. I mean, I am not a supermother, I have lapses too. But I see to it that I (together with my husband) provide first the needs of our son rather than our own. He's our first priority. To be honest, the moment he's born (he's four months now) I was not able to buy any clothes, bags or shoes for me. I save our money for his monthly check-up and monthly vaccines. :) The girl you are talking about does not know the real meaning of motherhood. I am hoping that there will come a time that she will realize her shortcomings. :)
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Yeah, I agree with you, though we're not perfect moms, we should take good care of our children first before minding ourselves...
@Masihi (4227)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
Yiiiiiiiiiiiiiikessss!!!! That's a doozy right there!!! How can she do that? I don't understand! I don't even wear makeup myself because of letting the kids use the bathroom for their washing up and such. I can't understand this crazy selfishness this woman is going through, no matter how well-dressed and nice-looking she is, touting around her kids all dirty and such will make her look bad anyway. She'd better grow up soon and start taking care of her poor kids PRONTO! I'm now kinda worried of how she treats them at home or even what she feeds them.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Neither I can't understand her actions too, maybe she doesn't care at all?
@AishaBR (345)
• United States
30 Jun 11
I hate to see this. This knd of thing is crazy. I don't know how a mother that loves her child can do this. I have seen this on t.v. where the mother is looking good from head to toe but the child looks like they have on rags. As a mother I make sure my child is looking good everywhere we go even if Ilook a mess as long as my child has what he needs and looks well. I can't believe a mother would do that!
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• United States
30 Jun 11
It is lower than selfishness. It is abuse and she should be stopped.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
For me they are too young to know how she is enter with be careful you might be full.